How can I get back on track with God?

Question

I've been a christian for 3 years and I'm struggling at the moment. I have a boyfriend who doesn't believe but sorta does. I'm not allowed to attend church and my family arn't christians

I've been struggling with the whole sex before marriage also

i love my boyfriend and he loves me. what's wrong with having a non christian boyfriend. in some wayss he believes but he has said in time hell believe. and i believe he will

my parents don't want me to got to church and please don't call me sweetheart i really don't like it.

my boyfriend is not stoping me from going to church he wants me to be happy and he knows i love and trust god. he understands and i gave him some verses to read which i know he'll do

there is no way i'm dumping my boy just cause he's not a christian as yet. i need him and he needs me.

I'm 18 and live at home and my boyfriend lives 2.5-3 hours away

the more answers i get the more u guys confurse me. why should i just leave my boyfriend? he'd be lost without me and i would too.

Answer 1

Only in and with Christ. You have been given many promises as a child of God, use them. As to temptations will you trust your own heart when God says this about it?-
Jeremiah 17:9
“ The heart is deceitful above all things,And desperately wicked; Who can know it?
Or will you trust your Heavenly Father who knows all things when He says:
Proverbs 3:5-7

Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct[a] your paths.
Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the LORD and depart from evil.
The struggles are to test your faith to see who you really believe and trust. You know the answer.

Answer 2

wow, so many answers and all different. I can see why they are just making you more confused. And I come from a family where everyone has different beliefs. And even church people sometimes don't understand.

You are at an age where you are trying to develop your own life and values. It looks like God has been leading you this far,, and He's not going to drop you now.

You know what you are supposed to be doing abut sex, but do you know why? If you and your boyfreind really love each other, you can wait till you get married and are ready to have a family.
The friendship that you and your boyfriend have is important. You don't want to lose that, or mess it up by messing around.

If you're not allowed to go to church it is harder, cuz we need to be in community. but you can just close you eyes and be with God too, and listen to Him as He speaks to your heart. And read some of the good classics.

do the best, the very best you can each day and things will turn out alright.. there is a saying, "Do your best and God does the rest"

Answer 3

Wow, we are almost the same person. My mom and I are both Christians while my dad is a non practicing Catholic and has threatened my mom with divorce if she goes to anything other than a Catholic church. So to keep him happy, we just don't go to Church. Meanwhile, I'm dating a non-Christian even though I know I shouldn't be and it's really rough on me. I know I should just break up with him but I care about him a lot and I'm always thinking I'm with him for some bigger reason. Or sometimes I think it's just a test and I'm miserably failing which makes me feel horrible.

So I answered this question basically to really tell you I don't have much of a definite answer. But you are not the only one going through this. All I can say is PRAY. Pray that God will show you what you need to do whether it be break up with your boyfriend or witness to him and your family. Pray fervently. Let Him know you want him to show you the way, place it in His hands. Dive into His Word as much as you can. I'll say a pray for you, too. Things are definitely rough when you are stuck in a rut with God. Trust me I know. I am trying desperately to take my own advice as well. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

I'm in a different situation of sorts, but hope that some of this helps. I've been married 7 months and my hubby is the same faith, but we have a few major differences in our beliefs, which it would be easy to start arguing and let them ruin our marriage, but I've chosen to leave them alone and let God work things out in time. However, I strongly recommend letting go of your bf at least temporarily till you are on the track you want to be. You will be surprised at how many differences can come up in a relationship, and religion can become a major issue. I've seen it split many couples. If you are struggling in your walk with God, the most awesome thing is to have a partner who is a believer and you can both strengthen and encourage each other.

As to your family, pray and be respectful. If your still at home, follow the rules unless they conflict with your conscience. Since your not allowed to attend church, have your own "church" at home by studying the Bible and praying. God will be with you and give you a precious experience.

Premarital sex? I was a virgin, but it was easy because I was sheltered and didn't have a lot of pressure to do stuff. Find where you stand and ask God to give you the answers you need when your asked. Even if you mess up, there's forgiveness and a clean slate. I'm soooo happy I waited!

Answer 5

yeah, like he said, repent!
Make an effort to follow Him. Get a Bible and read it as much as you can.
If your boyfriend doesn't believe then break it off and just be friends for now "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
Perhaps he can be lead to Christ as well, but a relationship between a believer and a non-believer (or, "sort of believer") isn't wise.
You can also pray to God for help and strength in seeking Him.
But He can't do ALL the work, it takes some work on your part.
Obedience and sacrifice.
Christian fellowship is good, but if you just have a Bible, that can do.
Read it and pray, give your life to Him.
He can help you with all your struggles!

Answer 6

You will probably receive so much religious mumbo jumbo garbage in response to your question, ranging from get rid of the evil boyfriend through to praying for your soul. Can’t you see through this garbage for goodness sake, can’t you? You decide what you want. Why would you possibly expect the religious nincompoops on Yahoo Answers or anywhere to know what’s best for you, they’ve all been brain-washed by religion.

The Bible is trash. The Bible is the biggest load of garbage and codswallop ever written by man, and I’m sure it will go down in history as the greatest load of gobbledygook ever to inflict such traumatic mental and physical damage on humanity, but still today, some people sadly believe the Bible to be true. That’s very sad indeed. Very sad.

When people quote various passages from the Bible, for example ...

Mathew 5:29-30 God encouraged self-mutilation.
Isaiah 13:15-18 God allowed women raped and little children slaughtered.
Genesis 6:11-17 and 7:11-24 God is the greatest mass murder in history.

What happens? Religious people pop up from under every stone with the same old garbage. “That was the old Bible, or we’ve changed the meaning, or wrong interpretation, or we’ve changed the context, or the quotes are out of context or or or, excuse after excuse.”

The fact is, they are Bible quotes, and the Bible is full of evil atrocities which religious people continually cover up, yet seem happy to drum into the minds of gullible little children. This is such a shameful disgrace in a civilised world.

If religious people are unable to apply commonsense and logic to develop a simple moral code to live by, then perhaps they could strip out of the Bible the evil, murders, rapes, abuse, and all traumatic references. Granted there will not be a lot left to read, but at least religious people may end up with a decent moral code to follow based on good, and not scare the living daylights out of innocent little children.

Go out and enjoy your life with your boyfriend and say "no to religion", you will find that you will become happier as time passes.

Answer 7

You are not alone with what is troubling your heart. Your Father is trying to get your attention by troubling your spirit. He loves you very much and wants you back in His arms.

How to get there? You already know the answer to your problem. You just typed it into your computer a few minutes ago.

You took the biggest step in your life when you gave yourself to God. Jesus Christ stepped in and took your place on that cross on Calvary's Hill.

Your live a finite existence. The means you are liable to die in the flesh at any time. Are you willing to give up life eternal with Jesus Christ for sex and having a boyfriend who kinda want to believe in God.

Do you know what kinda pregnant is? Its being pregnant.

There is no sin that you can commit while living under Grace that Jesus Christ has given us all that is not forgivable. You must truly have a repentive heart as it appears you do and go to the Father and ask Him to forgive you.

I know you will do the right thing else why would the Father call you.><>

Answer 8

Ok, you're really set on this. Instead of reading a book that was written over a thousand years ago, why don't you just talk to God directly and get the answer straight from the horse's mouth?

And by the way, you don't need to do any of the kneeling, hand folding, crossing, or any of that (it won't hurt if you do, but it's not really necessary). That was all made up by the church.

Answer 9

Remember that the most important relationship you can build is between you and Christ. It would be a blessing to have a boyfriend/spouse feel deeply for God, but as I personally know that isn't always possible.

My advice? Make Jesus your best friend. I like the song by Default titled "Count on Me". It's what I might envision Jesus saying to any of us.

Second, attending church services does not define who you are as a Christian nor make you any less of one. There are plenty of very dedicated Christians who do not attend worship services frequently. There is also an equal number of people attending service each week who don't have a clue about Jesus or God.

Life is going to be full of many challenges and worse, restrictions. But remember that no one can restrict your feelings or your heart. I applaud you for asking for support in your struggle and wish you the very best of luck. Remember, once a person figures out the significance of Christ and believes in Him, the 'game' isn't over. There is still the rest of the world left to deal with.

If you want any encouraging words, feel free to contact me. I'm not perfect, but I'm willing to listen.

Answer 10

What makes you think you are off track with God? Let me say this: if you *know* that God doesn't want you to do something you are doing, then the definition of Following Christ means that you obey him and stop. That's the whole LORD part of accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior. God is gentle with us. His words in our heart tend to be very simple. Most of the time it is "I love you. I really love you. Hey, did you know I love you? I love you. You can trust me, let _______ go, trust me because I love you." Sometimes the thing in the blank is a relationship, a sin, or a thing that looks okay under most circumstances but we are somehow wrapped around it in an unhealthy way.

If you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, no sin is left to drive you from him. His Holy Spirit is in you to lead you into all truth. You need to engage with that. It's an awesome gift. You are not a second class Christian because you aren't in church. Find other ways to feed your soul and learn about God--there are plenty. Having contact with other Christians can be very encouraging, too. But the main thing is to obey the Spirit in your heart.