she moved to another state and left me all alone and im her only child and i have a baby ! i think that was selfish of her ?
please no rude answers
2006-08-26 14:03:03 · 19 answers · asked by SImmone W. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im over 18 and had my son way after she moved with my fiancee
i just feel that since im her only daughter she should not of left to a place where she has to work twice as hard !
2006-08-26 14:11:40 · update #1
didnt expect for her to take care of my child thats not her respnsibility but i would like my son to know her more !
2006-08-26 14:13:26 · update #2
If she has shown absoultely no interest in you or her grandchild and this has been a re-occuring situation throughout most of your life then you may have a "toxic relationship" as Dr. Phil says and should just avoid contact with her as much as you can.
If however she had a perfectly valid reason for moving, and still shows interest in you and your child - calls to see how you are, was there for the birth, visits if she is able, tells you she loves you ,etc. then you may just be feeling bitter and abandoned. But just remember that she is not only your mother -she is a woman too and she probably had a valid reason for wanting to move. She has been caring for you her whole life - maybe she had always wanted to make this move and waited until she thought you could take care of yourself. Take it as a compliment - she now sees you as grown up. It doesn't mean she doesn't care anymore.
In either case, don't call her for a while and wait til she calls you to see how you are doing. And then let her know that she hurt you.
2006-08-26 14:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that her descision to move has anything at all to do with you? If you have a baby, I'm assuming that you're an adult, and that she has finished raising you, right? So why do you think that she's being selfish? I hope that you don't feel this is a rude answer, but really, I don't understand why you feel she's being selfish. If you were a kid writing this, and mom abandoned you when she should be there raising you, that would make a lot more sense, but it sounds like you need to reasses your mother's role in your life. It's time to step up to the plate and be a mature self-sufficient adult, and not expect your poor mom to spend the rest of her life planning everything she does around you. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you really need to reread your question and think about how it sounds!
2006-08-26 14:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation like why she moved , your situation and how old you are and why you didn't go with her. Does you mom know how you feel about the situation and what are her feelings about it. If your mother shows no sympathy and the situation calls for it after you let her know how it hurt you separate yourself from her and just make sure you do what you do best. Care for your child and be the best person possible and show her you can do it on your own you just didn't want to have to. Don't completely close the relationship though. Know that if anyting happens you did your best.
2006-08-26 14:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I can understand wanting to be near your mom and having her get to know her grandchild. But on the other hand, I don't really consider moving a huge reason to stop communicating with someone you love. Unless she told you that she was moving specifically to get away from you, you should still talk to her and try to have a relationship with her.
Definitely talk to your mom, and let her know how you feel. You never know what can come of a good heart-to-heart!
Good luck!
2006-08-26 18:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by MountainChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18, then that would be selfish of her. If you are 18 and older, then you are old enough to get a job and take care of yourself and the baby that you laid down to create. Your baby is YOUR responsibility, not your moms.
2006-08-26 14:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Susan L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a little mean of you. You could have it worse. My mom cheated on my dad with some loser w/ no job and no house and probally on drugs. She was doing it for a while and then went on vacation and said it was with a girlfriend and we found out on fathers day. She ruined 28 years of marrage. I went a long time without talking to her. I finally let her back in to my kids life with supervised visits and she said one day that she wasnt coming up because coming to see her grandkids was taking time away from her boyfriend. What a Whorebag.
2006-08-26 14:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by tohellwitu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong to stop talking to your mother she has raised you and now it is time for her to live her life the way she see's fit and remember you only have one mother cherish her you never know what can happen. Something migth happen to her and you never get the chance to say you are sorry an have her in your life.life is to shot, to short to hold gruges make up with your mother and have the best relationship you can have with your mother.
Good Luck And God Bless You Both
2006-08-26 14:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by tmkhrstn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your mom and done raising you so she is free to do what she wants with her life. You may be mad at her for not being around but she has that right. I don't think you should stop talking to her because you never know what could happen in life. Should anything happen to her, you would feel awful that you stopped communicating with her for a reason like this...
2006-08-26 14:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_of_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if you love and miss her but maybe it's a good idea to get a little distance between the two of you. My mother is a bit "toxic" at times and emotionally bullies her children and grandchildren. Today we had another blow up and I am tired of it. Enjoy not having her so close. It's not always a good thing.
2006-08-26 15:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did your mom move to another state? Was it for job opportunities? Did she marry and accompanied her husband to the new destination?
I don't know all the details. But, try to keep in touch with your mom. I lost my mom to cancer earlier in the year. I miss her very much. Even if you talk to her by phone or by e-mail- you still have contact.
I know you miss her. I know what that's like. But, at least you can talk to your mom if you need her advice, tec.
think about it.
someday you and your baby can go an visit. It will be nice!
stay in touch, if possible, please.
2006-08-26 14:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Malika 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋