What's a good way to get the point across to him?

Question

I met a guy online a couple months ago and we have went out a few times. He seems interested in me as we talk every night for hours. He is a cheapskate and that bothers me though. However I am in a situation tonight where I will have a lot of difficulty getting home from work and it's too late and dangerous to walk or take the bus and I have no one to ride with. I will have to take a cab and with road closures my 7 dollar ride will probably cost 20 dollars because of several detours and the traffic. I have mentioned this to him hoping he might offer to give me a ride, and I would give him gas money if that is an issue. He keeps making jokes about it and how he is going to get stock in the taxi company and says "boy sounds like you are going to have a challenge getting home tonight" I am going to mark him off my slate but I want to leave him with something to think about, what is a good sarcastic way to do it but in subtle way too?

Answer 1

Before I get started, I'd like for you to read the entire thing.. It is personal, because your last question was a bit offending-- As for the rest of your questions-- They all have to do with people giving you this, or giving you that-- or getting something for "free."

What's up with that? Are you really for dating, or are you for all the "free" goodies?

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Are you sure you aren't using him? If I was dating you, and I knew this, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with you.

I'd pick you up, and take you home, but that'd be that. A cheapskate huh? Maybe he's having a hard time.. I know I am. Just because I don't make enough, but work my *** off-- sometimes being a cheapskate is the best thing available. If not the only.

You have lost track and are taking for granted what you have.--- Why is a 700 dollar purse acceptable or 1300 dollar purse acceptable, but a 70,000 dollar car not?

That third answer on your last question was a solid point. Then again, so was the second... The first answer came from a chick-- probably like you. I don't like judging, but you have the style as if you're wanting to date a bank account--- not a man. And... lady, "young-lady," I've done my research on you... Your questions say it all...

What I can't fathom, is...how... but..

....But, why try to look into the financial details of an individual's life? If they are experiencing trouble, and you care about them, at least as a friend, try to understand it, rather than insulting.

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I only found this question because I was going to want to email you and try to get to know you, etc... But, then I read on your last question that you thought it was silly that the guy, that "walked funny," had a really nice car...

Well, I'm disabled...and perhaps he hurt himself in a war, like myself? Like I said, you have taken for granted many things that those who sacrifice themselves for you to live this way, fight to uphold.

Can we say selfish?

--Rob

I could go on forever and ever about you.. You make me sick.. and since I've been recalled to military duty, you help me vent my anger-- Thank you..

The Hurricane Katrina question of your's? You asked why are we still giving them aid, why do they get things for free, etc.... And how you're sick of it?

Would you be sick of men not paying for everything you have... It churns my tummy just thinking about how much you get for FREE from men, and then turn around and ditch 'em cus they wouldn't buy you THIS or THAT or THIS AND THAT!!

Get real.. Get your own damn job-- Buy your own sh!t!! Stop *****'n, and grow up! Gain some responsability, and set some goals-- real one's... Work up to them-- it takes time. Perhaps you'll feel special and post some answers that will make someone's day, rather than kill people with your narrow-minded questions involing your so called, horrible "dating life."

Christ-- be glad you have a dating life.

I see you're pretty active in the immigration forum... Personally, you remind me of illegals-- how they "freeload."

Oh.. By the way-- I live in Houston as well... If you'd like to talk, feel free to email.. I promise I won't go off like I have-- but, for real.. I'd like to become your friend, so I can teach you a little bit about life.

Is that too much to ask for?

Answer 2

What do you like about him???
There obviously must be something there if you talk to him for hours every night.
You have called him a ‘cheapskate’…
Have you considered the possibility that he just might not have any money…
Perhaps he used what money he had, taking you out when he did, and trying to give you a good time.
It is all well and good that you offered to reimburse him gas money, but if he hasn’t got any money to buy fuel, and his tank is nearly empty, then there isn’t much he can do to help you.
Perhaps his jokes are just a way for him to hide the embarrassment of not being able to help you.
Why are you having difficulty getting home from work ‘tonight’ as opposed to any other night?
What is wrong with you asking your boss for an advance payment to help you get home?
Why is it OK for you to be financially restricted, but not alright for him to be?

What do you want from him?
Do you want him as a ‘friend’ or as a ‘bank account’???
You have a job… You earn money… Accept responsibility for your own financial situation, without laying it on to him.
Don’t make yourself sound like a user!!!

Answer 3

I'm not in favor of being intentionally mean or rude to anyone, unless they start it first. Life is too short to be mean to others. This guy in insensitive; on the other hand he lives 30 miles or more away, right? If so, he has good reason for not volunteering to pick you late at night. I'd just tell him honestly why you are not going to end the relationship.

Answer 4

baby girl, i only know sharp and to the point comments. "you must have lots of money by making diamonds from coal from your a$$". " i saw a penny a week ago down by main and fifth st. hurry, it might be there". "your mom must be so proud, to see her son split a penny" "do you pack lunch to go on a date?". "is it coupon clipping night again?" "f you and f your underfed donkey". " hey, there's a website that teach you how to make ethenol, but that's for cheap people, why don't you give it look".

Answer 5

Just call him a cheap bastard, and tell him you'd rather risk taking the bus or walking then getting a ride from an inconsiderate tight wad like him.

Answer 6

Any man who makes lite of your safety is no man at all.

Forget about him. I'll give you a ride.

As far as making a point, tell him you fell in love with your cabby.....lol

Answer 7

just say ha ha ha thats real funny its not like you couldnt use the gas money so pick me up

Answer 8

Thanks for the offer for that ride or maybe he was waiting for you to ask him.//////