how can i get my 4 year old daughter out of nappies at night? PLEASE HELP?

Question

She has been tested for diabetes cos she pees a lot but she is just lazy and i tried giving her incentives but she will stand on the landing and scream all night for a nappy and i have 2 other children to think about so i can't just let her scream in the hope eventually she will go to sleep as she is a very stubborn child

My other children are 6 yo and 7 mths old and my baby is dryer than my 4 year old and my baby sleeps all night

Answer 1

Very difficult one.Some are quicker than others at this.Have you thought about a buzzer.

Answer 2

I agree with alot of the other answers, I would definitely stop the drinking at least an hour to an hour and a half before bedtime. If you are the type of parent that agrees with rewarding, which I am then try the wee wee fairy or what ever it was the other answer suggested. If that doesn't work, then try the plastic cover under the bed sheet and let her cry for that nappy but do not give in, let her pee the bed, if it really is laziness, she will get tired of having to get up and get changed every night. Good luck with this.

Answer 3

Is the nappy wet when you take it off?? If so I wouldn't take it off her as then you would be changing all the bed sheets. As long as she keeps it on and is getting a good nights sleep then I would keep up with it. My son is 3 and will not wear nappies/pull ups or anything like that and wets the bed constantly. I am washing every day. This is more work then changing the nappy. Otherwise I do believe in limitting their fluid intake & taking him to the toilet before bed - This sometimes helps and I don't get a wet bed in the morning & broken sleep changing the sheets in the middle of the night. Good luck but what may seem like work to you now may actually be saving you time in the long run.

Answer 4

Is it just that she wants to wear a nappie and she's dry all night? Or is it that she still wets the bed?

If she is dry all night, I'd keep putting it on her but every night tell her that "When "X" day comes, you'll be a big girl and won't need nappies anymore." Christmas, birthday, whatever day you choose but make sure it's several months in advance. When the day comes, no more nappies cold turkey. Do this on a weekend so if she screams you can just ignore her.

If she still wets the bed, her body probably hasn't matured enough for totally control at night. My 5 yo still wets the bed from about once a month.

Answer 5

Get a plastic sheet, put it on her mattress. Let her go to sleep with a nappy on, then when she's asleep, take it off. In the morning, offer her loads of praise. If she asks where the nappy went, tell her the nappy fairy decided she was too old and left her a present for being a big girl (having a little present for her will help.....lol). The key is to make no fuss whatsoever when she wants a nappy, but praise her to the roof beams when she doesn't.

Answer 6

at 4 years old shes still not guaranteed to be dry at night, my kid is 5 in a couple of weeks and he still occasionally wets the bed, if it makes her sleep then put a pull up on here when she gets ready for bed , make sure she goes to the toilet before bed and dont give her much to drink for an hour or so before bed time , when shes asleep take off her pull up or nappy and when she wakes up in the morning.... hopefully dry then make a big fuss of her that she didn't wet her bed and that shes growing into such a big girl now keep doing that for a few weeks , even months if it keeps her happy , she may suprise you and ask not to put one on at bed time

how old are the other children?? if shes the oldest then maybe she sees the others have a nappy on and doesn't see why she should be different or if shes the youngest then maybe she likes the attention it gets her, either way give my suggestion a try but again dont worry too much about it , some kids wont be dry at night even when they are 8 or 9 years old , here in England Dr's dont take it serious till they get to this sort of age

good luck :)

Answer 7

Being a middle child will give her other problems as well if you don't concentrate on her especially
Concentrate on her more than on the other two for a while, don't give her any drink two hours before going to bed , take her to the loo before you go to bed ,praise her lots and lots for being Mummies big good girl.Don't mention wet nappy in the morning.
Middle children often have problems,they are not the "big one"
nor the baby ,don't forget she was the " baby " up to seven month ago !
Don't despair, nothing lasts forever and I am sure you haven't
heard of any ten year old in nappies.
All things will happen in their own good time !
Enjoy your children they grow up so fast these days, that one day you wish they where still in nappies .
I wish your whole family ,good luck

Answer 8

You know I have known of children to be in nappies until they have been 6, and sometimes I think the nappy falls into the 'comforter' bracket. I have three children and sometimes have learnt that they grow out of these things in their own good time, as pressure can make things a whole lot worse. Try talking to her about when she gets a bit bigger and she has sleepovers at friends houses, and explain that she will have to have stopped wearing them by that time, just a suggestion, good luck.

Answer 9

don't make an issue of it, that will just make the situation worse. My son was gone 4 before he was out of nappies at night and still sometimes has an accident. There will come a time when she will not want to wear them anymore. maybe you should try asking her friends over for a sleepover, she will be too embarrassed to be wearing a nappy when they are not. She WILL grow out of it, just go with the flow.

Answer 10

Buy a matress pad and tell her she can lay a nappy by her pillow when she goes to sleep but she can no longer wear them. My son often takes strange items to bed with him like washcloths and clean t-shirts. It helps hims sleep so why complain. Though if you suggest this to her in an angry way she is more likely to rebel. Talk to her calmly and see what happens, you may be surprised. And even if she goes to bed with it by her pillow but wakes up wearing it don't make a big deal out of it. she took the first step and after a few nights or a week she will forget to put it on before falling asleep.

Answer 11

have you tried those nappies which are like pants if so try putting normal pants over the top of her nappy when she gets used to this then try taking the nappy away by showing her the empty nappy packet. or maybe wait till she is asleep and take it off while she is sleeping to keep her dry give her her last drink an hour to an hour and half before bed.