Is it me or do most, if not all, men want to talk about sex with a woman they just met?

Question

It seems that every time I meet a guy via personals and once all the general knowledge questions are answered, like do you have kids, what kind of music do you like, etc etc, the conversation inevitably turns to sex. Questions like what are you wearing, do you like ________(fill in the blank). Is it me? Id just like to start a relationship that doesn't start out based on sex, but it seems that men are more interested in whether or not you are going to be good in bed as opposed to whether or not you have other things in common. Thoughts and/or advice appreciated. Ive been out of the dating scene for so long, I really don't know what is normal and what isn't anymore.

Answer 1

It's called the animal instinct vs morality.

Most of the men are constantly thinking of how to get the female talking to them to bed after the conversation. But they also know chances of that happening takes time longer than how they happened in the movies. So,dirty talking comes in to replace the sex part,so they feel good for achieving something at least.

For me,I do my fair share of dirty talking as well,but only subtly and at the right time.Sometimes a witty and dirty joke does spir up some laughter and lighten up the moment.

It really depends on who you talk to really and where is the location you are having that conversation. Mood and ambience do affect one's mind and speech.

Have a good day ahead! (^_^)

Answer 2

I've been on personals for a week now and haven't had most conversations turn this way. The ones that did were the guys that saw my regular profile in the Member Directory - so I took that out. Here's the page - http://members.yahoo.com/
on the right, click"view my profiles", and see what information is public. You can also check the box to hide your online status - which won't change what appears within personals.

I also set up a secondary Yahoo! ID/ email address - it's free - to use just in personals. Here's that link: http://edit.yahoo.com/config/list_alias?.src=ym

I also was detailed in my profile about what I'm looking for. So when a guy does approach the subject too quickly, I tell them straight that I don't want casual sex, I want a long-term relationship, and that if they're looking for something else to leave me alone.

But I was wondering how to bring up the subject myself; in terms of health issues, as well as finding out if we'd be sexually compatible without having to actually get that involved first.

And to the guy below that said "with good sex everything else will work its way out?" NOT TRUE. My ex and I had AMAZING sexual chemistry, in addition to some other shared values and interests - and we both agreed that the sex was the glue that held us together for almost 7 years; but in the end, other issues, especially his irresponsibility and insecurity, took their toll anyway.

Answer 3

No not all men talk about sex. Think about where you meet these people - personals. 50 percent are not looking for a relationship just sex. Good luck finding the other 50 percent. By the way I would only iniate talking of sex just to know how the woman feels about it. Lets me know if she can handle me :P
but that is usually after I have been talking to her for a week or so that way I know whether or not she would be offended by talking about it.

Answer 4

I think the younger the man the more likely you are to be right on this one. As you get older and have gone through more relationships you realized just how important it is to find someone who shares your values.

The truth when it comes to romantic relationships is that it needs to be balanced between sexual attraction and some sort of connection. Without the sexual part you might as well be friends. There is nothing wrong with friends but the context of a relationship needs to be known.

Answer 5

Because men online aren't within smacking reach so they figure they can get away with it. Not many would actually have the courage to ask the same question in a one on one situation that early in the game unless they were just disgusting male chavenistic pigs. The next time some guy asks you about your sexual preferences tell him he just ruined any chances he had with you.

Answer 6

some men talk about it all the time so it not just you. i my case i work with a lot of men and very few women, the men i work with and hang out with talk about everything but mostly sex, i think that they are tring to impress someone on account of how small they are in areas

Answer 7

yea sure, not all da men wanna talk bout sex, it's like a list of things that u wanna do with a women, sex is a part of the list u know, but yo right that almost , almost every men wanna talk bout sex with the women juss met (human nature) . . . but trust me not everyone . . .!!

Answer 8

Yeah i think it is pretty much like that.
I love to meen new people and chat online, but alot of the guys just want sex talk.

Answer 9

With good sex everything else will work itself out. Or maybe you are looking for more than they are. Make sure that you make that you don't entertain their ideas. If you play with a dog he will lick you in mouth.

Answer 10

Check this out-- I wasn't even at a personals site, I WAS PLAYING SCRABBLE online, and dude is like--so, "what are you wearing?"
IT'S SCRABBLE. I said ( for shock value and to amuse myself at his expense) ," a Ballgag and a Strap-On---why do you ask?" Then he got all flustered, asking me if I I fantasized about chicks ....I told him to grab a towel and a can of Crisco,...I didn't have time for his desperation--Pretty sad.