How do I get my 2yr. old to stop saying shut-up & Ship (with a T) ?

Question

My little boy brenson is 2 yrs. old and he says shut-up all the time and now says shi*. Now i know he didn't come up with this on his own. He heard it from his Dad and I. But I can't get him to stop. I have tried time outs. I have tried pop-in him in the mouth (no I don't beat my child). But nothing works even though we have stopped saying those words. He continues all the time. I need some help . Anyone have any idea's?

Answer 1

This is going to sound odd, but just don't react. He did it at first because he was copying what his parents did. Now, you make a big deal out of it, and he enjoys that (pop in the mouth notwithstanding). The novelty will wear off. Use different funny, nonsensical words in place of swearing like you used to, and he'll pick up on that. My son yells "beans!" when he gets upset. No one is the wiser.

Answer 2

First you need to change your own habits in front of the child. Popping his mouth is not an option! Sometimes even if you have stopped saying these words your son will continue to say these words, to see what your doing. He's getting into that age where children try their limits. Sometime just ignoring can do the trick,Since he won't get the attention it brings.
Especially when you punishing him you'll need to be consequent!!!!!!!!
Sometimes a little vinegar on his mouth will do the trick too!

Answer 3

I have raised three sons, all of which had this same problem. The first I worked very hard to stop it . The second I was just persistent. And the third I just ignored the behavior and refused to reinforce it with a reaction. I must say I had the least amount of trouble with the last and the most with the first. My suggestion is to ignore it and don't show any reaction at all when he swears. I would assume if you had the same reactions when he said bubble gum then he would recognize the reinforcement of your behavior and say it all the time.

Good luck, I know it is frustrating but it will soon go away and you will chuckle at the memory.

Answer 4

He knows that by doing this he is getting the best of mom and dad. Kids are smarter than we think they are. When he says this, dont get mad, dont laugh, dont raise your voice, dont do anything. This will let him know that it isn't getting to you anymore. He will stop and use other words, but be sure this time, they are good words he hears from you guys. Every child goes through the swearing process, its just normal. Be patient, it will go away. It doesn't make you a bad parent, it makes you become a better one. If he says it in front of other adults and they say something to you, defend your child and laugh it off and tell them your child is not perfect that theirs probably do worse.

Answer 5

Explain to little Brenson that it is not appropriate and/or not nice to speak like that. That Mommy and Daddy used to use these words and that they were wrong, so they will stop saying them if he does also. Perhaps have some type of reward system, ie: Brenson gets a treat or some type of bonus if he can go a full day without using these statements. It's hard to break a child of such things after they have witnessed it but not impossible. Best of luck in having your son stop talking like this.

Answer 6

at 2 he is too young to understand that there are good words and bad words. To him, a new word is an exciting thing, regardless of the meaning. I'm glad you have cleaned up your language around your child, that's the first step. When he says these words, don't freak out., just ignore it. He will do anything to get attention, even bad attention (that's just how kids are) Instead of punishing h for the bad words, praise him when he uses now words appropriately. Say for example, he says please with out being prompted, you say "oh thank you so much for saying please!! It makes mommy so happy that you talk like a big boy!!" eventually the bad, ignored words will drop out of his vocab. And if he says them in public, most parents will understand. Every kid goes through this.

Answer 7

Go directly to the source. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

You shouldn't be concerned with "Shut up" as it is hardly a curse, more so a command. S***, however is not good, so try to cut out swearing in your everyday life. Try to cut out movies and television with that kind of language., and monitor the music he listens to. Remember: monkey see, monkey do.

By the way, soap is unreasonable and cruel, not to mention hazardous to the child's health. If my mother ever tried that, I'd call the CAH.

Answer 8

This is really hard because he knows that by saying those words he can get your attention. Since he is old enough for time outs, put him in a room that has no tv, games, etc. and make him stay there for 5 to 10 minutes. (my sister used to wash her daughters mouth out with face soap, it worked for her).

The other thing to try is play with him and if he says those words, stop playing with him immediately, put him in his corner, and walk away. Make sure he stays in corner.

Answer 9

First you've stopped saying those words, that's great. Now between you and your husband you need to start saying some nice words, for example: That's great! and when your child picks it up, you compliment your son on using good polite language. Simply ignore the rude words when he says it, he will stop once he can replace it with another word. Good luck.

Answer 10

Yeah Drop $50.00 Bill In Front Of DAD When He Reaches For It,Try To Kick His Rectal Area Around His Neck...GEEZ