She got out of a long-term relationship three years ago, but is scared of the "boyfriend/ girlfriend" titles even though she already ACTS like a girlfriend.
2006-08-26 04:11:22 · 20 answers · asked by thechozynone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will take a lot of time and patience on your part. You said she acts like a girlfriend, so its not you she is afraid of. She is afraid of the pain if things don't work out. The only way she will get over that is if you are willing to take your time with her.
2006-08-26 04:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its not the commitment, maybe she isnt 100% sure your the one for her. Everyone has had a bad relationship however if u find the one, you wouldnt give it up for anything,....u would take hold of it and never let go. 3 years ago is a long time and a big excuse.
2006-08-26 11:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you sit down and talk to her about her fears? She may have had a really bad experience with the last guy. Just sit down with her, tell her how you feel about her, and ask her what's going on. Do be patient on this, though. She's got to be ready on her own. If she feels pushed at all, you'll be back to square one.
Good luck!
2006-08-26 11:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I was in something just like this except the guy i dated hadn't been in a relationship in a long time. It ended up being that he just didn't want one and nothing would change that. I would say move. Unless you want to hang around longer and get stronger feelings for her and then still in a few months she is still going to feel that way. Maybe she just likes you. Likes the fact that she isn't alone and your just fun to be with. But yet she just doesn't dig you that much to call you bf. I really think it's because she just doesn't like you that way. But she likes to be with you.
2006-08-26 11:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably doesn't want to get hurt anymore, and that is why she is reluctant to get into another committed relationship. Just give her some more time, but don't nag her about it. She'll come around.
2006-08-26 11:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by nooknook92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, I can relate. We girls are scared to commit into something when we don't feel secure. think you should do more things that'd make her feel secure such as introducing her to your family/relatives/friends would make her feel that you're proud of her. Or do more things that'd please her -- We girlz want to be treated like queens.And never give her any slight hint that you're havin an eye for other girls, it'll again make hwer feel insecure. Juz give her constant reassurance, perhaps one of these days she'd feel that you're really sincere w/ ur intentions & thus would make her feel secure.
2006-08-26 11:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by rock firm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time she will come around love hurts when your heart has been broken and she may be scared of a repeat,give her time you are getting along OK right now.
2006-08-26 11:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is that happened to me i was afrad to commit myself after wat happend with my last boyfriend even though i wanted the guy who thoght we were bf and gf tell her how you feel give it time for her to respond if you dont you might just loss her thats wat happened to me i told him we needed to talk and he sat down with me and before i could get a word in he told me he was alittle depressed because i was scared to commit myself to him and now im okay i have commited myself completly to him so just do what we did ok.......AND IF IM BEST ANSWER CLICK ME AS BEST ANSWER OK I NEED THE POINTS
2006-08-26 11:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by niki c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she scared of commitment because she scared of you, she's not sold out on you
2006-08-26 11:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs to have her trust build, it will take a while so if you love her you will work on it.
2006-08-26 11:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋