I found out in March that my Step dad had 6 months to a year left to live now this morning I've found out that my Dad is seriously sick and had surgory twice this week already need some supporting words to help me get though this. On top of everything else I start college on Monday work full time and I'm a single mom with a 2.5 year old son. Help me please
2006-08-26 08:28:25 · 7 answers · asked by MISSREBEL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Death though painful for others in the family, for the patient it might an end of a long gruelling suffering aliment or simply a chance to live a new life, all over again.
Now you will also need physical help in the coming months, to do your chores at times, hospital and household errands, and also for you to just be there when you get back exhausted, so find and create a smal group of close friends or relatives that you can seek out and ask for help when ever needed it as you will in day ahead. Dont shy from it, you have lots on your mind already.
2006-08-26 10:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. I don't know if there is anything that I can say that will make you feel any better. I had a similiar situation myself. I had two of my closest family members die a month apart, I had just started college, I was pregnant and newly married. All I can tell you is to cherish the time you have left with your loved ones and take it one day at a time. As a family lean on each other for support and if that's not possible then lean on your friends. You and your family will be in my prayers. God Bless.
2006-08-26 15:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have found youself, in a "Perfect Storm."
Focus and what you can do, you can make them proud by staying in school, you can spend a few extra minutes with them and tell them how much you love them. You can let them talk about thier feelings, are they afraid to die? What music to they want played? etc.
This is a very hard time, you will, at the end of the day be re evaluating what you belive about life and death and the veil which separates us.
Please do take advantage of any support group you can find, suffering is hard, but it is harder alone.
Make a point of reserving so you time, even if it is just a few hours a week. You need to recharge your battery!
2006-08-26 15:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by ms_books3736 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Missrebel!
Faith...Prayer!!!
Like one of the people below said. you have to be strong for your child and yourslef. Life is tough and sometimes we have crosses to bear. It is tough having both of these at the same time. I lost my father when I was 27 years old and had his death a hysterectomy and a divorce in 3 months time. My world came crashing down. YOU will survive, you have to be strong. If you have other family try to be with them. Family helps so much! Best wishes and keep in touch. I will try to comfort you and offer any help through this mail site as I possible can
2006-08-26 15:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to get a lot of non-thinkers trying to tell you this is god's way of being with them and that you should pray, but i'd probably get some counselling and perhaps check the little one into some grief therapy, or like-minded play groups. Death is never an easy thing to deal with, especially for children.
2006-08-26 15:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by krupintupple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is important to know is that life cannot exist without death. We live our lives to the best of our ability. I lost my father in 2001. He will be in my memories always. Remember, the all powerful (whoever or whatever he/she is) gave us life. You must carry on.
You need to be strong for yourself and your child.
Bless you, Pat
2006-08-26 15:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If -u- like to -u- can hit me on the messenger.Pearl g....and yes pray.ti is going to be all right...sorry to here the bad news
2006-08-26 15:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by pearl g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋