why does it seem that guys only want to go out with really skinney girls who treat them like crap when they know (weather or not they would admit it) that they deserve better....I mean whats wrong with someone who isnt skinney and would never hurt the one that they love?? I mean just because someones not a size 0 that doesnt mean their lazy and stupid....I mean everyone deserves a chance to be loved and respected but when guys dont even pay attention to us "curvey" women it makes us feel like we are worth nothing sometimes....Why dont guys realize that there is good and everone and everone is nice and sweet and caring in their own way...It is sorta of sad that guys are that dumb, well most guys anyhow....I mean i know some of you are going to think that this is out of anger or something else but i am truely just curious...some of you may even think that i have low self esteem or something like that but the truth of the matter is, is that i think im pretty and fun to be around...
2006-08-26 05:56:25 · 34 answers · asked by *lonely one* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just dont understand why guys dont like bigger girls....and if you are a guy reading this and are think well looks dont matter then i give u aot of credit because alot of guys around here think anyone over a size like 8 are ugly horrid creatures who would be better off staying at home becuase no one wil love them anyway...but to sum up my question..it is why dont guys give girls with curves any thought of maybe being someone worth being with instead of thinking of them as fat good-for-nothings...
2006-08-26 05:59:34 · update #1
it seems like most men can't get past what they see... and i am no size 0 , but I have the man of my dreams and have been with him for 18 years, the right one is out there you just might not be looking in the right places....don't worry about what people think of you , just care about yourself and the rest will fall into place...he really is out there just keep looking.................... :)
2006-08-26 06:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by mercy me 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Blame Barbie, and the media. Then after that, maybe you should look somewhere else for a man. Not all men are after the perfect 10. I'm nowhere near a 10, but I had great relationships w/ wonderful men who had no problem w/ my jean size. Then I married one of them. Men are very visual. What they see turns them on. Who they are w/ can make or break some guys. Some guys need a "perfect 10" to feel better about themselves, no matter how they get treated. Some guys hook up w/ the "siz 0" to make they're friends go "DUDE, SHE'S HOT" Some guys dont look above the neck line.
You might be pretty and fun to be around, but it seems like your after someone who might not be turned on by your type. Nothing wrong w/ being friends.
2006-08-26 06:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by firecracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the guys get older they realize that the emotional maturity and personality of a woman are just as important as physical beauty.
But, we have to start with what we can see first. Therefore when we see an attractive, slim woman we know from the get go she takes pride in the way she looks.
Not to say I am attracted to this type of woman, because I'm not.
I like a woman to have some meat on her bones. Women who weigh 100-120 lbs tire out way to fast for me. Give me a firm sturdy woman of 125-150 lbs and I'll show you woman who can go all night.
2006-08-26 06:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the immature ones think like this. Once a man matures - he will go for "mind over matter". If you take care of yourself and dress nicely - the great majority of men see past a few extra pounds. My very handsome husband divorced his skinny, cute little wife who is ten years younger than me. I was jealous of her for a while until he told me he didn't even notice how pretty she was on the outside because she was so ugly on the inside. Hang in there. You WILL meet someone who appreciates you for the person you are.
2006-08-26 06:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me say this it depends on guys point views,u see the core of the soul is the face and eyes so i like girls that have a special eyes and face that is me and personality is a must ok so if she is a little fat or even so fat that don't mean that her brain is fat or anything i had lots of gf that they r let me say have extra weight but we had lots of fun times with each others even we laughed like i've never laugh before in that way so it is something that guys always forget taht in a time they have some weight and girls always neevr loks about that and hang with them or am i wrong so if girls don't look bad to weighty ppl and men i do same and i never measure the beauty with the looks ever anyway it is persoanlity.
2006-08-26 06:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by joe m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that during school years, boys act much differently than they do after they mature. Unfortunately with men that I have met, maturatation doesn't come even after high school. When young, I think boys and girls do whatever their peers are doing. In high school it was hard to figure out who I was as a person, and I dated all sorts of losers. Being skinny doesn't make teenage life easier, it just makes it different. In the long run, it sounds like you have high self -esteem and think much of yourself which is of ultimate importance.
2006-08-26 06:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by melissa6119 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an older guy let me say: I have no interest in skinny girls they do nothing for me. However I do not approve of obese ones either. When little boys grow up they will realize that 9 out of 10 skinny chicks are in the ME generation!!!! like Paris, Nicole, etc. I hate to see them on TV or even here anything about them. They make me SICK!!!
2006-08-26 06:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Weatherman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U just have to find the right guys. I'm not a skinny girl, but I'm not that big either and I don't have to worry about that. From white black etc.. and I'm a single parent, black female. For big girls guys treaat them like crap, and the skinny girls treat guys like crap. Find the right person for u, and the relationship is 50/50, Respect one another and all that comes wit it.
2006-08-26 06:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Boo Boo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been thru this. Hon,a lot of MEN,not boys-like Big Beautiful Women(BBW).Look at Queen Latefa! and Oprah!Even Kirstey Alley! Hang in there or look to more mature guys.Most important is to just be yourself.
2006-08-26 06:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by Maw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guy`s see curvy or thin women as a status symbol,like a new car to show off to all the friend`s,and they treat them like crap out of disrespect,a childish behavior.to me a thick woman has a better personality,a sweeter disposition,very pretty faces,and are fun to be with
2006-08-26 06:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by krusty_blue_spaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋