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If a guy plays hot and cold with you. Acts shy when you try to make small talk. But flirts, winking a couple of times after a conversation. Doing sneak attacks on you to get your attention. Looking into your eyes and down at your lips almost like on purpose. But then not making any eye contact and all and acting like your not in the room when he enters. But then bump into him and he just stares at you with a really serious look almost like he's trying to intimidate you. For about 5 seconds, then looking down and laughing. Then when you ignore him he trys to get your attention again by playing a joke on you. But then he acts really serious about the joke and only looks at you once and smiles. Then just after all this starts acting regular but not in a flirty way. looking at you when he goes by. But again when try to make small talk just asking him a question when he's talking to another. He acts like he doesn't want to and looks the othe way. But then smiles at you again.

2006-08-26 11:42:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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He could play games on you. But, for the sake of the argument, allow me to offer another explanation:
1) the hot/cold play - might not be a play, but rather a conflict of emotions in him and the confusion it rises from it: on one hand, he desires you (the whole you), on the other, he wants to keep this a secret (not from you, of course, but from everybody else);
2) he is shy, the type of guy not comfortable getting things started, but he doesn't want you to judge him as "less-of-a-man" because of it, so he tries to impress you by flirting, winking and doing whatever it takes to get your attention;
3) Looking into your eyes and at your lips, and almost making sure you catch the gesture it's his way of showing romantic interest, maybe even serious enough;
4) I bet that, when he acts distant, like you're not in the room, you two are not alone (I'll also bet you two are working in the same office). He tries to avoid getting attention on you two from the rest and thus starting the people talking about you. He thinks he's protecting you, keeping you from becoming the target of gossip.
5) The bump was on one occasion only: perhaps he was distracted by whatever he was doing, and a little upset things weren't going exactly well. He bumps into someone he didn't see and, irritated, he raises his eyes, about to give that person an unfriendly "Watch it !". But he sees you, the center of his affection, and his mind locks... He didn't expect that person he bumped into to be you. After he gets over the shock of this sudden discovery, he's embaced he was about to yell at you, and so he looks down and laughs, trying to "make things up" in his mind...
6) He wants your attention, proving he can be "fun", but again, he's afraid of not being taken seriously;
7) Again, he doesn't want to attract attention on you both. Also, he is troubled in your presence not to make his feelings all too obvious to the rest of the world, so he tries to act rather cautiously, distant and avoiding to look directly at you... Then again, the smile is ment to be a reassurance for you...
My guess would be that your guy is a gentle kind of person, not very assertive when it comes to romance (maybe having some complexes over this issue). He could also have suffered in the past, and remained with some emotional scars...
The most important thing is what exactly would you want from this guy? Because you could hurt him even more, if you're not careful... Try to answer this to yourself ! Take care !

2006-08-27 04:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Restless 2 · 5 0

He might be trying to convey his passion. He might think you are pretty. He might have been very interested in what you were saying. He might have noticed some food stuck between your teeth. Every person is different and there's no way to tell. Why don't you ask him? If it makes you uncomfortable for a married man to stare at you like that, let him know. He'll either stop doing it, or keep doing it, in which case you'll have a reason to question his motives.

2016-03-26 21:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

he's being an ***, and humoring himself by playing with your mind.
ignore him and if he plays a joke on you again, ***** at him and tell him he's not funny.

2006-08-26 12:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by loseribe 2 · 0 1

your guy has a serious mental problem

2006-08-26 11:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Can you say "HEAD GAMES"? Dump him, and move on!

2006-08-26 11:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0 1

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