I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I hate it when he tells me he'll call me right back.. and hours go by without a word.
At first, I had let the first few slide, but now... I'm getting pissed off when he does this. I've told him that I hate waiting for him constantly and he always apologizes. It's happened on many occassions where he doesn't call back.
I know it's normal to for this to happen, but I'm so frankly sick of going through this ordeal.
I don't know if I should scare him to stop this by suggesting a break? To blow this off and act cool? Or what.
Please suggest what I can do/say.
2006-08-26
10:27:18
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Oh yeah, by the way..
I never call him for phone bill purposes. . Just to get that straight with you "don't be needy" responses. So yeah, I don't cling. That's for other girls.
2006-08-26
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update #1
My response would be that he's being disrespectful. I don't think it's normal. Some folks grow up being taught they don't need to do what they say they are going to do. My concern would be two fold. First, you don't need this aggravation, disrespect, and lying (that may be harsh but that's what it is, he doesn't intend to call, right?). Second, to what other areas in your relationship does this sort of behavior extend or to what will it extend?
Would something along these lines work: "I get angry when you promise to call and do not call. It's disrespectful and either you begin to do what you say you will do, or the relationship is going to change, drastically."
2006-08-26 10:49:57
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answered by DelK 7
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Its not what people do..its how you react to it.
Blowing this off would be the simplest thing to do because it allows you to accept this can just be a part of his personality. The question is, are you willing to accept he is not a person of his word. It may seem like a drastic thought, yet it is that simple. If he says he is going to call you back. He should. A return call is a courtesy that takes little time. Even if he is calling back to say..."Im busy now..lets talk later" its a courtesy you deserve as his girlfriend. Maybe you need to make yourself less available to him and try giving him a dose of his own medicine. When he calls you cut the conversation short and say you will call him back. And dont. Do it a couple times and he will know how you feel. Now, realize this is not a surefire way of getting him to change his actions, but it will give you more insight into how he thinks. If he brushes off your lack of attention without trying to correct his ways, maybe he isnt deserving of your attention and you want to re-evauate the relationship and ask yourself, are you getting all you deserve.
2006-08-26 17:44:07
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answered by philly_q_t_2004 3
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Your boyfriend doesn't respect you. Period. The only things you can do are put up with it or get a new boyfreind. If you put up with it you may as well get used to having him sleep around on you, never tell you whats going on, and generally treat you like a step child. Do not think you can change him because you can't. He will always show his true colors after a while. Don't be a dweeb. Get out of the relationship.
2006-08-26 17:33:01
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answered by old man 2
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I would just not call him. And don't answer the phone when he does call. Or, if you do answer, blow him off, tell him you're busy and will call right back, then don't. He obviously doesn't rate you very high on his list of priorities, or he wouldn't do this. I have to say it's really disrespectful towards you.
2006-08-26 17:33:13
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answered by ReeRee 6
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Tell him how his actions make you feel and if he doesn't respect that, he is not respecting you and isn't worth keeping. I mean, it is just a phonecall. If you tell someone to call and they say they will, how hard can it be to dial some numbers? I have known many men like this, I know it sucks, and you deserve better.
2006-08-26 18:01:52
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answered by Emi 3
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When he does call back, just don't answer the phone. When he asks you why you weren't there, tell him you are tired of waiting on him to call back.
2006-08-26 17:48:18
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answered by doglady 5
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YOU ARE SO NEEDY AND DESPERATE THAT IT'S NO WONDER HE DOESN'T CALL YOU BACK.
DON'T PLAY GAMES WITH HIM. THAT IS CHILDISH AND DISRESPECTFUL. HE WILL CALL YOUR BLUFF.
GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN AND DO SOME NEW THINGS ON YOUR OWN. DO AS HE DOES. HE HAS THINGS GOING ON THAT DON'T INVOLVE YOU. IT WILL BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, PLUS YOU WILL HAVE MORE TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT.
JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO LIFE DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO MANIPULATE HIM.
2006-08-26 17:46:22
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answered by pandora the cat 5
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I would stop calling him and see how long it takes before he calls you first..let him do the calling for awhile
2006-08-26 17:34:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Stop being so paranoid. He's still calling you isnt he? Up to you but if you like him its really up to you guys dont like clingy girlfriends i can say that for sure.
2006-08-26 17:32:36
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answered by DeathIsNigh 2
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its better to resolve it now while u can then to have to keep doing that, girl build up the courage and break up with him !!!
2006-08-26 17:35:31
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answered by MR-MYSTERIOUS 1
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