If my 12 year old daughter is still sleeping with me what should i do 2 make her sleep by herself?

Answer 1

Also tell her that she will be starting her period soon which means that she is no longer a girl anymore, and that makes her a women. .what a stupid thing to say.....12 years old is still a CHILD you moron,NOT a women....my daughter is 15, she sleeps in my floor, she feels safer , I dont mind it at all...... for crying out loud people, let your KIDS be KIDS, kids these days act like FULL GROWN WOMEN, thats because we have stupid parents out there,,,,,,please let it be her choice when she sleeps in her room, the time will come when you will beg for her to sleep with you

Answer 2

tell her that she is becoming a lady and that if the guy she liked at school knew that she slept with her mom than he would change his mind about asking her out. Also tell her that she will be starting her period soon which means that she is no longer a girl anymore, and that makes her a women.

The minute a girl starts getting potty-trained should be the day that they sleep in their own bed and such. If she wears a bra, just tell her straight forward that she is a lady. she is going to get in her bed that you spent ur money on and that she is a little inmature *****. just kidding
just tell her the top!

Answer 3

Why do you hate your daughter?

Let her sleep in the same bed, she loves you and there is nothing wrong with it (as long as it's you know, sleeping and not something else).

It sounds like your daughter has a special bond with you, above what most girls of that age do. It's a GOOD thing. She'll move out when she wants to. Keep providing her with her own bed and her own room and let her choose. She'll eventually choose her own, just give her time.

Answer 4

Is it a requirement of the so called civilized western world that we push our children out of our bedrooms? It's interesting how conditioned and brainwashed americans are about raising children. Do you imagine that children of the 1800's or even 1900's all had their own rooms? What about children in other countries in Europe and other parts of the western world?

I think 12 is a bit old to be STILL sleeping in your parents room but if this behavior is a recent thing maybe there is a reason for it other than bad parenting. I remember when I was about ten I watched the movie Exorcist with some of the older teenage neighbor kids. I slept on my parents floor for weeks and weeks after that. Even though I shared a room, I was still afraid to sleep alone after seeing that movie.

Whatever the reason or cause of her sleeping in your room is you have to deal with this problem as best as you can. AS the saying goes you made your bed and now you must lie in it. Why don't you try sleeping with your daughter in her room so that she can get used to feeling safe in there and comfortable and then you can remove yourself from her bed gradually since if shes been sleeping in your room all this time banishing her to her room all of a sudden might make her feel abandoned or that she has been bad or that she is not loved and safe and secure. If this is a recent thing where she just recently began sleeping in your room then you have to talk to her and get to the bottom of why she is doing this and what are her fears of sleeping alone.

My son is almost 2 and he is still sleeping in our room in his crib. He wore a monitor when he was born so I wanted him VERY close to me and Im sure I will want the next one VERY close to me as well. Soon I will have another baby and I am not sure how to resolve this problem with infants because you can't really talk to them or reason with them as you can older children. I would hate to imagine the two of them having this problem when they are 12. I would feel like such a failure as a parent. I don't believe there is anything wrong with sleeping with your children because the true parents only love them and would never do something inapropriate or harmful for their health or well being and I am sure that when my kids are older I am going to miss all the nights they were infants and fell asleep on my lap or beside me while I watched them sleep and stayed awake to make sure they didnt fall off the bed. Parents probably miss having that closeness with their children when they enter adolescence and miss the time when they were small babies who slept on your lap but I think that children who reach a certain age and are still not able to sleep alone have had selfish parents who don't want to let them go or grow up and this cost the child a sense of identity and independence and well being.

What I am trying to say is..it's perfectly OK to sleep with your kids and there is nothing wrong with the love and closeness of family though I would not wish to have my kids in my bed everynight I would not push them out or object to them wanting to sleep with us on occassion. However, if your child for some reason can not sleep alone and has not made that transition by the age of 12 you have probably made some bad parenting decisions. By the age of 12 chldren should feel safe and secure enough that they can sleep apart from their parents.

Answer 5

i have been through the same thing with my 12 year old son. he just in the past three months started sleeping by himself. maybe this will happen with your daughter. good luck.

Answer 6

my niece did the same until she got her period and then she moved back into her room? If your a single parent this happens alot. My neice was scared of abandoment. If she doesnt have her period when she does get it might change. Maybe she needs to talk about her problem with a conselor. Something could be wrong.


Good Luck!

Answer 7

The better question, my friend, is "why have you allowed this to happen - you are the parent?" Good luck with that!