my bestfriend is living with her boyfriend for 4years already and she still cant decide if he is really the right man for him
2006-08-26 12:39:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she should already know see I have been married 3 times and after all I can say I was not in love with the first two and I really knew it deep down but i was lying to my self and the man I am married to now I have been in love with for 24 years and we just got married last month but I only just got him to ask me finally after 24 years I just should have asked him and get it over with 24 years ago but back then I was shy and then 6 months later I was brave enough to ask my first husband to marry me and then after the first divorce I was brave enough to ask my second husband to marry me but I still wait for the right one to ask me that was dumb I could have saved my self 24 years of hell and unhappiness if i had just been brave enough to ask him!!!!
2006-08-26 13:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my man for 4 years and am getting married soon. A while ago I had a few doubts but when I asked Yahoo answers someone said that I should picture calling off the wedding, leaving and starting again and I knew that was just what I didn't want. I am completelty sure now and very happy. I think it was pre wedding nerves. Of course you can never know for sure but you have to take a chance in life. Good luck to your friend.
2006-08-28 00:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I definitely think that they need more time, and absolutely should not get married! However I think that it may be something in her, not her relationship, that is holding her back. I mean let's be real ladies, are we going to continue on for 4 years with someone that we are not sure is the one?! There has to be something about him that your friend enjoys and loves or she wouldn't have wasted her time this long! Would she? I say that if she is not ready to get married then that is one issue, and I absolutely think that if that is the case then she shouldn't rush into things if she is not ready. But if she is really hung up on whether or not her man is the ONE, then sweetness, after 4 years if she isn't sure that he is yet then he NEVER will be!
2006-08-26 12:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was the right man she would have known straight away. She is probably in a comfortable secure situation and isnt sure if she wants to rock the boat by leaving. I think it is time for her to leave and find a man that can rock her world. Have her call irish psychics live to find the answer to all her questions x53 great reader.
I am joking about the last bit btw
2006-08-26 15:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is having doubts then this is probably not the right man for her.
Relationships take hard work and give and take on both sides, if she feels uncomfortable now, then getting married won't help.
People who live together for a long time and then get married sometimes expect things to change and be different, when they are married and when they discover they are not, they divorce, the only difference is a piece of paper and a possible name change.
My hub and I have been together for nearly 20yrs and married for 14yrs, we lived together for several years and had our children before we got married. We had a good life then and a good life now, we didn't expect our life to change dramatically and it didn't. we got married for ourselves because we wanted too.
I knew I had found the right man for me the moment I met him. and as time as gone on I have been proved right.
Suggest to your friend that perhaps she should have a chat with her bloke and see how he feels, he may be having similar feeling himself. if she does not want the conversation to get that serious but she needs to know then perhaps make a joke out of it, ie "guess what? myfriend thinks her boyfriend is her soul mate, do you think that we are soul mates?" or " my friend is thinking of finishing with her fella because he is not the right man for her, they get on great other wise, what would you do ?" etc.
good luck to your friend.
2006-08-26 13:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by cross_sox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have questions after 4 years. You either are certain it is right and go for the wedding or you leave each other. My youngest sister is supposedly engaged but she has put so many conditions on her marrying the guy that I think he should move on and find someone who is going to love him better than she obviously does.
2006-08-26 13:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if she still can't decide if he's right or not, that means he's not the one. Because when you meet someone who you want to marry, usually you know the moment 2 people meet up, it's like this instant attraction both physically and mentally. And they don't want to leave one another, they always want to be with eachother all the time. that's when you know that you met someone right.
2006-08-26 12:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves him then she needs to let him go. and see if he will come back to her after a while of being apart.Because if she's having doubts about him being the right man or not. then maybe they aren't meant to be together in the long run.good luck
2006-08-26 12:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your not very well, have liquid coming out of your nose and your having to put tissues up there so you can have a good night sleep you haven't done your hair in 4 days and he wakes up beside you in a morning and says morning beautiful.
2006-08-29 14:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she still can't decide after 4 years, then he isn't the right man for her because when you know, it's something you can't deny or have doubts about.
2006-08-26 12:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋