Cookie baking, homeschooling, always happy (even when coated in puked up pureed carrots and baby poop) never fussy or upset, etc? Are we supposed to just never get frustrated or even pissed at stuff our kids do? For Christs sake, I'm not saying throw the kids in a dungeon, but are we allowed to be ever disapprove of their "mural" of heaven knows what on the kitchen wall in non-erasable crayon? Everyone here seems to be this way and so quick to judge everyone else. I'm sorry, but my kids are human and so am I. When you perfect people get a spare moment, please fax me the DNA/RNA synthesis code to upgrade my own so I can be one of the Stepford Mommies too. For alas, I have miserably fallen short of perfection. I haven't baked any cookies in almost a week.
2006-08-26 04:16:09 · 13 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-08-26 04:22:59 · update #1
I yell at my kids every day, my two oldest fight like cats and dogs and I'm constantly having to play ref.
I for one am not going to act as though my life is mommy perfect. But I know what you mean about things here. I don't know why that is. People can play denial here I guess.
2006-08-26 04:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, I must be a terrible mother if use that measuring stick. I baked cookies on Friday which was the first time in months. I love my children and the school system isn't the greatest but I don't think I could ever homeschool them. Always happy? I can't even put on the act let alone be always happy.
We are moms and we are allowed to get frustrated once in a while - it happens.
I think we all would be happier if we just worried about what we are doing ourselves and not comparing ourselves to others. I hear criticism but most times I'm the worst critic for myself. Many time I hear a mom saying that she did this and that for her child and still keeps a clean house and I think I'm so terrible and lazy. HA! Then I find out she has a housekeeper twice a week and the kids spend half the day in pre-school.
2006-08-27 17:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real "Bad" mothers are the ones that neglect their kids, do drugs. My 2 year-old got a hold of a ball-point pen and decided to draw on the side of my gallon sized bottle of oil on a open shelf in my kitchen (At least it wasn't a wall!!). Getting after kids when they draw on the wall is how they learn to not do that. I drew on the side of my white dresser with crayons when I was about 3 years-old and my mom gave me some Comet, and a wet rag and made me clean it off...I never did it again. Some people think that they are just expressing themselves when they draw on the walls, but all it does it let the kid know that they can get away with it. I am a stay at home mom, but I don't always have cookies made, or the laundry done. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. I would rather spend time with my son than be doing dishes or laundry
2006-08-26 11:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to laugh at your statement. No, you are not a terrible mom. Yes you are allowed to have a bad day and be pissed off at the things your kids do. No, you shouldn't feel obligated to bake cookies 7 days a week, they'll only fatten your children up. These "perfect parents" are either living in such a dillusional world and have no control over their children or simply dont care, or they have really miserable lives on the inside and put on aires to fool everybody else. You keep on being down to earth and continue to have emotion. It sounds to me that you are more in touch with reality and your children than your "Stepford mommy" neighbors.
2006-08-26 11:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a "bad" mom. Do you feed your children, dress them in clean clothes and make sure they are clean? The house does not need to be spotless. Your kids need your love and attention more than they need home baked cookies. As long as they have that, and the basic daily necessities you're doing just fine. As for those seemingly perfect moms who are so judgemental of us normal, human moms, I say stuff it.
2006-08-26 11:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pauleen M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I hear you sister. I have to admit I fall terribly short in the stepford Mommy club. I haven't baked cookies since last Christmas, and my toilets need scrubbed. My kids get spankings and have to do chores...I'm a terrible parent!!
2006-08-26 11:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as the perfect mother- except for on TV. I know I make mistakes, and my mother made mistakes. We are not scripted. There is not a way that you can please everyone... As for cookie baking and always being happy- I think that maybe they go hand in hand LOL (always having chocolate chip cookies on hand and always having a smile.)
2006-08-27 17:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No we are not a bad moms. Who said that moms have to be perfect, I know I'm not. We make mistakes like everyone else and learn from them.
2006-08-26 23:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're human if you don't fit those cliches. If mothers were perfect TV moms, then we would be fighting WW18 by now. Unless you are starving your children, then you aren't a bad mom.
2006-08-26 13:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by noircorazon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the mom you are describing is a tv mom. I have never heard of a mom that didn't get frustrated with their kids. It is normal. We are human. I wouldn't let the tv moms make you feel insuperior. They are fake!
2006-08-26 11:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by mommato4boys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋