i have just split up from my partner. we have had two and a half years together. we were supposed to spend the weekend together . but he has chosen to leave me to go out to a party of a female colleague. why do men think that a woman will put up with anything just to be with them?????????????????????
2006-08-26 10:38:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is what is called "taking someone for granted." He assumes that you will be in his life because you were there for so long and he no longer appreciates and loves you. He doesn't see that he has anything good because he no longer regrads you as special, or the fact that you are with him as a blessing.
It happens to both men and women, and it's because they are stupid. There is no other reason for it. I hope that made you feel better about the whole thing.
I hope you find someone who will actually appreciate you :)
2006-08-26 10:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I notice that many ladies are coming on here saying things like "because men are stupid", etc.
This is completely unhelpful and shows a fundamental unwillingness of these women to acknowledge that men and women think and behave differently. It's so easy to simply say "all women are airheads" or "all men are selfish" but it hides a huge plethora of real differences which much be embraced and understood if we are all to get on.
The woman in this piece ASSUMES that what she terms as 'good' is also what he will think is good. For all she knows he hasn't been happy for months but she's not empathising with him as an individually and very importantly.......as a man.
I agree with txhypnotist that the most likely explanation for this behaviour is an earlier sexual rejection or disapproval expressed by the woman which has resulted in him being 'switched off'.
GIRLS.....remember that although sexually we men are ready to go in a few seconds and without a lot of prompting, we can also be switched off very quickly indeed in a way that women cannot. Women take more to get going and warm up slowly but then stay hot for a very long time indeed and take a long time to detach.
If you knocked him back, denied a request in bed, criticised an aspect of his personality or behaviour or otherwise expressed disapproval he almost certainly is going to seek the approval of another woman. (he may not seek sex....simply approval).
So......men are not stupid as a whole, nor are women. We're just different. If I had to generalise then I would say to the women that men are EXTREMELY SENSITIVE to women's approval (starting with the mother) and it even overides sexual motivation in terms of importance.
You need to make him feel wanted, desired and make him feel like the only man for you if you want him to ignore his pretty colleague/friend.
Viking xxx
2006-08-26 17:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were not that gooooooood!
Maybe you refused him something that he want from you, but you said no! Think about it. I bet if you think back to when you first started having sex, he may have ask for something from you and you said no!
That's the breaker for most all men, right their, if he left, then you did not make him (feel) as if you were the best thing he ever had.
If you look around at other couples and you see a real fine looking guy with some fat, butter face women, then wounder why he's with her, it's because he gets everything from her, and the good looking girls will not provide that for him.
Keep this in mind and learn from it, so you can make the next man happy, who comes your way, then he will see how truly special you are.
2006-08-26 10:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he ask u if he could go 2 this party, or did he just spring it on u? was it from him going 2 the party that caused the split, or was it already on the outs. r u 2 possessiv e, he does need 2 have his space, just as u need urs.maybe there is a happy medium.. if he loves u, then perhaps u both should do more communicating.
2006-08-26 10:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by ladydi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People take other people for granted..if you have split up get out there and have some fun yourself..do things for you for awhile and leave him to it..let him see that you have a life yourself. I admit that everyone needs a bit of free time but you dont make plans and then back out.
2006-08-26 10:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not play him at his own game get dressed as if you were going out on the pull and make a point of him seeing you and make an excuse that you had forgot you were asked out to a party of someone you aint seen in a while and if he cares youll see a different side to him if not youll know he doesnt care and go your separate ways
2006-08-26 10:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by carlyxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because very often they get away with this type of behaviour,if he shows you no respect or consideration then you should reciprocate this sentiment and dump him.
You deserve better,someone who treats you with respect,consideration,compassion and as an equal.
Good luck for the future,you are better off without this type of guy anyway,even if it does seem very difficult just now !
2006-08-26 10:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by any 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'When you first started dating, were there no ,expectations. no guidelines? If you don't state what you want,then don't cry,when you don't get what you want, PEOPLE ARE NOT MIND READERS.As for why do men think a woman will put with anything, You have so far haven't you?
2006-08-26 10:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason women don't! Based on what you have stated, you should send him on his way! He expects it to some degree even if he don't admit it. Now it's if you are going to be wise or foolish with your choice, either way you get the rewards. Rewards are not always good= you get what you sow
2006-08-26 10:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't very bright they don't realise they got something good going for them until its too late to get it back
2006-08-26 14:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by sc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋