What should i do? I have been with him for about two years now and i really love this guy, but lately he has just been so mean to me and he makes me cry alot, and im not a sensitive chick. but when he says certain things to me it just tears me apart. he has hit me once in a drunkin rampage, and i really dont want to face to the reality that hes doing these things to me....in fact yesterday i heard a rumor from his friends that he cheated with like a 14 yr old....im tired of all the lies and stuff but when i look into his eyes i just dont see him doing these things to me, i only see all the good things he has ever done for me and i cant forget about all these things but im just afraid to lose him. Im told im quite attractive so its not about getting another guy, its just that that guy isnt him. he's really a great guy when hes not doing these things to me......What should i do!?!
2006-08-26 09:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a relationship is causing you more pain than happiness, it's time to move on no matter how hard it is.
2006-08-26 09:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say your age; and 2 years is a long time. Has this been going on for the entire 2 years? Are you under 18.
We don't know how abusive he could get if you tried to split from him. My suggestion would be that you both cool it for a while, get more education, better job, get to church, get involved in other things like sports, and give him time to change. He doesn't sound to me like a good catch and I don't know what attracts you to him. Some people can have two sides to their personality and they are difficult to deal with even when you're close to their family. If you two do split I would suggest you not get with someone else immediately. Let things cool off.
2006-08-26 10:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then when he hits you in a drunkin rampage then you need to end the relationship and if he makes you cry by the things that he says to you then its time to move on cuz no guy is worth that!! you deserve better than that!!! move on
2006-08-26 09:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, if he is saying thing that make you cry then there is a problem, if he has hit you once then there is a problem, and if he is cheating on you with a 14 yr old girl then there is a problem,
NOW if you like having problems in your life then stay here in this problemed relationship,
If you like the other side of the coin the get the hell away from that problem as fast as you can because the future looks pretty gloomy from where i sit in front of my computer
2006-08-26 10:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him now before it's too late. HE has hit u, that should have been ur cue to get out of it. The first time a man hits u means he doesnt respect u anymore. Let it Go. There's sum1 out there 4 u
2006-08-26 09:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by fifie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Queen of deNiel. My mother in law was just that and eventually after a hand full of children and he was also emotionally abusive to the children she decided to cut her looses and move on. You are not married to him. I would let things cool and move on to some one else. Let him find some one else too. Emotional abuse can mean that for you children too. Is that what you want. My husband still carries a lot of emotional scars.
2006-08-26 09:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to face reality and realize he is abusing you. You can either try to work things out with him and/or get into couple's counseling or you can decide to leave. You shouldn't stay in a relationship where you are abused, cheated on, etc.
2006-08-26 09:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him! You are too young to even act like staying w/ him is an option! Plus, he doesn't care about you very much or he wouldn't continue to do hurtful things to you. Also, if you stay w/ him, that shows him that you have very low self-esteem AND THAT IS NOT AT ALL ATTRACTIVE! He won't have respect for you, AS LONG AS YOU DON'T HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF!!!!!!
2006-08-26 10:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had to leave a relationship with a drunk who would call me names and degrade me. If you leave you will in time be able to heal. You will give yourself a chance to meet a nice gentleman that treats you with the love and respect that you deserve.
2006-08-26 09:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him like a shitty pair of shorts. If he is a great guy when he is not doing these things, but he does these things all the time- that means he is not a great guy.
2006-08-26 10:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by d1goodguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋