Cheating life?

Question

This is a really confusing thing for me. I sometimes believe that if we can not cure our self’s naturally are we suppose to live. Why would things happen if they not natures way of life. I had a surgery that was suppose to save my life. They said I would die with out it. That was a year ago and I have since struggled to stay alive. It bought me a year so far but it has been a horrible year. Maybe we shouldn't try and control our fate medically. I feel that I cheated death, and I have paid by the side effects of my surgery. It is such a confusing thing. I sometimes think that we try to hard to play god. It is not our job to interfere with what is meant to be. I know that everybody wants to live long lives, but sometimes it is better to just take comfort with our family and let nature take its course. My family has suffered this past year with watching me struggle to live. Maybe we should be happy with what life has given us and deal with it that way.
Does anybody else feel that way?

I mean I guess has medical world taken it too far? There are limits. Right? And who or when is suppost to say enough is enough

Answer 1

I feel for your pain and your suffering. But I do not have the answers to life and why we suffer and continue on. My thoughts are with you and your family...I know that sounds phony, but at this very moment I am sending out thoughts of love and light to you, whoever you are and where ever you are.

Answer 2

That's a hard question, and there's no easy answer. I would take each day as it comes. I don't think that you're cheating death just because now we have the technology to prolong life. Think of it as an advantage that generations before us have not had the privilege of taking hold of. Although it might be near to impossible for you to do, try to do things that will take your mind off of the pain -physical or mental. I'm sorry for your situation and it's obviously hard for anyone who's not in that position to empathize. I agree that we should be happy with what life has given us, but at the same time, it's a lot harder to believe that when you're not given as much as the person next to you. You sound like a strong person! Don't get discouraged!
:)

Answer 3

I think sometimes that is true, when I see very elderly patients being kept alive beyond their ability to sustain or even their interest in life. But one year is a relatively short time... compared to a lifetime.

My father died 20 years ago of cancer. He was 67 years old, and he died gracefully, without any chemotherapy, feeling that he had lived a good life and not wanting to struggle and fight for life. But we have missed him SO !!! My mother is 88 and has been mentally incapable of really enjoying life for several years. When she had an attack recently, we made the decision not to install a pacemaker, because her quality of life never will be very good, and she is ready to move on.

You don't say how old you are... if you have children and/or grandchildren... of if perhaps you are not even very far past childhood yourself. I would guess that you have possibility of living a normal life once you get beyond this. Your loved ones would miss you terribly if you were gone.

Maybe you need to focus on the big picture: what may lie ahead, and not dwell too much on how difficult this past year has been.

God bless.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you continue to suffer and of course your loved ones suffer along with you. Do we strive to keep ourselves alive at all cost? Yes, as long as medical and pharmaceutical breakthroughs keep emerging we, understandably, feel that we must at least try. I don't think it's really trying to play God. There's no denying that diseases that were once thought as death sentences are now curable and that's not a bad thing, is it? As medicine evolves it may be more difficult to know when to let nature take its course and when to pursue treatment. It sounds like you're in pain or discomfort and maybe you're wishing that you hadn't had the operation but you did because it offered a chance to improve, heal or ease your ailment. Please know that there are people who care very much for you and that you're being lifted up in prayer. You lived and you continue to live for a reason, however unknowable that reason may be right now.

Answer 5

only someone who has walked in your shoes could answer that.when the chance at life came along you took it.i guess you were aware of the quality of life the surgery would bring? i think the decision would depend on my quality of life.if living meant constant pain or not being able to care for myself, i wouldn't want to extend a day.that for me would not be living.anyway decision made and you really should spend this time just saying things you need to say and loving people you should love. this time is not just about you.this time also gives those that say they love you a chance to show you, don't feel like a burden, i am sure you deserve their love and support. be blessed.

Answer 6

No, I don't. I believe God decides when it's our time to go, and I believe He gives us the knowledge to use medicine and surgery to save our lives. I truly am sorry for the difficult time you're having, but I think it might be helpful to focus on all the things you'd be missing (familly, friends, etc) if you were no longer here. Please don't give up on life. Life has obviously not given up on you.

Answer 7

Nope, I'll take antibiotics, tylenol, polio vaccination, and alcohol swabs over sickness, fever, paralyzation, and infected cuts, thank you.

Then I can be even happier with what life has given me. Your choice is your own, though, since you pray to god, I wonder if he would interpret not doing everything you could to live as suicide. (is starving yourself suicide? What about not taking medicine?).

Just do what you think is right. Can't go wrong if you do that.

Answer 8

I believe that Life is a gift from the Lord and we do our best to enjoy it.... to look for things that he sends us because he does...not talking about religion...so please do not be offended......If you were my child I would most definitely hurt with your hurt......but also I would very much enjoy the time I have with you...................Please question the Lord on this and see if he will not answer you

Answer 9

Most people want to fight for their lives. Cheat, steal, manipulate, etc........anything goes.