We broke up at the end of last month and we have still been sexually active. but whenever i try to start a serious convo he just completely pushes it off or changes the subject.he always use to talk to me before.and he is never paying attention to me.what should i do?what is he trying to prove?
2006-08-26 11:12:17 · 21 answers · asked by .nicole. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We dated for a year and a half...i've known him for 4....also he lives just around the corner and we r always with each other
2006-08-26 11:16:40 · update #1
i was in this situation before too and i thought that we were still having sex because he didn't want to let me go all the way. truth was he had the perfect set up... still a steady piece but without the strings. what guy wouldn't take advantage of that. you need to tell him that there's no more sex if you two aren't dating.
2006-08-26 11:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by bevis yo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I can only praise you for keeping pure for so long but I think that you should maybe push the boat out a little. We all have needs and a relationship is pretty much made around engaging like this with our partners, talk to him see how he feels about you being a virgin. Most guys are comfortable with this but in a situation like this I'm not too sure, he seems quite determined for some intimacy with you but if your not comfortable with this and if you are quite happy and confident that this will be a lasting relationship then consider talking to some of your friends about their first time. Of course you will be nervous but you just need to get over this fear, it's not as bad as you probably think its going to be but how do you think that we were all put here on this earth? Hope that helped :)
2016-03-26 21:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he basically using you. he wants the luxury of a girlfriend(sex) and the freedom n non-seriousness of a relationship n even though you two are having sex n ur thinkin yall will be together sooner or later but hes gonna find someone else that feels the same way as him n leave u so u should jus move on n not take him serious cuz hes not takin u or ur feelings serious.
2006-08-26 11:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by t e n d e r . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to let him go once and for all. Don't you think you deserve a more loving and secure relationship anyway? Be with someone who will respect you and the love you have to give. Someone who will truly be your best friend for life. You deserve it. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself that. Then go out there and find the man you were meant to be with.
2006-08-26 11:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you two broke up and are still having sex, he is using you big time. Don't talk to him and move on. Let him know that you have respect for yourself and will not stand to be used when he wants you. Be strong and you will grow.
2006-08-26 11:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys broke up already...maybe u two should start acting like it. if you keep giving him booty, he will keep coming back for it kuz he knows you're gonna be up for it. the guy's a dog...he's not looking for a relationship. thats y every time u bring up a serious convo he never wants to talk. he's not trying to prove anything. if u keep letting him hit that...he just being there for sex. plain and simple
2006-08-26 11:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by mizs_sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He still want you for sex. He is definitely using you. He is probably seeing someone besides you and until he get her comfortable or build a new relationship with her he will hold on to you, just in case it don't work out. You deserve better Good luck!
2006-08-26 11:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex. He's loving life! When you were dating he had to listen to all your serious talks and whatnot in order to get sex. Now you broke up and you're still giving him sex but he doesn't have to listen to you anymore because you're broken up! Have some respect for yourself.
2006-08-26 11:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Curious1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow he's getting what he wants free. He is playing you all the way. How can you be so naive to let someone use you like that? If he cared for you he would prove it. But hey he's got it made with you.
2006-08-26 11:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well u are broke up and he probably now feels like he doesn't have to give you an answer...Like he doesn't owe you an explanation. I would stop sleeping with him and make him chase me if he really wanted me he'll wake up and snap back into reality...Make these men work for us!
2006-08-26 11:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by I'M BOSSY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋