My boyfriend Respects me and loves me, and I heard that if you have sex with them, Than it will mess up the relationship. well my boyfriend said He'll wait as long as i need till im 100% ready.. So i think im 100% ready, and hes waited like a Month, and his birthday is soon.. So i was thinking about giving it to him for his birthday. Do you think it will mess up our relationship??
2006-08-26 07:15:19 · 28 answers · asked by ohhemmgeethatshawt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on the guy
some guys start getting it and keep taking and taking with out worrying about your needs. (human nature)
others realize the importance of giving back.
if he is willing to wait .......... probably not.
relationships usually always need to be refreshed eventually.
that's where arguments and most fights begin. most people end it here, but that is wrong use that for both of you to realize that life has separated you and you have neglect ted each other some were.
live well laugh often love much.
2006-08-26 07:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
If you asked this question, you are not ready! You will be ready, when you wont have ANY doubts! You still have some don't you, that's why you wrote to this forum. I am sure you will find a nice birthday present for him. Sex does not mess up a relationship, it makes it better, but you have to sure about it. Just wait till you are really 100% ready, if you want an occasion, Halloween is coming, and you could dress into something sexy for him then.
2006-08-26 14:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make 100% sure you're ready because it usually doesn't, but sometimes a man will become uninterested afterwards. But you know your man best. If you have built a good relationship and respect eachother then everything will be fine. You mentioned that he's waited a whole month, but that's not very long. Well, if you guys are young & you have only been together a month then maybe you should think about waiting longer. I know it's hard but it's true that if he really cares & loves you he will wait as long as you want him to.
2006-08-26 14:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can make or break a relationship. If you have bad sex, you might feel awkward around each other, or one didn't like it and doesn't want to and the other loved it and wants it all the time. And if you have good sex, one of you might want it all the time and the other might not feel that way, or the both of you might want it all the time but you're too busy to, which might affect the relationship also. It can complicate things, I do suggest waiting longer because one month isn't that long at all, make sure you are right for each other before getting to that step. But if you want to for YOU (don't do it for him), then go ahead, you can make your own decisions, everyone's different. But if things don't work out (whether it's because of sex or not), don't hold onto things, just let go and move on.
2006-08-26 14:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by *♥T0mb0ygirlygurl♥* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a solid foundation to build a house (ex: trust , morals, code of ethics, things u agree on important issues, respect) if you have a foundation build on mud or lose soil ( iffy things not knowing each others ways yet, attitudes of real serious things that happen,knowing what they would do or choose- lack of caring, not much substance u know yet of them ) then your house falls.. and crashes. Point- do it for love and ready and desire as once u go over that line no going back do it for mutual readiness and for love not for experience. Some take advantage of it..and use it to get what they want.. or take it away until u do what they say. You and only you should know if one is controlling you or if your controlling U
2006-08-26 14:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great boyfriend. It's really up to you. I learned that there are 3 L's that make a successful relationship. "Love, Likeability, and Lust". Sex will rarely mess up a relationship, if anything, it will renew it in some ways.
As long as your ready and responsible, there is a new path of love you have yet to experience. Good luck!
2006-08-26 14:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by mikeyclipse 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One month is not really that long, and you can always buy him something for his birthday. I that if you really care for this guy and you want it to work out, give yourself more time and enjoy the romantic non-sexual part of your relationship a little longer.
2006-08-26 14:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not if you have building a relationship with him. I waited and got married but we were not sexually compatible and it ended in divorce. If he is waiting for you its your decision and when you are ready then do it not just because of some date or event.
2006-08-26 14:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait if you want to grow with this person. I wish my boyfriend and I would have waited we started at fifteen and now were 21 about to get married and think about it having a honeymoon that is suppose to be so special but you've had this person so many times already. So please enjoy getting to know one another and have lots of fun without sex.
2006-08-26 14:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are ready than just go ahead with it. having sex with your bf won't mess up the relationship it's just that you are moving on to the next stage that all. but if you ain't sure about it i suggest don't do it.
2006-08-26 14:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by scropie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋