i am a shy person, but confident in appearance and personality. when i see a woman i would like to ask out, i back down and don't ask for the fear of rejection i guess. i would probably pass out from nervousness too. what is the best way of getting over this? i am recently divorced. i also think alot of people face this when married for a long time and thrown back out there to date. things change since school! i am hoping that the answers i get aren't just to bite the bullet and ask them out, but that seems to be the most logical answer too. also, what should a person say when approaching?
2006-08-26 04:50:29 · 8 answers · asked by WTF1029 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just answered your own question... be direct BUT POLITE. good luck.
2006-08-26 04:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try activities that you need a partner for. Tennis, salsa dancing classes, fuseball, etc. Maybe there are some places you would like to go try, like a new restaurant, or a dinner theater. When you are intrugued with a woman, tell her that you have a thing to go do, and you would love it if she were to join you. Having some activity to go do takes the pressure off yourself and her, and the uncomfortable awkwardness of sitting with someone and worrying about what they are thinking......if you are actively doing something that requires joint effort (salsa dancing) then you are fucused on the task at hand, not how you look to her. Do that before taking her to dinner.
Don't ask women out too soon, before having conversation with them. If they think you only want to take them out because you like what they look like, they will assume you just want to get into their pants. Make sure that they think you appreciate their company and that is why you are taking them out. Make sure they know you are interested in how they think, and you care about their feelings.
2006-08-26 05:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think before like the 1950, women weren't aloud to ask men out or call them. It was the man duty to chase the woman whom he wanted to date. But now times have changed for a man and a woman to ask each other out on dates.
2016-03-17 02:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to just do it. Remember that the person you are asking out is no better than you...don't be arrogant, but feel confident that you deserve this date. I've always been shy, but lately I'm comfortable in my own skin. But start out with conversation...make you and the woman feel comfortable and just casually suggest going for a bite to eat sometime. Ask her where she enjoys going and what she likes to do...when she says a place, just tell her maybe you two could go together sometime...you could say,"Oh, that sounds nice. I've never been. Perhaps you could go with me sometime and let me check the place out". Does this help more than just telling you to bite the bullet? lol....hope I helped...good luck
2006-08-26 04:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by shynomore 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and flirt a lot. Just flatter her and don't worry about getting rejected. Even if u do say something wrong or she rejects u, just think of it as more experience and don't make the mistake again. Im sure any woman would like to go out with u, as u seem very sweet!
2006-08-26 04:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u cant be confiedent in appearance and personality and be shy.
its not possible and women know ur shy when u take a step in the room. u dont have to bite the bullet. if u like her tease the crap outa her. but dont be too mean. if she says ur mean but u can tell she likes it keep goin. dont forget to be funny. if she says ur mean and means it like seriously say something like "ur cute when ur mad".
2006-08-26 04:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by latino 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO not ask her , let her ask you out if you r smart enough u csn drag the girl to ask you out ...
2006-08-26 04:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by RABDXB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it, do you want to be single all of your life?
2006-08-26 04:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask and be you... no pretensions
2006-08-26 04:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋