long distance relationships?

Question

i've heard that if a guy doenst find the time to call/email/talk online with his gf EVERYDAY in a long distance relationship, it means that hes cheating on her. is this true? could he possibly just be trying not to seem desperate or anything like that? i've heard that even if he is busy he will MAKE time to communicate with her if he truly does love her; he will always "chase" after her if he really does love her. I would like to hear from some guys please. Thanks

Answer 1

I'm a guy, and yes, if he's truly "into" you, he will find time to talk to you each and every single day. It might not be for a long period of time, but he will at least say "hello", and tell you he loves you. If he is not doing that, he's not dedicated to you. Ask him point blank what is going on!

Answer 2

"EVERYDAY" ... I don't have time EVERYDAY to communicate with people. Maybe he is genuinely busy. If he's busy with a career and a life then I wouldn't be concerned. If he is unemployed or you are CERTAIN (and you never really can be) that he doesn't have many extra-curricular activities maybe be a bit concerned. But from someone who has tried MANY long distance relationships ... and been through my fair share of troubling circumstances I have learned a few things:

1. Evaluate your honest opinions about a person. If it doesn't feel right, if you HONESTLY feel like he's cheating on you, or lying to you. Then you aren't effectively communicating to trust that person.

2. A person should make time to communicate with a loved one daily. But let's be serious, in a fast paced world sometimes its not feasable. If he's calling almost every day. I think thats good enough. You really shouldn't be waiting around for him to call either. LIVE YOUR LIFE! (I have learned this the hard way).

and finally,

3. Maybe he wants to call you for a quick goodnight, btu you like to carry on long conversations, and he really IS busy and just doesn't have time for that, so in his mind its better not to call at all than to be stuck on the phone for hours.

Whatever answer you choose to believe, try to remember in all relationships to hold your own, and not to be fully dependant on someone, it becomes a HUGE turnoff, not to mention a HUGE problem come time to break up and move on.

Answer 3

well, from my own personal experience, i've had two long distance relationships in my life and learned that if they love you, they will be true to you. In both cases, they were true to me, although we didn't talk everyday. Things come up, work, school, etc. Yeah, they should MAKE time to communicate, but guys are sooo different from girls. Don't let your mind play tricks on you to make you think he's out desperately looking for someone new. He's probably just busy. HOW DO I KNOW THIS? Well, my first long distance ended, because I found someone months after I moved. He begged me to not leave him :-( And my second long distance relationship, well, I married him and now have 2 beautiful kids together. :-)

Answer 4

as a rule, unless the guy is so busy he is going to find the time AT LEAST ONCE A DAY to communicate with his girlfriend. usually it is going to be at night. it is going to be in the back of his mind that she might be playing around. if he is communicating 4 or 5 times a week then i wouldn't say he is cheating but i would say he feels you are not!
that is all i can tell you! a guys horns are up on a daily basis so don't let the long distance romance go on to long!

Answer 5

its not true mayb the guy is busy. y is it that every girl goes and thinks right away about the negative? why do u girls do that? besides long distance relationships are a failure from the start its bullshit. i had one didnt work out it was ridiculously difficult. unless u two are really in love. i see u dont trust him enough because u think he is cheating if he doesnt call u once. so wat kind of a relationship is that? i wouldnt do long distance cause the girl can be cheating and i dont know or vice versa. its possible in long distance relationship i can call and say i love her yet i have another girl in my bedroom at the same time. so i wouldnt deal with those type of relationships.

Answer 6

u watch too much tv girl. u would like for him to call/email/ or talk with u online but in this choas world that we live in now sometime we just don't have the time too or there is so much going on in his mind that he forget. guys are forgetfull. we men don't even call u women everyday in a regular relationship. so once in a while he call just say that u would love to more from him and ask if he would call u more. now if he doesn't call/ email or talk online with you at all i say it's time for u to move on.