A guy who lives a few blocks down from me let's his son climb all over his car. On top of the roof, on the hood, and he's fallen off many times. I'm concerned that this child is really going to be hurt. The child is about 5 years old. I've said something to the father, but he's rude, and I want to mind my own business.....but I'd rather not see this child crack it's lil head open. Should I report the father? Or what else could I do?
2006-08-26 04:05:44 · 21 answers · asked by suagr_britches 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also, this father puts this child on the roof of the car for him to climb on.
2006-08-26 04:23:04 · update #1
I understand everyone saying that boys will be boys and boy climb. I also understand them climbing trees, but trees aren't surrounded by cement. At least not where I live, but the car is. And what get's me is the father actually putting him on top of the roof of the car and walking away.
2006-08-26 10:44:22 · update #2
Yeah go ahead, but the father sounds like an a--s and he will suspect you. Then he will do something very nasty to you. Something like this happened to my girlfriend and she reported the guy who stole her car and he killed her cat. Best to just say you are a teacher who lives 3 blocks down and you are concerned and let them catch him in the act. Be careful and good luck. I've see countless stuff like this and I wonder , God in my day and Im 38! Im glad I had good parents.
2006-08-26 04:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Matt M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider the long term effects on the family if you report this. I had two sons and they climbed all over the place. Sometimes they fell and came screaming "Mama. I fell" Mama cuddles them and they're back in the tree again. What would you rather do? Let the boy grow up and learn to be a young man with all the rough and tumble or forever make him sad because he lost his folks? What you perceive as being good for the boy, and with the best intentions in the world, could be the most disastrous thing you have ever done. No, leave it. There are those in our community who say "Oh Yeah" Child abuse. Rubbish. He's a normal little boy. Let him grow up happy. Don't be bitter.
2006-08-26 04:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say boys will be boys. My son is constantly climbing on things...trees, cars, tables. This child has as much of a risk falling off the car and hitting his head as he does falling out of a tree, but if he were climbing a tree, you would probably think that normal for a boy. Actually, the car is probably safer, cars are only so high, a tree can go on for many, many feet. Leave it be and mind your own business.
2006-08-26 04:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious, if the fellow allowed the five year old to climb a tree, would you be concerned?
How about if he allowed him to ride a bicycle in the street? A skateboard?
You may consider this behavior an unacceptable risk, but where do you draw the line. I doubt this would qualify as child endangerment unless of course the car is moving.
2006-08-26 04:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, stay out of it. kids, especially boys climb and there is nothing that a parent can really do to keep them from doing it. My son is 2 and he tries to climb up on the dining room table. It is just how boys are. People are just too ready to stick their nose in where it does not belong. Reporting someone for a normal childhood thing is completely ridiculous!
2006-08-26 04:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Alot of little kids climb. It isn't as dangerous as you think. Do you make your kids live in a bubble? His kid likes to be adventurous and that is deffinitly not something to get the government involved in. If the kid has been doing this for a while and hasnt gotten hurt yet, odds are, he wont get hurt. He is having fun, and his dad doesn't seem to care that he is on the car. so i really dont see the problem.
2006-08-26 08:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by kdancergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mickey. Even though the boy gets hurt, he'd probably still get hurt if he was climbing a tree or a play structure. Now, if it's the only thing you see that makes you want to report him, I don't thikn you should. If you've heard abuse or seen signs of abuse, then you should report him.
2006-08-26 04:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you would be was the car moving while the child was climbing on it?
If not maybe you ought not look out the window any more.
2006-08-26 05:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that climbing on the car is something a five-year-old is capable of handling. It's good that he's outside and not rotting his brain with endless video games.
2006-08-26 04:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lea A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the difference if he's climbing on the car or in a tree ? as long as the cars not running....if he's beating or verbally abusing the kid that's one thing....otherwise I'd stay out of it.....didn't you ever get a "boo boo" when you where a child? hell we'd ride bikes, skate...jump off swings,never wore a helmet or knee pads...no one was ever killed....guess we were a tough bunch....
2006-08-26 04:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋