There's this guy that likes me and like we have these things at my church that we go can go to every friday. He really likes me and the truth is, I thought I liked him too, but I really don't.He even told me he'd wait a whole year to ask me out [cuz I can't date yet] I didn't mean to lead him on for so long like I did and now I don't have the heart to tell him I don't feel the same way...did I mention he's really sensitive and shy? I feel so bad bcuz I never go on fridays and whenever he asks me why I didn't go, I always make up some stupid excuse...although most of them are the truth of why I don't go. I've tried to give hims signs ya know to hint that I don't feel the same way, but he never seems to get them. Truthfully, I just wanna be his friend, not his bf. Plz don't bash me too much, I'm only 15.
2006-08-26 10:48:45 · 19 answers · asked by K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you should have told him the truth from the beginning. he's still waiting for an answer. just tell him you want to be friends and act like so. don't just say that and then ignore him and not go to your church thing. if you can truly be a friend after telling him you don't like him anymore, then i'm sure it wouldn't hurt him as much as he's hurting right now wondering why you ignored him. he's probably blaming himself.
2006-08-26 11:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by loseribe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well u have a few options....this has happened to me to
you can:
1. Tell him you have a bf...unless he goes to your school-that way u let 'em down easy.
2. Juss tell him honestly i am not lookin for a bf right now...but thnxx 4 ur interest.
3. Juss tell him that ur not that into him...
4. say your parents raised the limit on dating and i dont want to disrespect them...
5. Tell him that you jus wanna be friends with him.
6. Tell him that you're boyfriend is getting mad that your spending so much time with me so i think we should still spend time together...but less.
7. Keep giving him signals....i will give you some really noticeable signals...
-when he stares at u look away
-when he talks to you say your not into the topic he is talking about
-leave when he enters a room
-when he tries to start a conversation, say i have to go see u soon.
-make excuses that would turn him off....ect, ect
i hope the best goes to you and i know how you feel.....its a bad situation to be in....Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-26 18:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly Pad 84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 15 you are too young to be having a serious relationship and just tell him that you want to be freinds for now and see if later on it develops into something else
But right now you need to just have fun and don't get tied to one guy...Go out with diffrent guys don't be like the last question I answered where the girl got married at 16 and never went out with any other guys
2006-08-26 17:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a little slow on the up take, if you really see him as a friend tell him the truth let him know where you stand with him. If that doesn't work, you can always tell him you see him as a brother, that one kills them every time though.
2006-08-26 17:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean you can ruin him for the rest of his life girl! Just be nice and be his friend but gently let him know you just want to be friends and then...BE HIS FRIEND! You don't have to cut him off at the knees ya' know!! You can occasionally pal around without being romantically linked as much as teenagers might gasp at the prospect. It shows that you are grown up and more mature than the others.
2006-08-26 17:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you've got to do a little worse than this to be a b-----. Fore pete's sake, just tell him the truth and either he'll accept it or he won't. Telling someone you made a mistake and you're sorry is an adult thing to do and it's a good thing to be able to do. Tell him you want to be his friend.
2006-08-26 17:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell him flat out that you want to friends and only friends. That'll save his time and yours. I'm sure he'd rather have it that way than to have you lead him on.
2006-08-26 17:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by jolo4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay little girl, its kind of early for you to be dealing with such things, but you made your bed...
you need to tell him!
maybe you coulf ease into it by telling him you value his friendship and all that other corny stuff
or tell him the kind of guy you would want to date and make him realise its not him
dont send signals, thats what got you into this mess in the first place
2006-08-26 17:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up. If he's shy and won't take it very well then try to be very nice about it. But he really needs to know.
2006-08-26 17:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. It's actually a lot worse by making him think he has a chance with you. Let him know where he stands.
2006-08-26 17:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋