mine tells me I'm jealous, which I am, but it's because I've had bad relationships in my past, plus my dad cheated my mom. what can I do to trust him or any other guy?
2006-08-26 14:03:15 · 4 answers · asked by blessed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to find a guy that you know you can trust. If he's the one, tell him about why ur insecure and see what happens. If not, find somebody else that makes you feel secure.
Good luck!
2006-08-26 15:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best and only way is start to communicate with your boyfriend. Having an open line of communication with your partner is one the key building blocks of a relationship. The more you chose to hold back the more problems you are going to cause for yourself and him. I can understand how you feel about the situation regarding your parents because that also happend to me. This was a traumatic event in your childhood or teenage years which has left it's mark on you as an adult. I would suggest some counseling to try and over come these feelings if you can afford it.
One of the hardest things to do is to let go of the past. Previous relationships create templates for our actions in the future. This is unfortunate because your future partners must deal with your feelings that you have about your partners and the situtations you were in.
Another key step in feeling more secure in your relationship is start looking at yourself. Not all but some of the issues you maybe dealing with are brought on by you, they might not even exist in the current relationship you are having. It's important to know that not every man or woman is the same and that using the same check list you created mentally in the previous relationship will not work for this new partner. Ultimately it is unfair to your new partner and to yourself for bringing the past into your new relationship.
In conclusion I suggest that the two of you make time once a week for 30 minut to an hour to discuss how the two of you feel about the relationship. This is not a ***** session or a blow up session either. This time would be used to pick a topic that you feel is either a stressor to you or a stress in the relationship that you want to address. During this 30-60 talk only chose one issue or topic to deal with. It is hard to stay on task because many issues maybe interlinked but to keep the conversation mature and healthy it is best to keep it to one issue or topic. The key is to speak your mind completely on the issue, let your parnter listen to what you have to say then let them respond with out interruption.
There is a great deal of respect involved in a relationship as well work. If one person makes the decision not respect the other and understand this point then there really is no relationship at all.
Thanks for reading and take care.
RRL
2006-08-26 14:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by rangeroverlad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to a ob/gyn doctor asap to find out if you are pregnant,get yourself educated about sex and above all stds and get on a form of birth control NOW thats when you will get some real answers and also if your bf doesnt respect you enough to protect you as well as himself w/at least condoms Maybe you should rethink your relationship w/him.
2006-08-26 14:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him cheat on u is part of a boy's life. They cannot live without cheating. As long as he comes back home and loves u then it don't matter. If he never comes back, that means he truly don't love u and just dump him burn all his pictures cry eat chocolate and look for another boy that does not look like him at all so that u won't remember him nomore.
2006-08-26 14:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by d8jk 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋