I hate that I am pregnant.?

Question

I am wondering if any women out there feel the same way I do. I have a toddler- in his terrible twos. This second pregnancy wasn't planned and I am so angry that I am pregnant!
I'm always a b****
I'm always crying
I not motivated to do anything
I have depression
I just can't deal with it right now.
I must add that I love the baby already and am 8 months, so abortion is not even an options please do not suggest such a thing. We wanted another but just not right now.

Maybe I should let everyone know - I was on th epill and took it correctly, the doctor just prescribed the wrong one.
AND, I am pregnant so telling me to keep my legs closed kind of doesn't make sense.

I am also married so not having sex during a marriage kind of doesn't make sense either

Answer 1

Oh boy, do I know how you feel.
I was in the exact same position five years ago.
I had a child she was beautiful and in her terrible two's and I got pregnant.
It threw me for a loop and from day one I was depressed and angry and yelling and screaming. It was awful.
Let me tell you right now - GET help - talk to your doctor - see a counselor. I had SEVERE postpartum depression because I refused to go on meds while pregnant. It was HORRIBLE.
After my son was born and I wouldn't hold him or even look at him for a month, my mother threw me in the car (even though I was 30 years old) and brought me to the doctor and told the doctor everything... she saved my life. they put me on Prozac immediately and I started going to therapy twice a week.
I got through it - it took about six months but I got through it. It was a struggle.
I highly suggest you go to your doctor and discuss it. Let them put you on something that is safe during your pregnancy. There are a few that are fine to take.
Good luck and email me anytime at [e-mail].
I have been there...

Answer 2

Talk to your ob-gyn to see if you can get on some type of anti-depression medication either now or as soon as you deliver. There are some meds that don't really have an effect on the baby and it might be safer for both you and the baby if you took something.

You probably don't want to hear this, but think of all the women out there who would love to be in your place but can't conceive. A baby is a blessing and there is a reason that this happened to you. You'll probably look back 6 months from now and wonder how you could've felt the way you're feeling now.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

OMG!!! Sweetie, i really know how you feel, the same thing happened to me, and she is know 16, i felt the same as you, loved the baby,but i just did not love myself, how i looked and how i felt, it was so hard. Especially having a toddler, who is heck, you are probably chasing all day long...........is there no one who you can talk to, or can come and help you, 8months, so you do not have long to go, i know that is is find for me to say that, as time seems to drag in the last few weeks,
My daughter who is only 17, just had a baby, so she was only 16, and was on the pill, she was sick and had to take antibiotics, and ended up preg, she had a very hard time carrying the baby,and i was there for her the whole way, tried to keep her motivated,we went out, for walks, planned for the baby, and just keep busy.. she went 3 weeks over, so that was even harder, also had a terrible birth, but all is well now, she has a beautiful baby, is a wonderful,Mum, so sweetie, things well come right for you, and soon it will be all over, I really feel for you, wish there was some magical answer i can give you, all i can say now, is be strong, if you need help, seek it, talk to your doctor, talk to someone who is close to you, can you go for walks, take you toddler for a walk, good luck and god bless.

Answer 4

Wow, I am not quit sure how to answer this one. I thought I had the answer right up until you said you were 8 months along. Not that it would have been the right answer, but it would have been ONE answer. All you emotions are things that are normal when you are pregnant but I think the fact that you didn't plan it are making things worse. Try to remember that this child didn't have a choice in this and that once he/she is born, will need all the love that any child needs. Try to remember all the love and joy you felt when your first child was born and I am sure once this child is here you will feel the same way.

I know way to much about how to feel to have depression and I know it is only making you feel more confused about your pregnancy. Just try to remember that you have a husband and friends out thereto help you through until you are able to get on some meds to help with the depression.

Try to be strong and remember that you always have friends and family to talk you through the hard times.

Answer 5

Let me tell you this story.I had a niece who was 20 she was married to a young man when she was 16 and pregnant these kids loved each other.
Their parents gave them a house and they had a beautiful little girl. They were happy and he had a good income.
Four years later they decided to have another child. The pregnancy went well except she had morning sickness the entire time. Her doctor had her on a medication for it . It seems that this medicine had a side affect of appendicitis attacks. During the eighth month her appendix ruptured.poisoning her body. The doctor refused to take the baby during the surgery although the surgeon felt they should. Her labor started in recovery. The doctor administered a drug to try to stop the labor. The labor continued and the medicine to stop the labor caused her lungs to fill with fluid causing congestive heart failure. The baby was born that day she had to be on oxygen which damaged her eyesight, but she is healthy. my niece, remained in intensive care for two months until she died.
Those girls are in college now. They have each other, their father, and four loving grandparents. Siblings are some of the best relationships one can have in life,Think of this as something you are doing for your children. Be happy each day and above all accept your blessings.

Answer 6

My suggestion is that you call your doctor's office and make an appointment. I also suggest you don't ask medical questions on "Yahoo! Answers"? The grammar alone should be a warning not to listen to the advice about issues as serious as this.
Try talking to your doctor or getting a book out. I've heard a lot about "What To Expect When You're Expecting," that would probably be a good investment for other things as well.

Answer 7

It isn't uncommon for women to have very strong reactions to their pregnancy due to the changes in their hormones. I'm guessing you're already seeing a doctor for your prenatal care. You might wish to speak to them (or if it's a male and you're uncomfortable speaking to him, choose a nurse in the same office that you're comfortable with) about your feelings and ask if there is a counselling service either in the office or in the hospital where you plan to deliver. These people are trained to help you deal with your problems. You might also (if you are in a financial position to do so) consider having a nanny/babysitter/housekeeper come to help you out even when you are at home. It can help a great deal with the stress that comes from dealing with your toddler.

Answer 8

Glad to here that you love the baby.Maybe you should stop thinking about what a bad situation you are in and start being thankful that you can even have children;before you know it the terrible twos will be over for both your kids and you'll be wondering where the time went so fast so be happy and look for the positive things in your situation!

Answer 9

First off don't listen to those who are not being kind!! Now u need to tell your doc if u havn't already, if you can take sometime for yourself each day do it. Remember to nap when your 2 year old does and stay postive. I have 2 kids that are 26 months a part and have felt the way you do. If you want to talk some more e-mail me [e-mail]

Answer 10

It's good to get your frustrations out. Just relax. Instead of looking at the negative things (i.e. timing), look at the positive things.

The last thing you want is to bring this baby into a world where it's mother is always stressed out. Calm down. Watch a good movie, go for a walk, eat some ice cream...it always helps.