How can a family be this disfuntional?

Question

To put it simple I don't know what to do. All i want is to go away from them and be alone but i can't even find a job maybe its because i'm only 16. How much emotional abuse can one person take for their whole life. I've tried everything but all it leads o is chronic depression. I just want to go add be alone but how can i survive if all i have is an entire familyy that cause more pain than comfort..can u help me maybe with advice or a succes story

Answer 1

I know what you are saying. When you live with an emotionally abusive family sometimes it can lead to you abusing things in your life. But all I can say is,reach out,volunteer, if you volunteer one year for a job and do good work,the next year they will most likely hire you permanantely. As for the family things,you have two more years to tolerate them. But make plans,planning is always important when you are craving such freedom.
I'm 17, I live with over zealous family whose only motivation in life is religion. For the next year I'm going to be planning for my future. Think of going to colleges far away from home. Make sure you take the right classes and can obtain the right grade,because once you turn 18,graduate from school,and your having life elsewhere, fixing your family issues may become something you can do with them,and it can help you mend anything from a distance. But hope that helps :]

Answer 2

You have to just keep telling yourself your going to make it out of that madhouse one day. Involve yourself in your freinds, school, and sports, I wouldnt recommend getting involved with a guy. They are very comforting but can also make problems a lot worse. Thats what i did. i couldnt handle my family anymore so i started going to my freinds and drawned it out all the wrong ways. If you can make it better by getting involved with school and sports. You could be out by the time your 18 which for you is only two more years. Since i made my situation worse by getting pregnant i got to move out when i turned 20. You make choices in life and they lead you down different roads. Make sure its the best choice for you. You dont want to look back and be like damn i wonder if I'd just done this a little be different where would i be?

Answer 3

The key to freedom has always been, and always will be, getting a good education. I know this is a hard thing to do when you're stuck in a family where you feel unloved. But start thinking about a future career path and work hard to reach that goal. You will then be free to create your own home environment where you will feel safe, secure, and loved. You will also have a career that you enjoy and are interested in. Hang in there... you can do it!

Answer 4

You need to be strong and also to confide in someone who can help and who you can trust.
There are organisations out there that can help,if in uk have you tried phoning childline? they will give good advice. Look on internet for different organisations.
There is also mediation, where you can sit and talk to your family with someone trained to help.your family may not know the extent of how you feel and once they know things may improve, I noticed 1 reply has asked you to email her, take her up on this,it will be good to know you're not alone.But like everything on the net, do not give your personal details or arrange to meet this person.
I wish I could help more!
Good luck x

Answer 5

Since you're only 16 you'll have to bide your time with your family.
However you need to See someone to talk about your problems, with that I mean you need to vent. Do you have a good teacher, pastor, anyone? Do you have a part time job? If not, get one, it gets you out of the house. Try hard in school, it gives you better opportunities to get out. My Father was a tyrant and I used to pray that he wouldn't come home one day, but he did. After I finished school I went to work to earn enough to share an apartment with a room mate. You just need to hang in there.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

Talk to a trusted relative about finding a place to stay, confide in one of your teachers. There is a way out. People will help you if they know you need it.
You can also emancipate yourself and pay your own expenses. If that is not feasible hang in there 2 more years. I care. I wish I could help you. May God bless and keep you. I am praying for you.

Answer 7

Is it really bad treatment are are you just angry with them, what I mean is - teenagers have hormones and anger at lack of freedom, rules, not being allowed to see their boyfriends/friends, being grounded etc. What I am saying is, is this real stuff, real abuse or just the usual parents and teenager stuff. If you are really suffering, then please call childline, they can help you.
I personally left home at 15, got a job, a flat and never looked back, its not easy, but its possible. I wish you luck.

Answer 8

when i was younger, i used to ask god, 'why me?', a lot. my family's a mess. and my childhood was not really a lala-land. as i grew up..wel, to cut the story short, i now live with a motto or saying
"i felt bad when i saw someone who had no shoes until i met someone who had no feet"
it made me feel content with my life and keep me up for the positive things in life. by remembering that there is much worse situation in this world. if i were you, i probably look for someone i can trust and talk to them about my problem.

Answer 9

hah be happy your family is disfunctional because if it wasnt i would wonder who is having sex with some one their not suppose to, like the daddy n the daughter or the momma and the son, or the uncle n the daughter, u get the point, as nasty as it sounds im serious, if we werent disfunctional ( my family included ) we would no longer be normal, and remember this your family isnt what you get to choose n thys life, you get to choose your friends, and you cant help what someone does to you only your actions, your 16 baby you only got two years just keep it in your mind that this isnt the life you will have when you get older you will eventually find happiness

Answer 10

that sounds like me lol..im the oldest child out of 2 so my mom, dad and brother are all 3 the same they can do the same things, eat the same things and get on just fine..im the different one who always speaks her mind and doesnt wanna do what they want...i had so much emotional problems as a teen and me and my mom hated each other...she used to say i wasnt wanted i was stupid, fat, etc...she hit me and screamed at me 24/7....they caused me more pain when they shud love me the most..i got married 2 years ago and im 21 now so i moved out since then my mom loves me so much and we get along just fine..i dunno what it takes..patience and time..im sorry for how you are treated and i know it sucks cuz i've been there before...try to get counselling or tell someone about your problems!