My ex said, "I want you to be my wife & if you can't be my wife then I want you to be my best friend."How can we be best friends if he's not willing to stop trying to have sex w/ me?I don't want sex.I just want a friendship.We've told each other so much & became very close.We said stuff that we've never told anyone else.We trust each other not to tell other peeps what we said, even when we broke up.I don't wanna tell my fam that we're hanging out cuz if they tried to call me & couldn't get a hold of me, they'd prob figure out that I'm hanging out w/ him.I wouldn't mind so much if he'd stop trying to have sex w/ me!He asks me if I've met anyone but I say no cuz I haven't.I don't wanna lie bout it either as someone suggested.Why can't he get the hint that I'm not interested in him sexually?When I left his place this morning neither one of us said anything.I'm afraid of losing him as a friend. I knew he'd be friends w/ me after 2 mos of no contact. We don't have many friends either.
2006-08-26 05:50:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't watch tv. Esp Seinfeld. That show sucks !!! So I have no clue what you're talking bout. Serious answers only PLEEEEASE !!! :(
2006-08-26 05:55:52 · update #1
And wipe that smile offa your face when insulting. It's not funny. He's da jerk for even TRYING to have sex w/ me !!! Even after I keep on telling him NO !!!! I have my phone set to ring only once b/f they get the voice mail.
2006-08-26 05:57:19 · update #2
I'm not flirting w/ him or leading him on @ all. He's tryna force me to have sex !!! What do I do bout THIS ??? :( I know that I shouldn't be spending da night...How I end up spending da night is by him renting movies & then I'll end up falling asleep. When I fall asleep he usually doesn't do anything. He doesn't wake me up or anything. Just lets me sleep. When we wake up in the morning he usually has to get up to get ready for work. He doesn't work today so I dunno when/if he's gonna call me. He'll prob go to the vendor & go buy some beer. That's one of the major probs that we had in our rel to begin w/. He has a disease. I don't need an alky. I want to write him a letter. Do you think that if he read it over & over that it'd have a greater impact on what I said ? Or would it be better if I said it face to face ?
2006-08-26 06:07:56 · update #3
We had sex bout only 2 or 3x in the past mo or so. I know that I wanted it once for sure. Also, if I don't really enjoy sex, how can I enjoy it ? It's so hard to meet peeps.:( Let alone meet a great guy. I met a guy last yr & I kinda like him. I liked him when I was going out w/ my ex but I stopped phoning him. I was going out w/ my ex for 1.5 yrs. How long do you think a person should wait b/f pursuing another rel ? Again, we became best friends. I became really close w/ him & ONLY him. If I'm considering moving to the city, do you think that it's best to stay single til I move ? I don't wanna stop being friends w/ my ex either... I figured we might have to be friends til one of us was seeing someone. If that were the case, none of this woulda been happening cuz he believes that neither of us should cheat on whoever we're seeing.
2006-08-26 06:13:19 · update #4
Our b-days are coming up. Oct 10th (me) & Oct 14th (him) Do you think that it's ok for us to buy each other stuff ? He wants to buy me a sex toy :s I don't think that that's appropriate cuz a) I don't want him sexually, b) we aren't together c) those toys are pricey & I'm not willing to spend a whole lot on an ex.
2006-08-26 06:16:57 · update #5
1. quit hanging out IN HIS place. A guy has a hard time believing a girl is not interested in going to bed, if she is in the privacy of HIS bedroom. So get rid of the setting.
2. See him in public, and continue the friendship. I think ex's can be frinds, and should be friends, if they ever were friends. But you had a sexual relationship; he may never fully understand why that, too has to stop, and won't, until you get out of his pad!
2006-08-26 05:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course ex-lovers can be best friends!
any1 can!
but have u tried to directly tell him upfront
"we are only friends and nothing more, and if u keep persisting me to have sex with u then we wont even be that. Are we clear?"
It should work pretty well...
Then again whats wrong with having sex with him once but make it really uncomfortable for him and he will stop.
2006-08-26 06:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and let him have the opportunity for a relationship with someone who does want him sexually. If he spends all his time with you, how is he supposed to do that. You can be friends in a few years when you both have your lives together.
2006-08-26 05:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop having sex with him, don't hang out together and move on(find a new guy to date)! he will get the message !
2006-08-26 05:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes but probably not with this guy. If you are not interested in having sex with him and he continues to harrass you about it then he is only interested in the sex not you.
2006-08-26 05:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by jgreaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u left his place this morning are u spending the nite bad idea do u flirt with him lead him on in any way if u are stop it. that just leading him to beleave u are interested in that way.
2006-08-26 05:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my ex will not have sex with me,I get angry,I need to be able to go back and get some.
2006-08-26 05:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you sort of want the Elaine and Seinfeld relationship?
2006-08-26 05:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Fashionvista 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well ide make it clear you want notihng from him other than being friends,if he dont like that go on with your life good luck
2006-08-26 06:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, try & talk & explaining to him what u feel & tell him straight up!!! I know its not easy but if u don't tell him things can go worst!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-08-26 05:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by solymar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋