Caretaker for grandchildren?

Question

I have a grown daughter who is really trying to support her family but in doing so,she has to work 2 jobs.I dont tell her how this is effecting me ,so she doesnt get upset or feel guilty Her husband moved on and since then has cut his hours of work and doesnt have money,or so the courts say,to give support to her.I in return watch her two children, 2 and 10,because daycare isnt an option and its not affordable it anyways.I pick up my grandson from school and take him there also.I do his homework with him and cook.I dont want to resent this but I am starting too.Dont advise me to go to church because she works 7 days a week and cant drive cuz I have epilepsy.I have it under control with meds but I still am not allowed.My seizures only last a short time and I always know when they are coming on but for a few minutes I dont know what I do.I always go into the garage so I dont throw something or drop something so I am not a problem with the children.I am just burnt out and need some rea

Answer 1

Oh, you poor dear! My first advice is for you to pray. This always helps. Pray God will bless your daughter with ONE good job and pray for her husband to grow up and come back to his responsibility as father and husband. Second, you need to have a calm, loving and understanding talk with your daughter. If you can speak nicely, she won't get offended and will be more willing to try to discuss a change. Also, have her check out this website, assuming the company is in your state. My husband has been there 7 years and the money is awesome, the benefits are even better. This would make a great career for her instead of a job (Journey Of the Broke). She could also sell Mary Kay, very small start up, but AMAZING money making possibilities, plus insurance and retirement as well and she works from home. For info on Mary Kay, email me

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Answer 2

First of all your daughter needs to see if she qualifies for county assistance. Don't let pride (on either part) stand in the way of getting help when you need it. The 2 year old would qualaify for WIC, so that's a small help.

She may be able to cut back on her work, and only work one job that way. I don't know where you are, but a lot of states offer child care assistance for low income families. And she, and you, sound like that.

You need to find out if you are eliglble for SSI, and apply for it, if you haven't already. I need to learn how to type again! LOL

TANF And Food stamps are available, as well as Child Care assistance. I as on it for a long while as a single parent of 2, until I made enough money to be able to do it on my own. Then I got married, and we still stayed on it, because between the two of us we still didn't make a lot.

You need some downtime for yourself. She'll need the same thing from the sounds of it. Is there any other family that can or would help out for a weekend or something?

Answer 3

Check with your local Social Services to see if there are any programs you can get the kids into, or if there is anyone who can help with the childrens' care from time to time. There may be some local non-profit organizations near you that could offer help as well.

Answer 4

She should qualify for daycare, have her check on it, its called 4-C in my area, you could find information through the welfare dept.

Answer 5

Its not your problem.