My Niece is 10 she is raised by my Parents and my Brother has full custody (mother a druggy & abandond @ 3 weeks old) She is Unknown as a Mother! anyway...... My Niece knows how to get her way and uses Incredible made up stories that she claims of reason's of getting attention, pitty, etc. She has been caught a few times by me in her lying story telling that involved my daughter as the bad doer @ fault of concerns. I have tryed to exspained to her that she's wronge by setting up a sittuation for her bennifits for getting attention or the praised "Good Child" for Telling the truth{her truth}!! This is Evil too me!!! Now she has claimed that she started her period for reasons where her panties are missing to my mother. This has been claimed before. She wants to be a adult so badly to lye this.x2! Stupid my option but shes a child. She trys to control everyone basicly, her father has made it a compition with his relationships causing her to be desperate What do we do? & Denial is!
2006-08-26 11:23:01 · 8 answers · asked by rpm5150365 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
And now.......Hours later! Its my kids fault that makes her compeat herself... too be better! Is this a reason for lies? Is this deeper than first thought? hummmm..
2006-08-26 21:42:24 · update #1
Read her the book: The Boy Who Cried Wolf. My son used to do things and I'd say well I can't trust you because of all the times you've done it before, just like the boy who cried wolf. Most kids go through a lying phase, but you can't let it get out of control or she will turn into a pathological liar. Try and be understanding and patient, she already has 2 strikes against her (her mom&dad). Don't let this go on for too long, if she doesn't change soon, get her professional help! I feel for you and your daughter because I had a niece who did the same exact thing to another niece and my sister always believed her lying daughter. Fortunately, everyone in the family knew who the real bad seed was. I'll pray for you, your daughter and your niece.
2006-08-26 11:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I will tell you is this: (I dont want to scare you)
My father is a psychiatrist and the story goes my husbands 24 yr old cousin stayed with is to get his life together. He lied since day of birth and thought it was always the blame card like your neice. He like many many people have a depression like discrder that comes from the first 2 years of life. You see when a mother especially is not aound for the first 2 years the majority of these cases become similar. I am going to attach a like. Now wheather or not this is your situation I dont know but look for the signs in this like. Stealing lying, etc. If you notice this get her a doctor like a psychiatrist. NOT a therapist!!!! Someone who specializes in chilren. The link makes the name "Psychopath) extreme and a word over used today and I am not saying she is a psychopath. Just read it and I hope it helps. Also drphil.com always has good advice on this.
http://www.geocities.com/lycium7/psychopathy.html
2006-08-27 00:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG...I have a little niece like that and I just know she is the devil's child. But lately I get her back by just not paying attention to her anymore.
2006-08-26 18:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Meki-Pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is whenever she tells you something (even if you know it's true) is to tell her you don't believe her. When she says "Why don't you believe me?" you just say "You've lied to me before so how do I know you're telling the truth now?" Just say that to her everytime she tells you something and eventually she will say or even scream maybe "I am telling the truth!!" and you can say "You've lied before, so I'm afraid I can't believe anything you say anymore." Finally when she gets fed up and demands that you believe what she's saying just tell her you believe her and that if she wants you to believe her then she can't lie anymore.
2006-08-26 18:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just sit her down and try to explain it to her again. tell her it is wrong to want to control everyone and everything. tell her it isn't funny to lie like that and that doing this is not going to help her keep her friends around either. people don't like liars. tell her that if she wants to be an adult so badly then she needs to stop doing what she is doing and then maybe people will start treating her like an adult.
2006-08-26 18:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by margaret_mccr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a job for Tough Love!!!
2006-08-26 21:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got one of those too?
Mine is 12 so let me know if you find the solution to this.
2006-08-26 20:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she lies punish her for it like time out or something EVERYTIME she lies she ll stop onm a week promise
2006-08-26 19:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋