my bf drank for the first time n same nite on phone he started rebuking me said many bad things to me..n insulted me for wat i m for no gud reason..n his statements made me cry a lot..next morning he said sorry..as he himself dint remembr wat trash he said. but wat to do with his thoughts about me that he told me on call...really trustless n unworthy thoughts...wat shud i do with him..i love himn he too
2006-08-26 05:44:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U could give him a second chance but I suggest he stops drinking. Tell him to cos if it becomes a habit, love won't be enough and if he doesn't listen, frankly, he doesn't deserve u.
2006-08-26 05:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by D Gyroscope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him... Work on communication. Talk it out. If he's drunk all the time... Drop him like it's HOT. That drama never ends. If he loves you as much, he'll give up the bottle becasue of what it turns him into. It's a substitute for something missing. No one NEEDS to drink... it's usually an escape of one type or another. And, however hurtful all those things sounded, it is a reflection of his true feelings... don't just dismiss everything. If some truths were spoken... talk about them. He may really be trying to seek help on some items. Respect is the key. You or he can say anything for feel, however... it must be for the common good. Not just to put somebody down. Love is the stage. Make sure you stay on it. Even if mad. Nuff said. Caz.
2006-08-26 12:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by casual247 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well now you know how he feels..... Do you want to go out with someone that feels that way about you? And if it was his first time drinking then maybe he shouldn't do it anymore. I'm 38, and I know that when a guy gets drunk and tells you what he feels...whether it's good or bad, it's his true feelings. You have to decide what you need to do, and don't let your love for him cloud your judgement. Just keep in mind what he said to you. If you decide to stay with him then get use to hearing "sorry" and "I didn't mean it" all the time. Good Luck Sweetie
2006-08-26 12:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. No matter what the situation he has no right to say anything degrading to yo uno matter what. I wouldnt put up with that crap. Most people reveal their true feelings when drunk, so obviously thats how he really feels. There are plenty of guys out there that would wiling to treat you much better.
2006-08-26 12:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by agraat23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you know what he REALLY thinks of you, be happy for that!
Drunks will often spill what they think because the inhibitions are gone.
Unless you like being abused, drop him like a hot rock...
And him not remembering? BS. It's the easy way out, since he doesn't have to defend, what he claims not to remember.
2006-08-26 12:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Mary, I was sooooo drunk last night I have no idea what I did!
Yeah. Ok. Accept that and you get what you deserve.
2006-08-26 12:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth comes out when you drink he probably meant all of those things I think you should dump him
2006-08-26 12:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the idiot
love is better the second time around and the third and the ..........................
2006-08-26 12:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by dandee4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him wat he said and ask if he really meant it. if u dont trust his answer then break up.
2006-08-26 12:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋