when im on the phone witha boy shell say that i have to come down stairs so she can hear me and everything i say!!! and then shell ask me a million q's on what we talked about!!! and she never beleives what i say when im telling the truth and like one time my sis was missing 50 dollars and my mom blamed me so then my sis found it and said it was in mr room and so i had to come inside...and then the next day my sis came out and said ok it wasnt in her room it was in mine so my sis says sorry and my mom babys her...what do!!! i do???
2006-08-26 06:00:47 · 19 answers · asked by daddys_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she's just doing what i normal mother would she just cares about you alot that's all.
2006-08-26 06:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Passionate 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sense I am only getting part of the story.
I am sure your mother did not just decide one day to not trust you. There had to be some underlying reasons or behaviour on your part that lead her to be a little more cautious with you.
Even though you may think your mom is being a little to invasive in your personal life, your parents do have your best interests in mind - more often than not.
I know sometimes parents REALLY are monsters, but I assume you are not being abused or having movies made with you as an unwilling participant.
I am sure that in due course your mom will start to treat you as an adult.
EVERY CHILD goes through what you are going through AND IT WILL GET BETTER. Trust me. I was in your boat once AND SO WAS EVERYONE ELSE.
I also suggest that you try to be as open as you can with your mom When you call your boyfriend, call him in her earshot. I am sure not all conversations with him have to be private and if she sees you making an effort to keep her informed she will be a little less restrictive.
REMEMBER that the phase you are going through is short and unavoidable.
TFTP
2006-08-26 13:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scream, cry, and run out of the house in a hissy fit. Make sure to slam the door. Go sleep over a friend's house for a couple days and whine and complain.
Then you can go crawling back and both of you will be sad and forgiving, and it won't solve anything at all.
Uh...
I don't know what your problem is. Maybe you dress like the Spice Girls. Maybe your sister has simply proven herself to be a better daughter for some reason.
Ask yourself if you look slutty or grungy or sneaky, even if you don't mean to be.
Ask yourself if you're selfish. Then ask other people too.
And ty and understand your sister's viewpoint.
Usually, the answer to problems with people is solved when you can understand the world from their point of view, and forget yourself for a little while.
2006-08-26 13:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by dinochirus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me when I was growing up. I got blamed for everything. My brother was younger than me so he was babied a lot. I bet you're the oldest. The pldest always seems to be the one that gets blamed for everything and has the most rules to follow. On the flip side, If your mom didn't care about you then she wouldn't show any concern for what you did. She loves you and is trying to protect you. I know it's hard, but try to understand there are a lot of things going on in the world and it scares her. Be patient, and show her that you can be responsible and maybe, slowly she will cut you some slack!
2006-08-26 13:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want anything harmful to happen to you. Why not be open and talk about your friends(boy) openly with her. Tell her where you go, what you do. Start doing this without she asking it. And as soon as you come home before she asks a q, just tell her you were out with the boy and did shop etc., You can hide a few things. But this will start making her comfirtable and over the time she will be Ok.
One thing, never raise your voice if you are asked a question. Be silent and answer. Can you do this? If you can you are a winner.
2006-08-26 13:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Narend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you only have a mom raising you,.....not that it matters. Parents are that way,....I used to make sure one of my parents was around, when I was on the phone, so I wouldn't hear the crap questions. I didn't have anything to hide, and it was important that me, my sister, and parents don't have trust issues. Have you ever done something, that your mom felt betrayed or lied to? Now, about your sister,.....when my sister and I were younger, she was always 'the perfect child',.....and in reality she 'was' the good kid. Or course I resented her,...but later in years, I realized it was not her fault,....parents are not supposed to show bias to there children, although some do. You might want to have a talk with you mom. Is she approachable?
2006-08-26 13:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesn't trust you because she's worried that you are exposed to things that are inapropriate for kids like myself. I'm 14 and my mom does the same to me... Always wants to know everything so she knows I"m not into anything. There's nothing you can really do except tell teh truth all the time until she trusts you fully.
2006-08-26 13:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your phone conversations outside on the cell phone. I think you should be allowed to talk to whomever you like. But make sure don't give your mom a good reason to be sceptical about you. Also, cook for your mom or something and tell her you love her- maybe she's really just reaching out to you.
2006-08-26 13:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by x-a-n 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
same situation, my mom babys my sis to, thinks that she never does anything wrong when in reality she does, i got punished for doing bad when i was her age, ive never seen her get a TRUE punishment yet. Just man up and tell your mom "if you cant respect what I say, that it is the truth than the relationship is gone" and as far as your sis, word of advice, it will never change til u beat her ***
2006-08-26 13:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
moms have such a stressful job raising kids especially daughters if you are a teenager that's even harder i have 3 teenagers to deal with and its not like I'm snoopy but i just love my girls and its my job to keep them safe and keep and eye on the boys so give her a break she is only doing this cause she loves you hang in there it gets better in time
2006-08-26 13:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by satingold2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry dear there is no Mom in this world who hates her child, she loves you very much and the reason for her introspection is just because she is worried about you and she is scared due to increasing crime.
2006-08-26 13:05:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋