I am a very very very friendly person, some say that sometimes when i just interact with guys it seems more like i' m flirting with them than just a having a regular chat. My boyfriend get jealous quite easily and i think he wants me to change,
Questions:
Why is he so jealous, does he not trust me?
Whats your opinion, should i try to fix the problem and change or let him accept that this is just me?
2006-08-26 14:16:57 · 14 answers · asked by Wonderful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant and shouldnt change the way you are. He is jealous and some jealousy to a degree is good.. but too much is bad. I think maybe you should just tell him that you are not trying to make him jealous but you are friendly person. As far as the trust issue.. I dont know if he trust you or not. He may have been hurt in the past by someone and trust could be an issue no matter what the circumstances are. Given time.. he will either learn to trust and accept you for who you are or move on. Good luck.
2006-08-26 14:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not so much that he does not trust you. It is that he doesn't trust the friends you talk to who so happen to be guys. I was once in your shoes and he just has to learn to accept that that is part of your personality. Just be aware that you can attract the wrong kind of attention and you might have some guys with broken hearts along that road but you will roll with the punches if you are loyal to your man. I work in a company that is 97% men, do you think my fiancee first liked that idea - no. Just keep encouraging him and letting him know he is your one and only and he will deal with it in his own way and not distress you for "being yourself". Talk it through so he knows your good intentions and that you don't mean to hurt him. Give it some time too so he can cope and this should subside. This is more common that you might know. Good Luck to you and your man!
2006-08-26 14:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by LNZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok if you are a very very friendly person, but try to put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes.....if some say that you look like you're flirting when you're just chatting with guys....maybe your boyfriend has a legitimate beef....
If the way you talk to him is special and you make him feel that he is the only one....he wont be jealous....
2006-08-26 14:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by intqs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times when men get "jealous" it isn't because they don't trust you. Boyfriends get angry with a flirty (skanky) girl because it's a sign of disrespect to her boyfriend. You're boyfriend probably has people saying to him "Man your girl is a hoe, she flirts with everybody" or "I saw your girl flirting with so and so" I man doesn't want to hear rumors and he doesn't want a girl who everybody thinks is loose. You're disrespecting him by flirting or "interacting" with other guys. That's fine when you're single but when you're in a relationship it's very very disrespectful. Trust me, Even if you were single and you're friendly with guys, men will get the impression that you're a hoe. Sorry if that upsets you but it's just the way men feel.
2006-08-26 14:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by krayze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't intend to be flirtous and it is just part of your personality, it's not your fault (you probably don't want to be or intend to appear this way when you talk to guys and it is very hard for you to change because you probably don't even notice that you are that way. I mean it is just who you are. You should explain to him that you don't intend to be this way and that he is the only guy that you like. It is just who you are. If he doesn't understand and trust you, I don't know what to say except maybe he isn't right for you (because he doesn't understands, accepts, or trusts you).
2006-08-26 14:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous is an ax for all relationships I don't' know how friendly you are with these guy but maybe you carry to far,talk to your b/f and see whats what.everyone needs friends but when you have someone in your life you may have to lighten up a little if you want this relationship to work.Again talk to him,does he have girls that are just friends if so does that bother you.Communicate with each other and work it out.
2006-08-26 14:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? There is a difference between being friendly and being flirty. Be considerate of his feelings.
2006-08-26 14:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll i think you have to stay yourself because if he can't trust you then this relationship is not going to last because of honesty... he is your boyfriend because he loves you so he has to accept you for who you are... as long as you know your not cheating just continue to do what you got to do, but just don't try to do it too flirty because you know your boo is jealous...
2006-08-26 14:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by precious_dyme15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is insecure. lose the boyfriend. he is controlling and he is trying to change you. and you know what? that which he is trying to change is what probably attracted him in the first place.
2006-08-26 14:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself,dont change for him,he is the insecure one.
2006-08-26 14:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋