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I believe that you need to get out of this one

2006-08-26 05:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by proud of it 4 · 3 1

Well, you can't get them to behave because she's the mom after all. What you can do is patiently explain to her how their behavior impacts both of you and also that if she doesn't get a handle on them now (depending on their ages), they can only get worse.

But try to be nice! Give her examples of what you mean and maybe when you're out somewhere point out to her the difference between her kids and some well-behaved ones you see.


Good luck w/this! If she cares about peace in the family, hopefully she'll realize you only mean well.

2006-08-26 05:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1 1

If the children are not behaving when they are around you then talk to her about this when you are in a non-emotional place.

Ask her if she wants to do some parenting work - taking a class - reading a book. Empathize, this is a difficult job.

You cannot make them behave but you can treat them with respect and dignity in your home and ask that they do the same.

2006-08-26 06:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1 1

Talk with your girlfriend about the problem. She should be able to set the groud rules on how her children are disciplined. If she is not willing to work with you I would find a new girlfriend. This situation will only get worse as the time goes by.

2006-08-26 05:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Steven D 1 · 2 0

They are not your kids but that does'nt mean you don't have the right to discipline them.This does not mean you have do spank them or be mean.Try time out, if they are older try taking things from them that they really like and making them earn them back.You are an adult you should be aloud to correct any child when they are wrong regardless if they are yours or not.If u care about them you will help teach them when they r wrong and praise them when they r right.She is the mother and this is one of the most important jobs of being a parent,teach her this also.If u do not feel like any of this is worth your time then do not be w/her.

2006-08-26 07:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by hotmama 3 · 1 1

Try to talk to her about this. It can become a real problem between you two if something doesn't happen about it. There not your kids, but it doesn't mean when your around they shouldn't mind you (unless you are mean) she needs to teach them to show people respect. There's nothing worse than to be around uncontrollable kids it makes everyone life miserable. Maybe you need to look at the far down the road picture and see if its worth the relationship. Good luck :)

2006-08-26 05:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by hollie 3 · 1 1

Step in and be firm. Take the leading role, she should make an effort to back you up though. It's tough when dealing with someone else child. I deal with a 4 year old stepson. I am stricter than my husband is, but when I tell him to do something, my husband does back me up which is nice.

2006-08-26 05:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 2 0

Obviously your girlfreind has read Dr.Sears parenting Bible. You must not question the judgement of Dr.Sears and his infinite wisdom. Lie to a shrink and tell him you have panic attacks and get yourself a script for valium if this girl meas that much to you, and you desire to put up with her ill-mannered spawn just to get some booty. This is the only way you can survive with Dr.Sears' parented type kids. Oh, and hope that relationship works out. Wow.

2006-08-26 05:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 · 1 2

You can't really, if she doesn't make them behave, she isn't going to want you to try to discipline them either, Besides if they don't listen to her they won't listen to you either. Your best bet is to get out of that relationship.

2006-08-26 06:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0 1

I wouldnt touch that with a ten foot pole. They are her kids, not yours. You're just asking for trouble if you step in as their disciplinarian. I know it dont seem right, but thats often how it ends up being.

2006-08-26 06:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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