I just moved into university, and everything has gone wrong already. People are cold, clique-ish and unfriendly, a guy I really liked used me as a rebound and I only found out later, and I've never been this lonely in my entire life. I just feel like crying all the time and because everything is going so wrong, I'm having trouble cheering up. What do you think I should do? How do you make yourself happy in times like these?
2006-08-26 12:19:27 · 16 answers · asked by Natalia 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Pull yourself up, get deep into your studies, and while the rest of them are having a love affair with them selves...YOU go on and be the best you can...and let the chips fall where they may..I bet there are tons of folks there that are thinking the same thing you are exactly lol...and you are bound to meet them...hang on, and go for it and don't let anyone rain on your parade darlin!!!
2006-08-26 12:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might not be in the right school. Not all colleges are like that. At my school everyone was very friendly and i made friends right away. If you really don't think you could be happy there, there is nothing wrong with transferring. But also, it might get better. A lot of people are really miserable their first semester or so, then they make some friends, start having fun and love it. There are also people who consistently try out school, don't give it enough of a shot, transfer, don't like their new school any better and end up screwed. I'd say give it a few more weeks, and if after that you think you can handle it, go to the end of the semester. In the mean time, try to find your clique, join a club or something with people who have similar interests as you, that sort of thing. And about the guy, enlist your new friends to help you get back at him, elaborate pranks are great ways to make bonds, it worked for me and several of my closest friends.
2006-08-26 20:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ganesa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you move into a dorm? That should make your social life a lot easier. At least my experience was that the majority of people tend to be very friendly and it is a very social atmosphere. And I didn't even live in a dorm, I was just able to get this impression by spending the odd weekend in friend's dorms. Also, get involved with something; anything. The gym sounds like a good idea but its not the only way to meet people. Go to your university's website and look up all the clubs or intramural sports or anything you enjoy. There is something for everybody.
In a way this is a good opportunity for you to rid yourself of problems you had before university. By going into first year you have a clean slate for everything; social and academic.
2006-08-26 19:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by wite_box 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first year at college, away from home, was like that, too. That was back in the Sixties.
I sat on the inside steps of the huge U of I library, my head sagging into my hands, at how BIG and scary it all seems. That's part of the learning and growth process of University life.
Normal to feel as you do, and you aren't alone. It only SEEMS like everyone else has it all together, because everyone puts on a smily, cheery FRONT, is all.
(the "Don't Let'm See You Cry" syndrome).
Just study and keep your grades up. When you come back next autumn as a Sophomore, you'll feel a LOT Better, automatically.
2006-08-27 12:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a major step in your life journey. A lot of good advice has already been given but hang in there. Your priority is your studies, the social side will come naturally. Just give it a little time. In a few weeks you will probably wonder why you were so worried
2006-08-26 21:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by mjdp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with Compassionatesoul. Also, see if there are any clubs to join that share your interests. Remember, you are really there to get an education and further yourself in life. All the other things will fall into place later in good time. Good luck!
2006-08-26 19:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Feathery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe, find someone who cares. find someone who shares your interests. maybe re-connect with an old friend, or a sibling, someone who listens. sometimes just talking to someone will make you feel better. or, since youre just getting into college, maybe it's good that you're going through a hard social time. now you can concentrate on your studies, and not drama. just find one good friend who you can connect with. isn't there a saying that goes something like "if you leave this world with one true friend, then you are truly blessed"? i hope you become happier. cheer up, life is short :)
2006-08-26 19:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kayla-Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to university in a week, and I feel terrible about what you said.
Hope you can be fine!
Perhaps so many people feel the same as you do, and you just one of these people. So you don't have to take it too much serious.
2006-08-26 19:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dab Seaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I ware in your position firt I would make a list of things that make me happy....simple thing(like some smells...feelings,food dishes...anything you like) and then,every day i try to do something from that list...and enjoy it!
Then I'd try to be more communicative...spend some more time with my colleagues...I know it tough out there...but soon you will accommodate
2006-08-26 19:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by R0CkL3g3nD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a gym membership, you can get into shape and meet likeminded people and then go to a coffee shop and have a healthy shake - again, a good meeting place. and don't expect to make a bunch of friends the first time you go out - give it time and be positive - no one wants to talk to someone who looks unhappy!
2006-08-26 19:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋