If I asked my girl not to be all touchy feely in public because I get bothered by it and she continues to do it day in and day out, isnt she not respecting my boundaries ?
2006-08-26 14:17:44 · 15 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe it or not, this could be a major problem for the two of you. You are right, she is not respecting your boundries, but the fact that you do not enjoy public showing of affection and she does can be more of a problem than you think. If this is the only area that you two disagree, talk to her again and try to resolve the issue, compromise. Promise to show her more private affection, but if she persists then she may be testing boundries with you, how far can she go before you loose your temper? That can be a big problem.
2006-08-26 14:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mary D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. You might tell her that if she insist of being clingy that you will cool the situation. Also, though make sure you aren't being cold. If you are willing to show some affection e.g. hold hands occasionally or hug her in public but not willing to play tonsil hockey than I think it means your more secure. Some people seem to need to proove to the world they can get someone, other people don't feel the need to proove anything. Tell her there is a time and a place and if she can't respect your space you won't give her the time. Good luck!
2006-08-26 14:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are willing, look at it from her point of view...not that i'm taking sides. If you deny her affection in public she might think that you are embarressed to be seen with her, which i know very well is not true. I also understand your side though because i have been there. Let her know your reasons for being uncomfortable and ask her to respect your wishes. I think you are right to think it is not respecting what you want. Make sure you aren't sending her mixed messages.
2006-08-26 14:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by The best Me there is!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Dude, you have intimacy issues, and her wanting to "touchy feely" in public shouldn't bother you in the least.
You need to adapt.
2006-08-26 14:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but being touchy feely and acknowledging that you two are together are two different things, so I hope that you are not ignoring that!
2006-08-26 14:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you totally! I'm not a big fan of PDA either. It's ok to hold hands or a peck on the lips is cool. She should understand what you are asking of her. I met this guy one day for coffee and he was all over me like we were behind closed doors. Total turn off!! I never called him back! Stick to your guns.
2006-08-26 17:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by marie167 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE FOR TOUCHY FEELY AND IN PUBLIC IS NOT IT. IF SHE DONT LISTEN, TELL HER YOU WONT GO OUT IN PUBLIC WITH HER UNTIL SHE RESPECTS YOUR FEELINGS.
2006-08-26 14:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by deby k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it makes u uncomfortable and that you wont go out with her if she continues to... and if she really likes u... and doesnt want your body then she should stay... and dont blame me if she goes
2006-08-26 14:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since when do girls "respect your boundaries"? if you don't like her, dump her. if you do, you're gonna have to live wtih some public displays of affection.
2006-08-26 14:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by richard457 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes she is.You need to make it clear it makes you feel uncomfortable and if she continues you may need to split for awhile.
2006-08-26 14:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋