Could my boyfriend be actually gay?

Question

I've been dating him for almost 2 years now. Our relationship has been a NORMAL relationship. Common fights and disagreements, the usual stuff.
The thing is, this year more than 3 different people (co-workers and friends with now relation between them) have told me "I think your boyfriend is kinda gay".
My personal opinion would be NO WAY. I mean, he's great to me, we have AMAZING sex everytime, he talks about marriage and children and stuff.
How can a gay man do this? I seriously doubt he's gay but when people tell u that stuff u start searching for "hidden signs"... and i haven't found any YET but what should I do, is there any way of TESTING that?

I would really appreciate the help folks.

Answer 1

I am in the same boat. Ive been with my husband for 5 years. Everyone at his work says they think hes gay. I would say no way. he doesnt act gay cause his hands are all over me all the time. So, i dont really know. but i seriously doubt it. It all matters what you think. Do YOu think hes gay?? pretend that you didnt hear anything of what anyone says. Now if he told you he was gay,would you be 100% completely surprised??

Answer 2

If he was gay he would be sneaking off to have sex with men. Does he display any behaviour which would make you suspicious he was seeing someone else? If you answer this 'no' then I think you can definitely say he is not gay as he wouldn't be able to go without seeing men if he was. He might just display a more feminine side to him than most - and there is nothing wrong with that. I, personally don't think he could be gay as I don't think he could have amazing sex with you if he didn't fancy women. Take no notice of your friends and co-workers - why are they saying things like that to you anyway. I would not call them friends as they seem to be trying to cause you hurt. Good luck and I hope you and your boyfriend will continue to be really happy together.

Answer 3

If he's in to guys also, does it really matter ? If he was turned on by guys would you no longer wanna be friends w/ him ? Seriously. Think this through. To be honest, it wouldn't bother me. As long as you have a loving rel, you can both be happy & continue to have a great rel together. Is your bf the popular type ? Does he have something that a lot of other peeps don't have ? ex. good job, good physique, etc. Maybe they're all just jealous. Or maybe they see something in him that YOU don't see. Don't break up w/ him based on rumors. Maybe you should let him know that rumors are going on bout him. I hope that this doesn't ruin your rel w/ him.

I know of a guy who was tryna pick up a girl but a guy told a girl not to talk to him & the girl was like, "Why?" The guy said a guy's name... Apparently he put his foot in the guy's crotch. The girl didn't talk to him again. BUT, this was also @ a bar & he was really drunk. Guys who are turned on by other guys usually like girls too. It's the same w/ females. In to guys also.

Good luck on your decision.

Answer 4

Have you ever heard of the "downlow"?

Basically it's generally straight heterosexual men that likes to have sex with other men. Call it gay,bisexual, or whatever you want to, but it exists. The majority of the men seem to be your everyday men, the ones you'd never think that about. However, some men who have came out about it won't say that they're gay, or bisexual, but would rather call themselves freaks. "A man knows what a man wants" is what one guy said. No emotions, no ties, just catching that "release" ( keep it clean). Do some research on this online, whatever.

If you really wanna know just ask him. He may be offended, but you'll never know unitl you ask or find out too late.

Answer 5

Other people's opinions of your boyfriend are meaningless. What makes them experts on sexuality? And what makes them feel they have a right to pass opinion on his? Ignore them and avoid them as they seem intent on causing trouble for you. And don't start 'testing' him. You won't get any answers that way. If you really feel you need to know, ask him outright. It might end the relationship, however (whether he is or isn't gay) so you need to be prepared for that.

Answer 6

we employ a guy who is gay and he had a relationship with a girl for 3 years, and hated sex etc the female body was a real turn off to him. I think if ur guy is totally into u sexually and spiritually, then hes probably just a metrosexual. I know a guy who isnt gay and is very metro but totally into chicks....its easy for people to judge others but u have been with him for 2 years so u know him better than they do.

Answer 7

It depends what their reasons are for saying that. There are plenty of gay men who can happily sleep with women and get married etc. I don't think you can `test' it but I do think it would be a good idea for you to talk to him about what people are saying about him, so he can defend himself. It may also allow him the opportunity to talk.

Answer 8

Well, dont believe evrything ppl say cuz maybe he was just kidding and u know how ppl sometimes use the word gay for some other meaning not gay GAY....maybe he's just saying that he's gay cuz he did something lame or something///

Answer 9

You have already answered your question. You spend so much time with him, I think you would know better than anyone. Some men are more feminine that others. I think you should bring the subject up. Honesty is the best policy.

Answer 10

you know, is'life tough enough. you meet this guy. love him then probably there was one little thing you did'nt like so you maybe tried to change it. you say you have a great relationship, and obviously you trus each other. if being a milkman or a cowboy was a bad thing maybe you would set yourself up by listening to people who say this. then you might believe it ........ i do not think your boyfriend is gay. stay with him. believe what he says. i assume he trusts you, loves you , believes in you........not his or your friends. tom cruise is a great actor, only if you think so.