Is this wrong?

Question

yesterday I took 20 dollars from my mom's purse because I wanted to buy something at a store. Somehow she found out that I did. She thinks I am a theif now and now she is grounding me for 2 weeks. I have to think of a way to earn her trust back. How should I do it? She is really pissed of at me.

Answer 1

Apologize to her and tell her you are sorry for not asking for the money first. Tell her that you won't do it again and you will make sure to always ask her for things first.

Answer 2

well.. do you often take money from your mum's purse? if yes, then you ARE a thief. If it's the only time you did so, then ask yourself whether or not what you bought was a life or death matter or if it absolutely couldn't wait till you asked your mother... (also, you might want to ask yourself if you could have taken steps not to need to take money from your mother's purse, like saving money)

Now, that's for the "Am I a thief" part. With this, you should be able to answer yourself.

And as for earning your mum's trust back, you'll need to do it the hard way: accept you grounding without a fuss and tell her you're sorry for stealing her money (and you need to mean it). and find a way to give her the money back (with interests). And do NOT expect not to be grouned anymore because of that. If your mother offers you to remove the grounding punition, insist that you need to be punished and take the grounding whatever she says (it will prove you're sorry better than words can.)


now, the real question is whether or not it matters to you that your mother is pissed at you and for what reasons? Is it because you'll have a harder time getting what you want in the future or because you love your mother and can't take it to know she doesn't trust you anymore?

Answer 3

Two things:

First, offer to do chores around the house to "earn" back the money you took from her.

Second, you are a thief because, in that instance, you took something that wasn't yours. And it's not like her money was just sitting out on a table or on the floor. You physically went into HER purse (which, for grownups, is a private place) and took it. You need to apologize to her and ASK HER how you can earn her trust back. All of us on this site could offer a million different ideas... but only ONE answer is going to matter to your Mom, and that's HER answer. So, talk to her and work it out. Just by initiating with her and trying to work it out will be a huge step in the right direction.

Good luck kiddo.

Answer 4

Yes it was wrong, but i don't think you need anyone to tell you that,...do you? The only way to earn her trust back is with a sincere apology and by making sure you show her that it's not going to happen anymore. Time is the only thing that can buy back her trust.If you are a good hearted person, and I'm sure you are, then it hurt you worse losing her trust than it did getting grounded,..Right? give it some time, good luck

Answer 5

She thinks you are a thief, because you are!

Stop stealing stuff and pay her back her $20. Or take back what it was you bought and get the money back to give back to her.

She will never leave her purse where you can find it now, that is if she doesn't lock it up. First, you are her family- how would you like it for her to take your money? Really. Second, she's trying to teach you if you did that anywhere else, not only would they be mad at you, but the person you stole money from would beat your @$$ to a bloody pulp. Third, if you think stealing is a good way to get what you want, you'll wind up just another little black girl in jail. Your mom is teaching you to be better.

Answer 6

That was very wrong but Im sure you already know that so I wont dwell on it. Paying back the money or twice what you took is great. But honestly its not about the money, shes mad because you violated her trust. The only way to get that back is with the aid of father time. Don't try to win her trust back with one big act of honesty. Do it over time by being honest and trustworthy. Think of it like this if your boyfriend violated your trust would he be able to win it back in one big act of honesty, I doubt it, well its the same thing with you and your mom. This might hurt her too because Im sure she didnt raise you like that, so she might be taking it personally. Just give her time and do the right thing from now on.

Answer 7

I do think apologizing is the first step. You are not going to earn the trust back over night. It will take awhile and it will be earned back by trustworthy actions. Words alone will not work. I do think paying her back, with either money or chores is the right think for you to do.. In the future, if there is something you want to buy talk with her about earning the money.

Answer 8

Of course it is, dear. It's not just the money, You have betrayed your mom's trust. Things may be a little rocky for a while. Tell her that you are sorry & that you won't do it again. Then accept whatever punishment she offers w/o complaint. Be sure to pay back the money as soon as you can. Be patient with your mom. Remember that she loves you, but this may take some time. Good luck.

Answer 9

only the person you stole the money from can determine how you will re-earn their trust again not you.
Your mom is right sweetie, you are a theif, you took her money without asking her permission and taking something without asking permission is stealing. You owe her an apology but gaining her trust again will be when she decides. Good Luck

Answer 10

Only time will win your mother's trust back. Stealing is a terrible thing to do, even if it is from your own mother. Accept that you are grounded and earn the money to pay her back. She let you off easy.

Answer 11

The only to win her trust back is by simply doing what you are told and not stealing from her. Only time will help this situation or you could make it worse by constantly trying to prove something. Talking to her might help but try sounding and acting like a responsible person and it might not take her as long.