I don't know where I stand with this girl. Please help!?

Question

... so I eventually went out with this girl. We'd been flirting eversince we met and just a few days ago, we went to a bar with live music. Everything was perfect. Lots of kissing later that evening. And I did have a feeling it wasn't just some calf-love. She suggested going to the movies the next day. That night we both went to our homes. The next morning I sent her a text message mentioning the movies. All of a sudden I got a reply: "You know I'm kind of busy these days, I have a lot of studying to do [she has some physics and math exams at a local university coming], so I would like if we saw each other after I've done my exams [two weeks from now]." I sent her some nice messages - even saying that I fully respect ..., that I miss her presence ... etc, but she always takes forever to reply if at all. The problem is that she says she does everthing but study. What should I do? Should I stop contacting her and hope she'll reply or should I keep trying? I don't want to lose her!!!

Answer 1

Maybe you have already lost her.She is stringing you along.Taking advantage of your good nature.She can't be studying that hard that she can't answer a quick text.My advice to you is stop txtin her so much.She will no doubt come crawling back to you.She has you wrapped around her little finger.So stop & get on with your life.in 2 weeks your gonna get a call from her.If not at least you didn't waste your time & wreck your head thinking about wheather or not she is gona call.

Answer 2

Sounds like you really are interested in this girl. Give her the two weeks she needs to study for exams. She might not say when she studies, but she probably does.

I know when I have exams it's hard to have a life. I see it two ways: Either

a) She really likes you and doesn't want to go any farther until her exams are finished so you don't get in the way of her studying

or

b) she gave you the two week notice deal as a brush off

either way, just wait out the two weeks. Stop texting her and calling her. Let her know you'll be around when she's ready.

She'll respect that.

Answer 3

Lose her.

Sounds cold and I'm sorry, but it's entirely too early in the relationship for games and all.

Not for anything bud, but telling someone you went out with only once that you "miss their presence" may have been coming on a little strong. The intensity may have scared her off.

Either way, regardless of the reason, I'd walk away for now and let her contact you. If she's interested, you'll hear from her. If not, you'll save both of you a lot of time, grief and embarassment if you don't pursue it.

Not what you want to hear, I know, but the best course of action isn't always what we'd like it to be.

Answer 4

I think she already told you where you stand. Right now her priority is making sure she passes her exams (smart girl). If she wasn't interested in you she wouldn't have given you a two week time period for which to call her back. She would have just left it as I am busy, don't call me, I'll call you. Give her the space she requested and after the two week contact her to ask her out. If you keep sending her emails when she is busy, you will lose her because she will feel smothered and pressured.

Answer 5

You need to give her a little space. She asked for that two weeks so give it to her. I'm not saying to stop messaging her but maybe not so often. Just give her a reminder every few days that you are thinking about her and hope that she is doing well with her studies.

Answer 6

Yes, I would, it sounds like shes playing u... she probably doesn't want anything serious, and u seem like u fell for the chick after a date... some chicks, including myself, treat dates as such... just a date... if we wanna see u, we would contact u ... and when we take forever to reply its because we really dont want to talk to u... im sorry we are mean...