My wife had our first baby 2 months ago, and she is carrying a little extra weight now, like any normal post-partum mother. But she keeps getting comments from dumb people that don't realize she already had the baby..like "You're getting bigger...", and "When is the baby due?".
It kinda bums my wife, naturally. But what should her response be? What should she say? Perhaps something witty...or something gentle...what do you think she should say?
2006-08-26 03:48:26 · 18 answers · asked by dbollard_99 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She could say - "No I'm not pregnant. The baby is X months old. But thanks for asking."
2006-08-26 03:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lil' Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to me also. I looked at the person totally dismayed, then said "Wow, I was just about to ask you the same question" That shut them up pretty quick. She could just turn around and tell them to think before they put their feet in their mouths, then give em a little nasty smirk. I think that would make them stop and realize what they said, and they;ll probably apologize. This way she can follow up with something nice like, "I'm having a really hard time taking off the baby weight, the hormones are up & down, I just want things normal & people keep coming up and asking me that question, If I hear it one more time, I'll scream !!!" Then they'll understand what's going on a little better. I can't believe anyone asks that question- It's just stupid of them!!!
2006-08-26 10:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should politely respond with the fact that the baby was born two months ago and she is still carrying some of the weight and then just as politely compliment the asker on how good a job she had done when the doctor gave her her face lift.
Congratulations on the new baby.
2006-08-26 11:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to a thyroid problem i have, i carry ALL my weight in my middle. SO when some one ignorant enough asks me when i am due...I say, Im not pregnant, just Fat, thankyou!!! This i think is a great show stopper. I think there is a lot of ignorance out there, and people really need to stop and think before they speak. I think this is a good lesson, that may make the person think the next time they want to ask someone. I NEVER ask anyone, unless, i know they are pregnant, and i if know who they are.
Dont be gentle. In my experience, the ones that are askng, are ot the sensative type, and will only respond to BLUNT reactions! They didnt try to spare your wifes feelings why shoudl she try to spare theirs?
( i swear i am not a bitter person, if thats how it comes out... i just know how she feels.)
2006-08-26 11:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by bangbanks72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she has the baby with her she can always say "The baby was born 2 months ago and here he/she is". People really should think before they speak. My cousin had put on weight, but I asked my sister if she was pregnant first, so I didn't embarrass myself. I don't ask when someone's due date is unless they are ready to pop!
2006-08-26 10:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an sometimes get this question myself. I just inform them I have not been blessed with a baby yet, or simply inform them I am not pregnate. I have also been on the other end of saying something about someone being pregnate, after I get the above mentioned, I don't ask or respond anymore unless I'm sure of pregnacy.
2006-08-26 11:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can give a sweet answer, ...like...my baby was born 2 months ago and I just have a few pounds to go....then that is the best but sadly people who mean well just don't think. We cannot buffer ourselves from comments but we can try to not hold onto the insensitive remarks. It teaches us to be more kind. A kind answer will actually help most people to think before they speak. I have said my share of unthoughtful things and the kind answers were always my best teachers.
2006-08-26 11:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not realize that your wife just had a baby. Don't take it personal Its not their intention to hurt you.If you could you might enlighten them that you recently became parents and your wife is recovering from the pregnancy. As you said people do not know your wife recently gave birth. They might just want to share the same joy as you when expecting a baby.
2006-08-26 13:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the only thing you can.She had the baby 2 months ago and that's that. People are rude an they don't care about what they say be the better person.And tell your wife welcome to mother hood she will lose the weight and she may not love her for who she is. Tell her to get comfortable with self an it won't bother her.
2006-08-26 10:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tara R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it was me I would tell the people that ask when i am due i would say about 2 months ago..how about you? I didnt have that problem though since i lost 23 lbs during pregnancy but my best friend gained about 65 lbs and for months after her son was born she was being asked those questions
2006-08-26 13:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same exact question asked of me after my baby was born...my response...
"No.. THANK GOD...I'm just fat!!" and smile real BIG.
It usually embarrassed the crap out of the other person. And they learn not to ask questions unless they are certain someone is really pregnant.
2006-08-26 10:59:32 · answer #11 · answered by LYN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋