I have a niece who turned 13 in May. She has a tatoo, body piercings, had sex wiith a 26 year old (now in jail), smokes cigarettes, sneaks out during the night, gave a black boy a B.J. (I'm not predjudiced, just letting you know). Her mother drinks beer every night. Has sex with different men, whether she knows them or not, has done crack, takes her medications with alcohol, etc. They move from one house, to one town to another state several times a year. The mom doesnt work; she's on "disability" for panic attacks. My niece is the youngest of 4 girls, the only child left still living at home. Her older sisters arent much better, so she can't depend on them to talk to for support. I feel like I should do something to help her before she ends up pregnant, with an std or worse. She doesn't live in a stable invironment obviously. Should I stay out of it or should I get more involved? She is only 13 and is way too curious about "adult" things and her mother doesn't seem to care.
2006-08-26 09:46:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that you need to notify the proper authorities. If you know about the things that are going on, you have a responsibility to report it.
2006-08-26 09:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If you're not prejudiced, why even mention 'black'. Just say she gave a boy a BJ...there's no need to mention race, black or otherwise.
2. You should get involved. Obviously, this girl's emotional well being has been compromised, and her future is grave if this is allowed to continue. You should contact child services near you in order to retain custody or guardianship until her mother gets herself together and realizes she's a mom (hopefully), so this kid can actually BE a kid while there's still time left.
2006-08-26 09:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is stay out of it, the girl is been neglected. The mother needs all the discipline, but you are not the most appropriate person to start giving it to her. Just pray that things would change for the good of both of them.
2006-08-26 09:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They move around a lot, so even if you notify authorities, they'll just sorta slip away. If you really care about yer niece, talk to yer sis about letting her daughter come & live with you instead. It's either that or she'll wind up in juvie soon enough.
2006-08-26 09:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report this to the Department of Children & Youth
2006-08-26 10:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st bless u for caring.2nd yes u should tell sumone. but also think abt the future. lets say u do get her out of there were will she go, will she stay with u, can u afford it besides financially, but emotionally, mentally, physically...???one thing is for sure she aint gonna be thankfull for everything u are doing,and it will be atlest a couple of years before she ever is. and wat if u cant then wat foster homes,?? will she b better off?? i`m not sure wat u should do.... but all i knw is that if u do take her in(and God bless u for even considering it) u cant go back cuz once ur in, ur in till the end.
gud`luck
2006-08-26 09:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should contact the department for human services and have a social worker work with her mother to improve her living situation.
2006-08-26 09:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by bigred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you need to get involved. Not that this is a good situation, but it will only get worse.
2006-08-26 09:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by albinopolarbear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either let her know now or let her kno in juvie in a couple of months
2006-08-26 09:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should definitley get involved! i would hire them a counselor or someone to help them out...
2006-08-26 09:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋