Hi, this girl I have been with for a year in 6 months has dumped me about 4 times now. She is very influenced by her family and will listen to whatever they say. We got engaged about 4 months ago and there was no conflict what soever but suddenly when her parents argued with her that we were not a "productive" couple. We should be looking at colleges and stuff and she told me exactly what her parents were yelling at her about over the phone and when we went to their house (I could hear from the other room) so a week or so later she says "We are not a productive relationship...I dont love you anymore and I dont find you attractive.." People say why do I still want her back after she dumped me so many times but each time she dumped me she uses the same **** her parents tell her and they make her believe its true. I know its not her talking and it really hurts to hear those words but I really love her and want her back...how can I get her back again?I will be leaving 4 the army in 1 month
2006-08-26 12:37:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know it must hurt u...but leave her..it will keep getting worse its clear she doesnt have a strong personality apart from her family
i wish i could tell u a soloution but the only way ull benefit is to let her go...u see a very sweet guy to destroy ur heart on ur girlfreinds possesive parents
hope am of any help
2006-08-26 12:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by lollypop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 15:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever people say, "But I still love him (or her)", it makes me ask why. It sounds like you're just running around in circles with this girl. I know you say you love her, but if this is how it will be with her parents and she seems so influenced by them, what kind of future will you have together? You have to think about what's best for yourself here. Imagine hitting your head against a wall repeatedly - how much more are you going to do it until you just can't take the pain any longer? After what she said to you, it's obvious her feelings for you have changed. I think it's time you should move on and forget about her. Why hold onto something that isn't there?
2006-08-26 12:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by niceguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you're wasting your time. Daddy's little girl has some growing up to do. I'm 25 and I still value my parents' opinion, but I'm not driven but what they tell me. It's ultimately up to me. It seems her parents are in complete control of her right now. The "I don't love you anymore and don't find you attractive" is just a lousy excuse to try and push you away. What she really should have said was, "My mommy and daddy don't like you and I don't want to hurt them in anyway by staying with you." Man, find someone more grown up than that, and don't get your feelings involved any more than you already have.
2006-08-26 12:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by fhfan731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got her back you lose her again in a month anyway. You are about to go through a major life change and won't even be the same person anymore. Let it happen and when you come back in a year or so she may flip for you. DO NOT go see her before one year. If you do you will only be viewed as a major wienie. Suck it up soldier and concentrate on your job, your life depends on it.
2006-08-26 13:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you still love this girl then tell her that and tell her parents that she can control her own life and if they dont like u 2 as a couple than so be it. and ask her if you want 2 get back 2gether and if u do yay if not thats ok. but as far as the army goes WOW and good luck =)
2006-08-26 12:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not for you. The future only will be a repeat of the past. Look for someone who wants you and will stay with you. Get over her! She is not a reliable mate for you
2006-08-26 12:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by neverteatea1953 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start dating her best friend or worst enemy, either one you choose will do the trick.
2006-08-26 12:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋