This guy that's flirted with me before. Sometimes I would catch him glancing down at my chest. Now he just looks into my eyes if he looks at me and also I feel sometimes down at my lips. I'm not saying I'm upset that he's changed his ways. I don't like a guy just wanting me for my body. But I'm wondering if he's not attracted to me anymore. Because why would a guy suddenly stop? It's like I never catch him looking at my body at all. Just in my eyes and down at my lips. I feel he does the lip thing on purpose sometimes.
2006-08-26 10:41:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK. Now this would be a body language issue... Reading body language is more of an art, than a science (that's why they haven't been able to edit a decent dictionary for it ;) that requires a great deal of intuition, experience and observation skills. I'll try my best shot with this...
In my opinion, the change you noticed is for the best; he still finds you attractive, but his interest in you has shifted to another level. There's an old saying that goes like this: "Love is above the waistline, lust is below". At first he seemed only to look at your body, because he was fancying you as a sexual partner, an opportunity for a passionate adventure (and probably nothing more). But that changed, and I think took him by surprise, too. There's another saying: "The eyes are the windows to one's soul". Looking someone in the eyes and trying to keep the eye contact (without staring) usually means "I would like to know you better". He might have grown interested in a romantic affair with you. Now he wonders not "how would it be to have sex with her", but rather "how would it be to kiss her and hold her hands"... The fact that he seems to "do the lip thing on purpose" could mean two things: he wants you to notice it for sure and he starts to get restless to the point of proposing to you to be together...
Of course, more material on the gestures and postures he assumes when near you and when he's interacting with you is needed for a more "accurate reading"... But this is what I think. So, I wish you the best of luck !
2006-08-26 11:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Restless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good thing...the looking in ur eyes and face instead of body.... i believe he's trying to connect deeper with you than physically. When a man looks u in the eyes...and this is hard for men...he REALLY likes u. Be happy he's giving u respect and not oogling your breast.
2006-08-26 10:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i'd love if a guy looked at my lips, doesnt that mean he want so kiss me?
i dont think you should read too much into the: he used to look at ur boobs thing
correct me if im wrong but boobs are like skateboards to guys arent they,
when they come across one they just have to check out the dimensions, just to see if the ride would be smooth, doesnt mean they're going to take the thing home and love it forever
2006-08-26 10:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he's less interested in looking at you from afar and more interested in actually being with you. He wants to kiss you rather than grope you. Usually that's considered a good thing. And he still finds you attractive, don't worry. As long as he's looking at you, he finds you attractive :)
2006-08-26 10:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm cuz at first he wanted ur body now he wants u. if he wasnt attracted he wouldnt look at all. but if he looks at urs lips its cuz he wants to kiss them and he looks in ur eyes because he might think u r beautiful. is that such a bad thing?
btw i heard from quite a few guys that they actually want to respect their women so maybe this one is trying to learn to respect u.
2006-08-26 11:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the Age old question -- they come on hot and heavy and then run cold or plain vanish. Men refuse to end things. They run off and won't communicate a simple - hey I really am not that into you!
2006-08-26 11:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Freya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not all guys do it on purpose, I mean we have a sudden urge to look at breasts, it's a psychological thing. But well not all guys realize it. I mean he probably realized that he shouldn't be looking down your shirt like that. I mean he is showing you he respects you by looking into your eyes, and he is showing you he wants to kiss you by staring at your lips. I'm sure you've had your share of fantasy about guys. I mean he's gotten better, you said it yourself you don't like guys degrading you like that. So well believe me from experience, I completely ruined my relationship wtih my girlfriend. Just because in the beginning I loved everything about her. She is amazingly beautiful, I truly love her with all my heart. And I can't and don't want to be with anybody else but her. She's everything I ever wanted. And well she does have a really amazing body as well. The thing that screwed us up, was that after time, I would stare at her body more than anything else. She noticed how I would talk about her body more than anything else. I never really asked her how she is, or asked personal questions to get to know her better, or anything, I would usually just talk about myself and my life. And well if I ever talked about her, it was how sexy she is, how sexy her body is, the things I would do to her if she was alone with me. I mean she didn't mind knowing that I wanted a long term relationship with intimacy, but it was constant, only thing I ever talked about was sexual things we could do, and her body, along with myself.
Here's how my experience connects with yours, I never realized that I was doing all this. I mean I knew I loved her. But well I didn't know that my feelings were causing something really bad to happen. And well as soon as I realized how I really degraded her. I talked to her about it, and found out that she noticed everything I mentioned. And well she was extremely upset to know the truth finally that I loved her body more than her. And she admitted that she was dealing with it. And she was ok with it, because she didn't want to lose me. I of course said I was really sorry, and that my love for her is just her. Nothing in particular and that I promised to change, and from that point on I did. I stopped calling her sexy, stopped talking about her body. Focused more on learning more about her. Stopped hogging the IM. But well I really f*cked things up big time between us, because ever since that day, she has talked to me less and less. And acts weird from time to time. Along with not being sure if it's worth it anymore for us to have a relationship, or if it's worth her getting in trouble by her parents.
So well I'm sure this guy had some realization of what he was doing, and he knows it's wrong. And well he seems to really like you, to just change all of a sudden, so don't look at it as a bad thing, realize that he really matured and well see what happens.
2006-08-26 10:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he still finds you attractive! He probably just realized that girls don't like guys oggling at their boobs 24/7 and he decided to maybe actually listen to you when he talks to you.
2006-08-26 10:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b-cuz he doesn't look @ ur body nemore doesn't mean that he doesn't find u attractive. maybe he just finds what ur saying interesting. maybe u should divert the conversation so that he has no choice but 2 look @ ur body.
2006-08-26 10:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by mohican4lyf_247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldn't you rather him be looking into your eyes and at your lips than at your chest?
2006-08-26 10:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋