I struggle with depression and don't want to get out of bed the the mornings Suggestions?

Question

I have a little saying: "I hate to go to sleep (because I know it is difficult for me to want to get up in the mornings) and I hate to wake up (because I don't want to get up and go and do) Once I do get up, get to work as the day progresses, even though I get tired from working, my outlook on life completely changes. Anybody have this problem and what have you done about it? Incidentally, I am on antidepressant meds now and have been on a variety of meds for about eight years. I have had a great deal of therapy and see a therapist every two weeks.

Thank-you

Answer 1

We must be twins separated at birth.
I hear ya.
You just feel like you're walking waist deep in mud, right? And then, later on in the day, you think, "Now what was that all about?"

Here are a few thoughts:
1. With autumn coming, you might be experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder... that might be putting you in a funk now.

2. Try to do something different everyday. Drive to work a new way... go to a new grocery store... anything. Somehow, it gets you out of a rut.

3. Have a motivational book by your bedside. Pick it up, point to any page and read a paragraph.

4. Walk. I've fought this whole exercise thing for decades. But, it does help.

5. On the days when you simply cannot get out of bed, don't feel guilty about it. The guilt just adds to the load you're carrying. (much easier said than done, though)

6. I don't know where you stand spiritually, but a little ,"Help me, please" message out to the universe can help a lot, too.

Hang in there.
You can do it.

Answer 2

I am very much like that. Not on meds or anything... Never sought help... Late to work often enough. Since I took up coffee and got a pot with a timer so coffee will be ready when I wake up... things have actually been a little better. Stupid maybe... but it's helped me a little. Start the day off with a treat that perks me up a little... no effort required.

I am pretty lazy about improving my situation in life though... Always feel tired. Probably is depression. My mother was pretty wacked-out and depressed most of the time. I think I'm more self-aware than she was... can act more "normal". Although, I do tend to just banish anyone who wrongs me from my life instead of trying to work things out. I have a pretty cynical attitude towards people I guess. Sometimes it seems like the right thing to do though, and I wonder how much less full of crap people would be if others didn't let them get away with it. I guess I have other reasons too. My brother, who I now realize is a true psychopath, is expert at using people's emotions and sense of right and wrong (among various other methods) to manipulate them... while having absolutely no compassion for others or conscience of his own. Depressed Mom, who blamed most of her troubles on her kids, wasn't much help there. I had to "play ball" with my brother until I was old enough to leave. I guess living with the worst of what people are capable of for so long has made me more than a little cautious.

Sorry I don't have the answer for you. Just figured I'd let you know you're not alone. Definitely let me know if you find the answer!!!

Answer 3

Therapists sometimes suggest meeting more often to accelerate progress. I would ask your therapist about doing that. Discuss the feelings you have with your psychiatrist and see if meds need adjusting or if there are others that can target the specific problem you are experiencing.

You don't mention if you take your meds regularly, but taking them at the same time of day and not missing can increase their effectiveness. Try different times, maybe the effect can help you at night if you take them late afternoon.

You don't mention exercise. If you don't, do some mild form of exertion between eating dinner and going to bed, leave an hour to rev down and get sleepy before expecting to sleep.

Good Luck and good job being in therapy and sticking to your meds!

Answer 4

Felling more sleepy than b4 is a part of the problem. The only way u can come out of such things is by coming outta depression itself. But this doesnt mean u will suicide or something I hope u get that.I know you r in a big problem, I've been through it too , but dont just rely on proffesionals. Try a way out by urself. Take it as a challenge and rationally analyse by remembering how u were b4 and the reasons why ur like this now.Try to keep on thinking positive.Depression for all experts say, is nothing but a change in the mental frame or point of view, just a few but significant mental blocks.

Answer 5

I go through the same things. I am currently not working because it had gotten so bad. Now all I think about is returning to work. Honestly I know work is not the answer. Do you have any people at home on a daily basis. This may help. Loneliness along with depression is really hard. Maybe your doctor could up the level of your meds. I have good days and bad days but more bad since my granddaughter left for college.

Answer 6

Since you have tried various meds, maybe the meds are just not helping. continue the therapy, but maybe you should try some self-motivation techniques. I used to post different sayings on my mirror to cheer myself up in the mornings. Also, have an activity that you would look forward to every morning. If you wake up to something exciting, then it will be easier to get yourself out of bed!!! It worked for me, no meds anymore. Life is more fun. Give it a shot, you'll be surprised!!!

Answer 7

I think people have suggested good things with upping or changing meds, and trying therapy more frequently, plus any little behavioral effort and cognitive work you can do. I have been on an anti-depressant that generally helped me, but I still had this terrible feeling as I woke up. It's a mix of sadness, apprehension, lack of motivation. I now started taking a little more of my anti-depressant at night, over and above what I was taking. But too soon to tell if it's going to help with that morning dread.

Answer 8

Sounds like your meds might need to be changed or increased. You should talk to your therapist/doctor about it and see what can be done medically to help you out.

Answer 9

I have the same problem and for me when i take antidepressants it makes it worse. I stay in bed and i don't clean my house and i don't pay my bills and i don't care what i look like. I guess everyone can't take antidepressants(i have been on all kinds of them they all do the same thing.)

Answer 10

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