he said he loved me thats he mad about me its been going on about six months we've been away today we have sex most of the time we are together
2006-08-26 07:33:13 · 31 answers · asked by syarwoodolsj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what u do is go dine out
2006-08-26 15:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore the god botherers and the burn in hell brigade... **** happens and every now and again we fall for someone we shouldn't. i've been having an on off affaire with a maried man for years now. we are both in the same position nd are under no illusion that either of us will leave our respective families and run off into the sunset. due to the distance of the towns we live in, we communicate mainly via e-mail and we do have times when it can get too much and one of us has a tantrum. what i tend to do is give the guy some space, leave him be for a while then send a brief chatty mail to start the conversation again. never put any pressure on him to leave his wife and family - he'd have done it by now if thats what he really wants. they way i look at it, i'm fulfilling a need and getting something from someone else that i don't get with my partner. if i do this then i'm happier and my home life is better. it's only society that says we shouldn't love more than one person. don't go telling his wife - you run the risk of the kids losing their father and you losing your fella and the wife losing everything. i know i sound cold and hard, but that's the way life is.
2006-08-29 05:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by emma a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away, having sex most of the time isn't really a building block for a stable relationship. It sounds like thats all he's using you for. Anyone can say the words I love you, it's the gestures that go with it that make it real. And besides he's married would you want to be in his wifes shoes.
2006-08-26 14:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by ada wong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married men lie a lot !!!
They will say and do anything to maintain your illusion that you are the only one he loves and that someday he will leave his wife(who he only stays with for the sake of the children) and come live with you.
He Lie's to his wife about who he was with and where he has been.
He lies to himself that it it not going to hurt anyone by doing this
as long as he does not get caught.
There is a good chance your relationship will never come to anything.
to save yourself from any hurt you must make a decision early in the relationship.
Am I in it for the sex?
can I walk away from this now
do I love him enough to let him have us both without moaning.
am I patient enough to wait a long time in the hope of getting him.
am I just waisting my life away when I could be happier with someone else.
Then make a decision and stick to it and don't spend your life living a fantasy world.
I know I have had many affairs in the past and hurt a lot of people on the way.
2006-08-26 15:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Harry H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh dear ... well as a man of 40 / 4 children .... all i can say is iv been there...
I had a 2 month affair with my wife's best friend... and we ran away to some crap hole in Yorkshire with HER kids..!! ....
I must have had a brain warp .... Her kids are all from different fathers ( The local slapper i think ) .... But Love is blind ( Sex is another matter ) ...
she gave me more Happiness that i will ever have , She was a real woman with feminine feelings , Things my wife will never have....or could ever be...
Now 2 years on ...i live a lie every day ...i think of her evey day and wish i was with her .... So all i can say is life is a C U N T ...and i live every day in Hope. .... Nuff Said..
2006-08-26 14:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question? Honestly, judge a man by his actions, not his words. He has a self-serving ego if he is cheating on his wife. Shame on you for coming between a man and his wife, regardless of his obvious FAILURE. If you want a measure of happiness in life - respect yourself enough to demand marriage before you 'give away the milk'. Step Girl.
2006-08-27 18:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Russ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to air the problem in public? When you have an affair with a married man, try not to ruin his family and think more about his character.
2006-08-26 14:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ina K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeelll Hon'ee - you call up the wife and let her have an earfull. You knew before the first time you "Flat Backed" for him where this was going - so now that you got the expected outcome - give him the great unexpected surprise. Call the wifey.
2006-08-26 15:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having an affair with a married man. If he cheats on his wife with you, chances are he's going to cheat on you with someone else
2006-08-27 09:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by skt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come to your senses and delete his number from your phone. Don't answer his calls. Get your pals round for dinner and drinks, get your a*se out on a hillwalk, occupy yourself and keep reminding yourself that this fecker has stood up in front of all his family and pals (who most likely you'll never meet) and promised to be with someone else for the rest of his life. Of course he's mad about you - you are having regular rampant sex and he wants to continue it. Who wouldn't? There's someone else further down your path that will want to stand up in front of their family and pals and be with you for the rest of your lives. Get shot of this guy, he's getting in the way of that. Good luck.
2006-08-28 08:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having an affair with a married man. If he cheats on his wife with you, chances are he's going to cheat on you with someone else.
2006-08-26 14:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by tw0cl0n3m3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋