why is it that woman ask you a question and when you don't give them their answer they freak?

Question

EG. Do you think I'm fat a friend asked me today. I said yes she went mad. I was only being honest.

Answer 1

:-o you told your friend that she was fat?! and you're suprised she flipped?! lol! i would do more than go mad!! lolz you have to be tactful with answers...generally we're quite sensitive, and have large complexes! lol so give us a nice answer, if its 'Do I look/Am I fat? The answer is ALWAYS no! lol

sorry i guess we're just complicated!
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Answer 2

Because what they are really asking is not always an answer to the problem but how you feel about the problem. Men are from mars and women are from venus. Hence we think differently. Tell her you feel confused about the question and ask her if she feels a certain way about the question. Then this is important... LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS.

Answer 3

When women ask questions they expect you to communicate LIKE A WOMAN. i.e Indirectly with lots of subcommunication and hidden messages.

Never give a direct answer to a woman unless it's NO.

Viking xxx

Answer 4

Because we're all mental harridans with an ugly complex and we need reassurance every 5 minutes!

Sorry to generalise.. but it's generally true.

The best solution is to be tactful and say, well.. I've seen fatter. Or.. well no but have you stuffed a pillow up your jumper or are you pregnant?

Answer 5

Women are complex and emotional creatures. They are genetically geared to want a relationship so they can raise a family. They need more than just sex, they need to find a mate they are willing to spend 18 years with. Because of this they often think that men are complex creatures too.

We aren't, if you ask a man then his first inclination is to give the simplest and straightest answer. Men don't need a complex relationship. Our biology gears us to reproduce quickly and often, with as many partners as possible. It's all in the genes. That's why a man can be turned on by just a picture of a pretty woman, while most women need more; they need that relationship. You don’t have to be smart to get an erection and use it, men save their intelligence for other things like bringing food to the table. We leave our reproductive system up to our natural instincts. A few minutes ago I answered a question from a woman who wanted to know if men can fake and orgasm. I told her that it is very easy for us to get an orgasm, it is a natural reflex and it is pretty clear for all to see. But, this woman was looking for the hidden or deeper meaning behind her boy friend’s orgasm, something that just wasn’t there.

So you said, "Yes I think that wearing that dress will make you look fat."
She heard, "Yes, wearing that dress will make you look fat, because you are fat, and any dress will make you look fat. You need to lose that weight because you are fat, and I might not love you as much until you do, and why haven’t you started your diet yet!" She receives the complex answer, while you are just thinking she should try on another dress.

Questions like this are relationship landmines. There is no correct answer to that question. The best answer is to say something like "No, but I don't like that dress, why don't you try on something else." When she asks why you don't like that dress, say, "I don't know, something about it doesn't look right, it may even be exaggerating your features.” Don’t be specific, be vague; after all it is just a feeling that something is not right. This is a white lie than people tell to smooth things over. If she confronts you by saying something like “Then you do think I am fat!” Then respond with of course not, but that dress just doesn’t look right on you. If you really think she looks fat, and you are worried about that then you should tell her, in the most gentle way that you can. If it is the fault of the dress, or she just looks a little chubby, then stay away from ANYTHING that even implies she could be fat.

When you talk with a woman you have to realize that she is not like one of the guys. She is looking for the hidden meaning, for what you are really thinking. You might be only thinking I don’t like that dress, but she wants to know why, and what is it about herself that you don’t like. If you told a guy that his clothes made him look fat, then he would think about changing them or ask you “Am I fat?” If you said “No.” then he would be happy with that. If you said just no to a woman then she will be wondering what you are really thinking. You didn’t give her enough information. It will never occur to her that you didn’t give her any more information, because there was no more information to give.

Trying to explain to your wife why you thought the dress made her look fat, but that she isn’t fat is only going to compound the problem; as she searches for the hidden meaning behind everything you say. The more you say the worse it gets until you have a complete misunderstanding and you have to apologize for it. You will end up apologizing for something that you didn’t feel you did, or you could be forced to sleep on the sofa tonight. You must be subtler, because women expect that. You must tell her that you are not subtle, most guys aren’t. “Tell it like it is.” is an expression made by men for men. If you tell her that your steak is overcooked then she is wondering why you don’t like anything she ever cooked for you, while you only want her to take the steak off the grill a little earlier next time.

Communication between the sexes can be hard. Each person has to understand the limitations of the other. Just because men aren’t subtler doesn’t mean they are less intelligent or not capable of being subtle, it just means that given a choice a man will prefer to “tell it like it is.” When a woman looks for a deeper meaning she is adding complexity to a situation or response that may not need it. But, if she were talking with another woman then there would be subtle undertones and possible hidden meanings. This doesn’t make women crazy or paranoid, it just means that they put more thought into the conversation than a guy normally would.

Show her this response; tell her you are sorry if you gave her the impression that she was fat. You didn’t mean it, or you would have said, “I think you look fat.” She may think you are stupid or something, but it is just the different way men and women are wired; it’s all in the genes. We can rise above them sometimes, but usually we listen to and follow our instincts.

Look at all the responses from the women, they acknowledge that men and women think differently, and there is no way to change that, you have to live with as best you can.

Answer 6

Read my blog entry for today. I think it covers most aspects of your question. Though it doesn't give much of an answer.

Answer 7

Don't be totally honest just give the answer they want.

Answer 8

are you serious
you said she was fat and you can't figure out why she flipedi have no response to that

Answer 9

We are emotional and we need an answer right then and now we normally can't wait guys don't think about that just answer it even if you don't know what to say or say I dunno and maybe they won't freak out but not all of us our like that. :)

Answer 10

cos you should know that the answer is in the question. tell them what they want to hear and you will do well my son