I was dating a mexican guy for 3 months.He's about 10 yrs younger. He was telling me he wanted me to be his wife and he loved me. but i know now that was all a lie.He wanted to be in control of me. He expected me to have a hot meal cooked for him and not go anywhere with my friends or have them over. B ut it was ok for him to have his friends and go out. He thought I should stay home while he went to the bar,danced and dranked. His friends told him yesterday that i was to old for him and that i wasn"t good for him. He was cold to me lastnite he took a nap then decided he was going to the bar and me stay home. I told him wrong I wasn't going to stay I was going out to. We argued and both stayed home. He got up this morning got his few things that were here and wanted to go back to his apt. He wanted to just come over a few nites a week and be able to what he wanted to do when he wanted and told me not to come looking for him at his apt. he would call me. yea i hurt .
2006-08-26 03:46:19 · 11 answers · asked by phooh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get some confidence in yourself. It sounds like you have such a low self-esteem that you will settle for any type of relationship. Stand up like you did when you told him you were going out, too. That is the first step.
You need to be able to look in the mirror and like the person you see. That comes from being self-confident. You must do things just for yourself and learn to accept living alone. You cannot have a healthy relationship until you can live alone and be happy.
When you are content with your own appearance and life, you will have that inner confidence that attracts better people to you. As hard as this is to believe, it really is true that you cannot go out and find your perfect match. He will show up in your life when you are ready and not a minute sooner. When I least expected it mine appeared. It is worth the wait, and the time I spent working on myself and my life got me ready for him.
2006-08-26 03:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety u dont want to be in a realtionship like that. he just wants to use u. itt is better it hurts now than u live ur life with a guy like this who is too immature to make up hs mind on what he wants and his friends have to tell him what he wants to do in his relationship with u. i am sure there is a guy out there who will respect u and u will never find him if u r in a realationship with a guy who has no respect for u. pain will go away with time but if u stay with this guy ur respect will be down the drain
2006-08-26 10:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know just how you feel. I can imagine all the pain you have inside. I am also so hurt by my friend who never wants to go out clubbing or bars with me. But he wants to be with me at other times, like spending the night at my place. I think the best thing to do is break free!! good luck!
2006-08-26 10:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Spicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to evaluate the quality of men you are dating. Or maybe just stop. Being alone is not so bad. Maybe make a list of what you want in a man and another list of what is unacceptable. Don't date men who fall into the unacceptable category. And find men who are older and more mature.
2006-08-26 10:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all girls get hurt and used at one time or another. it is not always you, you just don't know about the other girls.
you need to end it if you want peace in your life. have a good talk with him and tell him how you feel. in fact, tell him what you wrote in your question.
use these negative experiences as a learning opportunity even if it cuts like a knife, you'll do yourself a big favor.
let me tell you something about guys. we don't need them to be happy until we find the right one we deserve. until then we can be happy with ourselves, family, friends, hobbies, pets, etc.
2006-08-26 11:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be hurt is part of love. But, when someone hurt purposely and wants to manipulate with you, than it is better for you to be alone.
This is big world with more than 6 billions of people... There is right guy for you. You have to believe in that. You have to believe that... what doesn't kill us, make us stronger. You will survive and become stronger after him.
There is soul-mate for each of us. Someone that will complete us. Someone with whom we can grow old. It is person hard to find, but valuable and worth of searching. So, when you find it... when you feel that it is right and that he completes you... pain that you feel now will became smoke, nothing more.
Than keep that person, because there is only one soul-mate in life.
2006-08-26 11:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by no one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor girl. u dont need him ur better than him. u deserve better than that little *** who tried to control u to make himself feel better. good riddance that he is gone. i know it hurts but it will get better and u will wonder what u saw in him and realise that u did the rite thing!! god bless
2006-08-26 10:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all I would dump him and come for me sweetie. secondly put a restraining order on him so he can't come near you. thirdly he needs to go see several drs to see what's wrong with him. email me at slightpwpog19@yahoo.com
2006-08-26 10:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by slightpwpog19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for you to get your next boyfriend. you have to believe that your are better than that and you deserve to be treated better.
2006-08-26 10:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by freeway823 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i,ve been there and still there i shut my heart down stop felling is what i,ve done
2006-08-26 10:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋