he says im always this way and that way and how i never let petty stuff go and it not true and hes a marine and hes macho he always has to be right things go his way and all his friends are girls im not happy thats he spends time alone with them and spendes the night at their house
2006-08-26 11:25:27 · 26 answers · asked by rebecca v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are asking these questions now, then you might want to take a break from each other. If he is spending time with other women (even if they are marines also) then there might be a fire where there is smoke. Or it could just be smoke signals.
2006-08-26 13:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy, that is all you need to know girl! Do you think things will improve with age or something? You need to have a serious talk! Tell him how you feel and let him tell you how he feels. Maybe a piece of what he is saying is right, try to look at it truthfully. Both of you should agree to work on things the other finds aggravating. If he scoffs, or in any way doesn't take you seriously or refuses to acknowledge his own issues that you have with him, cut him loose now. It will only be harder to do later. You must have someone who respects you enough to at least take seriously things that you think are important. You must have respect at least, it will not work otherwise.
And.... wtf*ck?? Spending the night at other girls' houses? Do you need to be shown photographic eveidence or something? If he hasn't done something yet, he will! Even the best man can only swim around in that so long without being affected. No f*cking way would I let him do that. Time to lay down the hammer.
2006-08-26 18:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are my rules for marriage (and relationships in general):
1. No violence, no hitting, spitting, shaking or other negative physical contact.
2. No cheating.
Everything else in my opinion can be worked out if both parties are willing. The above rules are non-negoiable. They happen ONCE you must leave the relationship immediately with no reconciliation.
Now, lets consider your relationship. He's sleeping with other women...
You want my advice? Do not get married to this prick. In fact cut him out of your life entirely once and for all. If you don't you're in for years of heartache that will ultimately end in a costly divorce.
2006-08-26 18:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by amyaliceco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your question, and ask yourself this. If someone else wrote it, what would you advise her to do.
You have all the warming signs of a disaster in the making
It's much better not to get married when you have the doubts that you have, than to end up in Divorce Court, a few months later. After you realize, what a big mistake you made.
2006-08-26 18:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The acid test is this: Ask yourself if you can put up with it for the next 40 years.
If the answer is no, wait on making the commitment until the issues in your relationship are straightened out. It sounds like he has some problems showing you the proper respect, and you shouldn't have to live with that.
2006-08-26 18:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really think about this one.
Is he spending the quality time you want
now and it won't change when you get
married.
Sounds like he needs to grow up. His
friends are still a high priority and where are
you in this relationship. Make a checklist
of the pros and cons and then decide to
stay or go.
2006-08-26 18:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by tychi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be happy in the relationship for it to work. I would definitely make sure I know these girls that is staying with. I think you need to sit him down and tell him the things that are bothering you. If he doesn't respond as if he cares, then you might want to rethink your relationship. You don't want to get married just because you have been with him for a while.
2006-08-26 18:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave urself to the signs .... Do what u wanna to do...
If u ask for that so u r worried about the marriage... but in the same time u want it...so go and marry... Think with ur love and mind not with signs...
Good Luck
2006-08-26 19:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by flying_spirit2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an old timer, if you have to ask the question, don't get married. From your brief description, I'd advise you to run as fast and as far as you can from this guy--and at bottom, you think the same thing, right? You don't need a guy in your life that badly.
2006-08-26 18:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use those signs you just listed. He sure doesn't sound like he wants to get married. Better to know now than to find out later after tying the knot. Forget him and move on.
2006-08-26 18:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋