I am very attracted to a coworker and he is attracted to me. I just got out of a relationship and I told him that I wanted to spend sometime to myself before I dated. I really like this guy so much that I don't want him to be a rebound relationship and then ruin our professional and personal relationship. The problem is that I still want him in my life but I think I am fooling myself if we say I can just continue to be friends and talk to each other on a personal level.
2006-08-26 10:08:51 · 33 answers · asked by shar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course, best friends can be your ex's. I mean not everybody has bad experiences with breaking up, sometimes there are plenty of good reasons to break up, and sometimes both the boy and the girl want to. So well they still have feelings for each other, but those feelings help their friendship stay strong. The only problem your going to run into if you stay friends with this guy. Is that he is just going to move on to another girl, and since you like him so much, although you'd be his friend. You would still get jealous of girls kissing him and being all over him. So that's the only bad part about being attracted to friends and especially when you know that your friend likes you and wants to give it a shot as well. So well it's perfectly fine to stay friends, but remember that you are going to have to learn to deal with him being with other girls as well. I mean there can still be a relationship on the higher level of boyfriend and girlfriend in the future. But well guys don't wait forever. So well still give it a shot as friends, see how it works out, and if you both want more, and you are perfectly fine by then. Then go ahead and go for it
2006-08-26 10:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already feel like you are ready for him, and its asking this because you feel a little bit unconfortable with the idea that u just got out of one relationship, and would be getting into another one too soon, making "others" think that u actually had someone else b4 you even ended the old relationship. But hey, dont think too much about that, i dont think theres anything wrong, and you also feel like its the right thing to do as well, so go for it.
2006-08-26 10:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Evangelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I dont think you two can be friends at all, the first time you guys go out, if you have a drink you are going to end up kissing or...
Talk to him at work, but dont go out with him if you dont want a relationship.
Tell him how you feel, be honets maybe that way he will give you sometime and your space so you can get ready for a new relation.
Now, let me tell you that life is too short, and if you guys like each other, I wouldn't wait too much, maybe he is your soul mate!!! so let your heart guide you and your BRAINS! dont let yourself fall for just sex... that will ruin everything!
You' ll be OK, good luck!
2006-08-26 10:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by lisirm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't work as friends if u are having these thoughts about him and he about u.. It will lead to a strained relationship at work and personally with him.
Go for it girl, he might be just what the dr ordered for your last breakup and don't worry about the rebound thing he will want to help I am sure...
good luck
2006-08-26 10:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you both are very attacted to one another then just date and see where things go try it out for a week then if things go smooth for the week then try 2 weeks and time flies when you do that i have been with a for almost 11 months and that is what we did and know we are engaged!!
2006-08-26 10:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a man and a woman who are strongly attracted to each other can be friends if they want.
For what I've read I don't think you or him want to be friend, I think you want to be with him and he wants to eb with you. In that case, you won't be friends, because deep inside none of you want.
2006-08-26 10:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Shim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is impossible....you can't fight your feelings but my personal opinion of office relationships is it never makes sense because if it ends with bitterness working with the person would be difficult.
2006-08-26 10:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by trini_rocker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex always gets in the way....its not a good idea to get involved if you work together though....then its a whole new level of problems.....for some reason that always seems to make it more desirable....think how you'll feel if people at work know your sleeping with this guy.
2006-08-26 10:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so. you wouldn't want to ruin a friendship by sleeping with him. wait a couple of months and see if the feelings are still there.
2006-08-26 10:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by NETTA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THE JOB IS IMPORTANT TO YOU... DO NOT MESS AROUND. !!!
MEN THINK THEY OWN WHO LET THEM POKE. AND WANT TO DO IT IN CLOSETS FOREVER.
YOU ARE REBOUNDING.... TAKE YOUR TIME YOU PICKED VERY BADLY THE FIRST TIME AND MAY BE MAKING ANOTHER MISTAKE.
LOSERS WORK AT IT.
IF HE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR JOB= CAN HE SUPPORT YOU? LIVING TOGETHER FOR WHAT? BABYS? SEX?
2006-08-26 10:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by herbywalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋