i've been in two relationships,both with guys that had like EVERYTHING in comman with me but both the relationships ended abpruptly,i'm kinda a talker,i don't talk too much but everyone says i'm funny and love to b around me and thats how those guys were too....do u think it's better if i get together with a shyguy?theres this guy i really like n he's a shyer guy...ssso would it work out do u think? he likes me too....
2006-08-26 07:19:49 · 41 answers · asked by Albee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes
u might think that you are alike.
deep down some where there is a part of his/her personality that is different from the other.
it also helps to know that the person truly does know there self and want theyu want in life.
2006-08-26 07:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. You need someone who you will be able to relate to. Perhaps, someone who has the same values you have and other perspectives that you think are important in a relationship. However, opposites do attract. Its always good to find someone who will offer you new ways of thinking, someone who will offer you a new perspective on certain issues, someone who's difference reflects a side of you, you may be afraid to show. If you like this guy who's on the shy side, go for it. But don't base your decision on whether or not he's different than you are. I'm sure the reason that your past relationships didn't work out isnt only due to the fact you had so much in common. But if anything just follow your heart.
2006-08-26 07:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by GC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, yes opposites can balance out a relationship. I have a friend who's shy and timid yet his gf is outspoken and loud. This kind of balance makes it easy for each other to get used to. Someone is always pulling and the other is fine going along with it.
Think about if it were the other way around. Someone wants to do this but the other wants to do that. Would probably end up in a fight right?
2006-08-26 07:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by mikeyclipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it and don't worry if what you have is common or not. Just make friends and enjoy each others company. Learn more of what you like and don't like, but not because some "hot" guy likes it.
Please don't jump in the sack just to "make him love you" or because he will leave you if you don't. If he leaves because you won't get in the sack with him, your better off without him.
Be aware of what the other guy is saying or not saying and learn when to shut up. Some women don't know when and there are times when listening becomes more important than talking. You can not listen and talk at the same time. Try to take your time.
Meet a shy guy or two, listen and learn. And please be SAFE!
2006-08-26 08:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by prowellness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're asking two questions here.
In regards to "do opposites attract", they do, but that is only looking at one side of the picture. The best long term partner is someone who can compliment your weaknesses and vice versa (hence the opposites), but who also has goals and traits that mesh with your own. Take my husband and I, I am a strong and independent woman, but I am very outgoing and extroverted and to some extent I "need people" quite a bit, I am also a control freak, your classic type A personality. My husband is strong and independent as well, but he is introverted, although well versed in his communication skills (meaning he talks, but he doesn't use talking to work through problems), he is a laid back, classic type B personality. I make sure things get done, he makes sure that our relationship survives by forcing me to "stop and smell the roses" when I'm getting overwhelmed. But, we are both goofballs, rather childlike in many of our personal traits that no one would know unless they lived with us, we are both incredibly sentimental, we both love to discuss current events and philisophical ideas, and we love sitting and doing absolutely nothing together. We are opposites, yet we are the same.
In regards to your second question - my humble opinion is that it never hurts to go for it. I went through all different types of men before I found my husband. And when I found him, it was apparent we were meant to be (with a lot of hard work of course). But you never know until you try....
If you like him and he likes you - go for it. My husband can chatter, but some days he loves nothing more than sitting, playing his video games while I talk for hours about my latest "idea". And there are many days where that ability to take it all in stride means the world to me.
2006-08-26 07:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by thoughtfulwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most respects having things in common is a positive factor. It's good if you have the same religious beliefs, same life goals, same culture/ethnic backgrounds, same likes and dislikes.
However in some respects being too similar can hurt the relationship. Sometimes similar personalities will grind against eachother. The idea here is to complement each other's personalities. If you're a talker and your partner is quiet, you may feel that he doesn't communicate. However, if you're a talker and your personality helps him to express himself, then you're a match.
2006-08-26 07:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your a teenager you have a long way to go to know what to do in a relationship. Your just a kid.
You dont' pick who you are going to be with like your looking for jeans in an old Navy. Who knows who you will get.
One thing I know many guys get sick of a talkative girl after a while. Learn to stop talking at times and listen. Give and take.
Who knows you will end up with.
2006-08-26 07:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I'm kind of a talker".......Sometimes talking too much when you are with a guy may "turn him off" if he feels he can't get a word out because you are too busy talking about yourself or friends, etc. People love talking about themselves, so showing more interest in a guy and asking more about him & not hogging the conversation may help and being more low key with him especially when your around your friends or his friends may help too (no one like an obnoxious girl. Not so much being with a shy guy will prove that would be better for you. Yeah, a shy guy may be neive (or not) and listen to you because "wow, a girl that likes me and talks to me." Of course he's going to listen....Go out with him and see what happens if you really like him that much.
2006-08-26 07:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by cherry-o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes opposties attract for that very reason. Some men dont like bantering (excessive lalala chats bout nothing important or to tlak about nothing or complaints, give ur self a breather in between and the best thing to do is listen as men like women who listen adn pay attention to details, they like uplifting energy and happy things .. if they wanted a lot of talk perhaps they woulf stay home and chat to their moms the never ending chatterer of all life ..they are like u they want to be heard but they may not let out al things in their mind in verbalness.rest breath and take things slow listen carefully who they are what they are saying .. old saying .. talk is cheap. try to listen more. theres a message. remember as well men are more attracted to pyhsical& women are more for emotional..
2006-08-26 07:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes It can happen. But it works the best with open minded, non controlling, curious people that enjoy others different way of expressing themselves. This seems awkward, but reality is that most of us want relationships with people that do the same things, think alike, and that leads to routine. I personally like opposites, as it is really interesting to explore, investigate, relate, and of course learn.
2006-08-26 07:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Apollo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if everyone knows this but the shyer guys are usually the guys who are considered to be 'decent guys' so I say go for the shy guy contrary to popular beleif they do have things to say and are not very boring
2006-08-26 07:29:15 · answer #11 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋