2006-08-26 08:00:28 · 13 answers · asked by scotty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a mom named scotty??? I don't think so.
2006-08-26 08:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not give enough infor for anything other than generic advice. There is a reason you two have not talked and the nature of the reason determines if and when you can reconnect. If you were involved with abuse toward this child then the now adult will or will not reconnect based upon his/her history with you. If your child was a creature and you left/ran to save your own sanity then you must creep back slowly.
If serious change in the more guilty/perp of the incident has not made and cannot demonstrate major, big time change in circumstances, it is hopeless. Problem is, adults don't change - they manipulate in the guise of change. Adolescents do this too. A therapist, pastor, etc. can advise you.
2006-08-26 08:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just open your mouth and talk.
3 years seems like a long time, but it is nothing.
I have reconnected with my son after 20 some years, so three is nothing
2006-08-26 08:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Comfortably Numb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called domestic abuse. You need couseling and to get away from such a man. I know 24 years of marriage is a lot to walk away from, but sooner or later he's going to snap and things will take a permanent dive for the worse. Don't believe me? Watch the real crime documentaries on MSNBC, CourtTV and others like them. Every day there are stories about men who gradually behaved worse and worse towards their families until they finally maimed or killed one or more of them. Your husband has a real problem. A BIG one, but if he won't even admit that he's doing anything wrong, he probably won't go into counseling. Get yourself into a program and get your kids into one. Start saving money and making plans now because one day you'll either have to leave him and stay far away from him...or you'll have to run the risk that your kids will turn out mentally disturbed (and at risk of becoming exactly like your husband) or that they'll get hurt or have to watch you get hurt. There is a plus side to all of this that you might not realize. Besides getting out of an abusive relationship, you'll also be able to figure out who you are now. That journey itself is very worthwhile and something you could become excited about. After 24 years of being someone's wife, it'll be an adventure to see who you can be by yourself. I know that's probably a daunting thought, but really it is very thrilling. I've been down that road and I found it to be a very freeing experience, one in which I felt the chain of years falling off of my shoulders day by day. The most important thing is to get you and your kids safe. Be careful how you go about it, but start working now on a way to get free and independant of him. My father wasn't as bad as your husband, but he was very bad until he started taking Paxil to even out his temper. Unfortunately, before a doc can give someone a med to help their temper and moods, that person first has to admit they have a problem and seek help. If you can get your husband to do this, then great. If not, get help for you and your kids without delay. Good luck.
2016-03-26 20:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start, be thankful that you want to re-connect, my father drops in and out of my life at points that suit him, when i call and say that i need him, he lets me down.
i wish that he felt the same buzz that you do,
your child will feel it all too, even if they are stubborn.
parent and child is a bond forged with love and caring.
phone them,write a letter, as a parent myself , do whatever it takes.
we never know when time will pass and the opportunity has been lost forever.
be humble, be caring, be gentle
2006-08-26 08:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by david k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you abandoned your child, be the first one to tell him how sorry you are for being a horrible parent. Call him/her just to say hi and ask if he/she needs anything. Forget monetary help, money does not buy love. Love is earned. Don's ever try to put the blame on the other parent or whoever raised that child.
If you want to start being good, do it right. Whatever your child is been through is the parents responsibility. Try to fix it.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 08:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try getting a neutral 3rd party to mediate, especially if there's a good reason why they don't want to talk to you (did you abuse them, do drugs, what's the deal?); a priest would be a good place to start or a therapist/counselor.
2006-08-26 08:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call , write or just go visit. There are only 6 things that stop you .Your 2 feet, the front door,your lips and hands.
2006-08-26 08:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by The Main Man at Yahoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him or her up and open you heart and let him or her know that you still love him or her and just talk for hours if some one i care about didn't talk to me for 3 years then i would really love that
2006-08-26 08:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by image of the invisible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is part of yr own body tied with strong relation. you can start with
1.Come closer my boy. or
2. How are you my son.
2006-08-26 08:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by rameshwar25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him by name-he will say ,yes mom.
2006-08-26 08:08:58 · answer #11 · answered by Rana S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋